There is no Beginning of Spring in 2010. This is known as the Year of the Widow in China and is regarded as "bad luck" by those planning to get married. Of course, most of the people who believe in similar statements are from the generation of parents. They hope that their children will be happily married throughout their lives, and they cannot withstand the slightest bit of insecurity. Faced with the statement that 2010 will be the Year of the Widow, many Chinese parents are beginning to be afraid, and they are starting to A new round of "marriage rush" has begun.

Recently, readers have written in one after another. Most of them are wondering: At present, they have not made up their minds to get married, but the countdown to the Year of the Widow is approaching. Should they prepare for the so-called "auspicious wedding day"? "What about marrying in a hurry?

Reader Lingzi’s letter said: “Our parents have already arranged our marriage, and we are just waiting to go home at the end of the month to have a drink and celebrate the wedding. But I am really worried because we don’t know each other yet. By half a year, we didn’t know each other well enough, and we were living and working in two places, and we only saw each other once a week, so we had very little communication. I was really not sure about marrying such a person, but both my parents were worried. They said that our family background, education, appearance, and other conditions were all the same, and we would be a happy couple if we got married. Moreover, they thought that we were both almost 28 years old. If we didn’t get married this year, the coming year would be the Year of the Widow, and it would be unlucky to get married. If you give us time to fall in love slowly, you will have to wait at least another year, which is too wasteful. Moreover, the elderly do not pay attention to the emotional factor at all. They think that the material conditions of a couple's life are the most important. So I said. I'm very hesitant now. After all, I'm not young anymore. The longer the relationship lasts, the more variables there will be. But if I get married now, I really don't have the confidence. It would be really annoying if there was no such thing as the "year of the widow". That would be great. At least I don’t have such a mental burden."

Many women like Lingzi are troubled as the end of the year approaches: they are not about to get married, but about to be "married".

In China, there are always many people who get married in the so-called "good years" and "bad years": not because they really want to get married, but because they catch up with the Double Spring Festival and have good luck. , for this good fortune, I got married in a daze; I didn’t really think it was time to get married, but the coming year would be the Year of the Widow, which was unlucky and unlucky. If I didn’t get married this year, I would have to wait another year, so I was in a hurry. Get it done!

However, every couple who gets married in a hurry always discovers a lot of problems after getting married. Marrying for the sake of getting married always has no good results. Chinese girls who are eager to get married always get married for various reasons that have nothing to do with them: all my friends around me are getting married, so I have to get married; my relatives are urging me to get married, so I have to get married; for material reasons and luck. In that unpredictable future, I choose to take a gamble by getting married!

These people are not really getting married, but are forced to get married by the surrounding situation. As long as a woman is even the slightest bit "unwilling" about marriage, problems will eventually arise. Yes, because women are most afraid of regret and are also the easiest to regret.

Nowadays, the divorce rate is gradually increasing. It is not because of the auspicious Double Spring Festival that every couple will grow old together in harmony. Still, there are still a large number of people making trouble at the divorce registration office. One shot and two parts.

In fact, counting back a decade or so, the so-called "Year of the Widow" was not very common. Many people are wondering: Why were people not superstitious at that time, but are people becoming more superstitious as the times progress?

This shows that people in modern society are extremely insecure about feelings. At the same time, people are becoming more and more utilitarian in their approach to marriage and no longer want to take any detours.

And this mentality of eager for quick success is actually more terrifying than the "Year of the Widow", which means that once a problem occurs, both husband and wife often no longer have the determination to jointly shoulder the responsibility and solve it together. The more advanced society becomes, the smarter people become and the less reliable their relationships become. Therefore, everyone subconsciously hopes to avoid all risks as much as possible before marriage, and this is the psychological reason why the "Year of the Widow" has attracted more and more attention from people.

The key to a happy marriage between a man and a woman is to see whether both parties have truly understood what marriage is like and whether they are sufficiently responsible for life after marriage. In addition, the so-called "choosing the year to look at the weather" is just a psychological comfort. In the widow's year, it is possible that a long-lasting and loving couple will not form. To rush to get married for the sake of a good year is worse than the widow's year. Ten thousand generations of people!

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