They are successful in their careers and have a strong style. Men envy and admire her, but they dare not come forward. Such strong women don't seem to need love. Their careers are everything in their lives. But they often choose to marry some ordinary and honest men who are not suitable for them no matter how they look at them. Maybe you will think that they don't need love at all, and marriage is just a daily necessity like computers and mobile phones. However, in fact, that is just their unique view of love.

What is a good match

(Yang Jie, 29-year-old private enterprise owner)

Since Tao Zhan and I met, we have often heard people say that we are not worthy. Tao Zhan is a technician at an electrical appliance company with a mild temper. Do everything slowly, without rush or panic. Just the opposite of my personality. Of course, that's not the point. The point is that our net worths are different. His monthly salary and bonus combined are only over 2,000 yuan. My relatives and friends all figured out that he was after my money. They say that a man will not willingly marry a woman who is stronger than him unless he has a plan. A woman like me, if she wants to marry, must marry a man who is "well-matched" and has a similar status. At that time, my classmates also helped me sign up for a "BMW Club", hoping that I could find a suitable man among the men who drove "BMW". This friend also had a lot of conversations with me in private. She said, I can’t control if you want to get married. But you should be careful about your family business. You have worked so hard to get where you are today, don’t give it away for free.

However, they all misjudged Tao Zhan. I like being with Tao Zhan because I feel very comfortable and sincere. When we first fell in love, Tao Zhan told me, I will never refuse you to treat me to a steak worth 500 yuan a piece, but you can't refuse me to treat you to a bowl of ramen worth 5 yuan a piece. He calmly accepted the reality that he made less money than me, but he did not feel inferior, flatter himself, or do anything stupid to make someone look fat.

Tao Zhan proposed to me on October 1st last year, in a Western restaurant with good decoration and atmosphere. He not only gave me a ring, but also a prenuptial agreement, which he specially asked a lawyer to draft for him. I said at that time that we should not talk about this. But he said, no, we must talk. This way I can marry happily and you can marry with peace of mind. I said yes without hesitation that day. In fact, for me, if I really marry a man who drives a BMW, I can rest assured that he is not after my money? I don’t think so. Trust and honesty are the most important things.

I remember there was a small detail between me and Tao Zhan that moved me very much. I don’t know if he still remembers it. Once, I mentioned letting him transfer to my company. He said, I won't go. I said, are you afraid that others will gossip? He said, no, the financial crisis has not passed yet, and your company is very risky. If one day you have nothing, at least the 2,000 yuan I earn per month can support you for a lifetime.

What do you mean by "a good match"? I think Tao Zhan and I are like this.

Analysis of "Honest Man":

It can be said that they are a perfect match psychologically. Tao Zhan did not lack the care that a man should have for Yang Jie because of the difference in wealth. In love, he gave Yang Jie an equal position. And this kind of equality without inferiority or arrogance is rarely seen in the world of "strong women". And a love that can face money issues honestly has become the reason why Yang Jie doesn't want to give up.

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What counts as scenery

(Zheng Peiyan, 30-year-old liquid milk regional manager)

I am the only woman in this position in the company. My team’s monthly sales are among the top three. Before the age of 27, I thought love was dispensable and career was the most important thing. However, after the age of 27, I slowly discovered that no amount of achievements can withstand the loneliness in life. When I am alone, I feel that time is particularly difficult. I met Mo Zhe in 2007. He is a middle school teacher, three years older than me, and divorced. Everyone was opposed to me marrying him, but after spending three months with him, I knew he was the person I wanted to find.

Others ask me, what do you think, what kind of man are you looking for based on your conditions? Even if I have a successful career, I should always find a more beautiful man. But what to say? The so-called scenery is for others to see, but life is your own. In the eyes of others, Mo Zhe is honest, weak, and lifeless. But in my eyes, he is a stable, tolerant and tolerant person. We were married for two years and he gave me a solid and stable home. Maybe because he is a teacher, he is very patient and speaks sense.

Last year, when the dairy industry encountered a freeze, sales plummeted, and I was really in a bad mood. One day he and I lost our temper because he ruined a shirt. He didn't say a word at that time, he just sat on the sofa and looked at me. It wasn't until I ran out of energy that he said slowly, "I want to tell you two things." First, I am your husband, not your subordinate. I wash and cook for you because I love you. So you must learn to respect in the future. Second, you have to understand that difficulties are opportunities. The public's confidence will eventually return. Whoever works harder during this period will have a larger share in the future. Anyone who gives up on themselves during this period is tantamount to giving up on the future market. That day, he went to cook alone without waiting for me to apologize. And from that day on, I really admired him. I found that not only could he tolerate all my bad tempers, but he was also a wise and thoughtful good man. Sometimes I really don’t understand why other people think it’s better for me to marry a man who is infinitely beautiful. I am already very prosperous myself, and I don’t need my other half to be the same.

Analysis of "Honest Man":

It can be said that Mo Zhe is the standard "man behind a successful woman". This is not only because he is willing to wash and cook behind Zheng Peiyan's back. Psychologically, he also provided strong support to the "strong woman". "Strong women" always have to face many problems at work, and their emotions will inevitably fluctuate. As the husband of such a woman, it is not enough to be tolerant, as it will only encourage the growth of bad emotions. Being able to promptly remind Zheng Peiyan to calm down and cool her down when she is irritable is what Mo Zhe likes about Zheng Peiyan. In fact, as Zheng Peiyan said herself, she is already very prosperous. Would she be happy to marry a man who is more prosperous than herself?

Know what to appreciate about me

(Lin Rong, 26 years old, room manager of hotel chain)

Zhao Qian and I met at an art exhibition. He is now a graduate student at the Academy of Fine Arts. It is said that art students are very individualistic and difficult to get along with. But I think Zhao Qian is not, he is a person who understands life very well. But my mother didn't like him very much. When she came to my house, she often told me privately that Zhao Qian was not good and that he was a soft-boiled man, and asked me not to associate with him. Last weekend, I learned how to make "Old Duck Soup" online and tried to make a pot. My mother also came that day. At the dinner table, she said to Zhao Qian, you can't help with work, but you usually cook and do laundry, but you can help more? Zhao Qian didn't say anything at the time, but I knew he was unhappy. I said, I love doing this. But my mother said, what is your current status, and you don’t rely on him to make money to support the family, you should let him do more housework. At that time, Zhao Qian stood up and said, Auntie, how much housework do you think is appropriate for this status? It was a very unpleasant day, and I asked my mother to leave. After she left, Zhao Qian apologized to me, but I knew I couldn't blame him. I just like to cook and make soup in my free time, which makes me feel very feminine. It’s easy to blur gender at work because I need to be tough to intimidate my subordinates. In front of me, others say that I am smart and capable. But behind my back, I'm always called "manly woman". Too many people only notice my success at work and forget that I am still a woman. And I really hope someone can understand my tenderness, Zhao Qian is this person. He understands my personality, my taste and my inner self. Understand what kind of person I want to be. In fact, there are many men who want to cook for me, but he is the only one who appreciates me simmering a pot of soup for three hours.

Analysis of "Honest Man":

Many times, we don’t like ourselves in reality, and the same goes for “strong women”. Just because they have a successful career doesn't mean that's what they want to be. There are many "strong women" like Lin Rong who want to put themselves back in the position of women. But the praise they often receive is related to outstanding performance. The reason why Lin Rong likes Zhao Qian is precisely because he knows how to appreciate her other side, which allows Lin Rong to regain the happiness of being a woman psychologically.

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