Turn off the lights and Ruiling relaxed. The busy day was over. She just wanted to fall asleep quickly and enter a peaceful dreamland. However, her husband beside her kept restlessly wandering and exploring her body.

"I'm so tired today!" Since becoming pregnant, Ruiling has not been interested in sexual intercourse at all. It may have been due to the joy in the early stage, but now that she is 5 months old, it should be considered sexual intercourse." "Golden Age", but her "sexual" interest remained the same and did not increase at all.

"But, I'm so sad!" Zhiyuan is a very considerate husband. Before his wife became pregnant, he rarely forced her, and sometimes even solved the problem himself, as he was too embarrassed to wake his wife in her sleep.

"I'm really sad!" Zhiyuan acted like a child. I don't know if it was a real need or a trick: Ruiling was in a dilemma. She really wanted to rest today, but she refused her husband. I can't bear it.

Is it an obligation or a right for couples to have sex?

"In the end, is it an obligation or a right for couples to have sex?" This question suddenly appeared in Ruiling's mind. What should we do if the "requirements" of the frequency of sex between husband and wife are inconsistent? If the husband and wife have the "obligation" to have sex, then they have the "right" to request sex, and more importantly, the "right" to "refuse" to have sex. "Right"? It is not obligatory for couples to have sex. If sex is just an obligation, then sex between couples will easily become a "routine".

A doctor named Wen from a certain medical school pointed out that sexual life within marriage tends to be dull, which can be said to be the normal state of human behavior. Faced with this trend, many couples will adopt certain corresponding behaviors to increase their sexual interest. Dr. Wen believes that if "blandness" means incoordination in sexual life within marriage, it is an abnormal qualitative change; at this time, if the couple cannot face the problem calmly, communicate and adjust to each other, the phenomenon of blandness may become Warning sign of marriage.

"If the incoordination of sexual life within marriage is caused by "blandness", try to cultivate the interest in married life. Learn new sexual art, such as changing into a set of sexy pajamas, occasionally spending the night outside, or Trying a breakup is better than getting married. Modern people have their own ways to "save" their dull sex life.

However, for the party who is not worried about the "blandness" of sex life, but can't stand the "frequent" sexual intercourse with "climaxes", do you have the right to refuse? Both spouses have a need for "frequency" of intercourse. Differently, you really cannot blame or blame your spouse. If the wife has the right to refuse sex, the husband also has the right to "demand" it.

We often say that men pay attention to the direct meaning of a sentence in communication, while women tend to listen to extra-verbal references; but from the beginning of love, we have always had an idea: a woman says "No" ",just want it". If the dispute between men and women over "should" and "don't" is really just a cognitive misunderstanding, then as long as the "explanation" is clear, the problem will naturally be solved. If the frequency requirements of "making love" between husband and wife are really completely different, then it will be more difficult to resolve the problem.

Reject him? I really can't bear it. Promise him? And wrong yourself. Compared with the "requested", in fact, the "initiator" also has problems.

Forcing her? Could not bear.

Not forced? But he also wronged himself.

Freud, the master of psychological analysis, once lamented that he didn’t know what women wanted? However, not only women, but also the two sexes should have a deep understanding of each other. We really must know what men want. ?

According to Dr. Kinsey’s sexological survey, approximately one-third of married men and one-fifth of married women in the United States have had sex outside of marriage. What is the truth about Chinese people in this regard? Although there is a lack of reliable data to support it, with the improvement of living standards and female awareness, the quality of sexual life after marriage is indeed receiving more and more attention. In the old society, having a bland sex life did not pose a problem; fertility was crucial; but in modern society, both husband and wife care about whether they can enjoy sex!

According to research conducted by Dr. Kinnishi and recent scholars, the natural quantitative curve of sexual life within marriage shows a gentle downward slope. The average number of times per week decreases from three or four times a week in the 20s and 30s to once or twice a week in the 50s and 60s. The qualitative changes in sexual life within marriage can be divided into the following three categories -

1. Men are more active, enjoy orgasm earlier and faster; women experience it later. Many women don't have orgasms until they are in their 30s, and their sexual desire is often stronger than their husbands at this time.

2. In modern society, with the weakening of various traditional taboos, more and more couples are trying changes in sexual positions and techniques, such as women on top and men on the bottom.

3. Sexual life is not coordinated. Inconsistency in the frequency of sex and sexual dysfunction are two major problems that may lead to affairs and divorce.

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