I am a leftover woman born in the 1970s in Shenzhen. I look very ordinary, have a good job, income and education, and have a good family. My personal marriage has been delayed. Now I have a colleague who is five or six years younger than me. I am 33 and he is 28. I grew up in Shenzhen, and he went to Beijing from a small city and then landed in Shenzhen. But we get along very well, we talk very well, we have many common interests, we also like to create a circle of friends, we both like to participate in social activities, and we also have many good friends in common. He is not as "complex" as the men in their thirties and forties in Shenzhen. Although his current financial base is not comparable to mine, his career has developed very well, and his annual salary is among the best in Shenzhen. He is also the organizer of the alumni association of a prestigious university.

He proposed marriage, but I think our age difference is too big. My main concerns are:

1. There is also a gap in our appearance. After women give birth to children in the future, the gap in appearance will only get bigger. Now when we participate in activities together, I always feel that our appearance does not match well. What if I end up like an old sister leading a little brother in the future? Friends around us will also look at us with surprised and strange eyes.

2. I still have the mentality of a petite woman. I like people who are older than me, but those who are younger than me find it difficult to "like others". Is this kind of marriage model stable in the long term?

I am very confused now. Excellent men, older than me, are either married or will go to young girls. When a mediocre man gets along with me, he will feel pressured, and I also feel a little reluctant. Now this man, although otherwise quite suitable, is much younger than me. How to choose?

——Letter from a reader

Reply:

Let me tell you a few recent experiences:

1. When recording the program "Women of the World", I met an older leftover woman who was also born in the 1970s. She believed that age is currently the biggest obstacle for her to find a satisfactory marriage. Men who are a few years older than her will automatically give up on blind dates after hearing about her age. The reason is that she is a bit older. Although he is also an older man, he still hopes to find a young girl in his twenties as a companion.

2. I saw a survey data from the Academy of Social Sciences, predicting that in the next ten years, sister-brother love and intergenerational love will be prevalent.

3. The older male friends around me reiterate once again: "I like beautiful people, the prettier the better; I like young people, preferably eighteen or nineteen who are blooming."

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A few things that seem to be incompatible can actually be summed up to confirm the old saying: Young, beautiful and in good shape, men will always love you the most!

How to retain it?

Often, they will use women to retain time.

It seems that every woman agrees with the statement that "men are becoming more and more lustful". In fact, it is not only men's pursuit of sensual pleasure, but also the mentality of men who hope to always be with their youth. So, as a woman who is neither beautiful nor young anymore, but also wants to be loved by a mature and outstanding man, it seems that you have delayed yourself for a little too long...

And now this younger brother’s lover who was born in the 1980s is indeed quite outstanding. As a sister in her thirties, her ability to charm such a young elite is probably due to the “maternal flavor” in you. Young Men are obsessed with mature women, and if you give up this young man, no one can guarantee that you will be able to seduce a more mature and charming man again in the future.

I understand that you must still have the mentality of a little woman in your heart, even though you are thirty-three; in fact, I believe that every woman will have a little woman complex in her heart, even when she is seventy or eighty. However, a woman's age is the killer of the marriage price. At a certain age, a woman has to convince herself to overcome her "little woman" side.

What you should be thinking about now is: how to further maintain your youthful state, and how to keep your thoughts and conversation in line with his rhythm.

Although young men born in the 1980s cannot provide you with so much security that can satisfy you, as a woman in her thirties, it is not bad to get one. Marriage is possible, this is the last chance!

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