As the title says, this is a question a boy asked me yesterday. Before that, he felt resentful because he was obsessed with his first love. He said that he had devoted all his feelings to her, but not only did he not get her heart, he didn't even get her body. If he was given two choices now, one was to get the other person's heart, and the other was to get her. If it is the other person's body, then he will choose the latter without hesitation. The reason is very simple, that is, this girl is still a virgin.

This is undoubtedly another sad man bound by the virginity complex, and it is precisely because of this that he is wavering between persistence and giving up. He said that he loved that girl very much, and a large part of this love came from her virginity. If he hadn't met a virgin, then he would never be in such pain. He said that in today's world, virgins are rare treasures that can only be found but cannot be found. How can you let go and give the next man an advantage when you meet her? Obviously, the root cause of the pain still comes from the fact that I have given so much emotion, but in the end I am just making wedding clothes for others, and the imbalance comes from this. So at the end, he asked me this question: Is a girl’s first time always given to her first love?

Is a girl’s first time always her first love? This issue seems to me like a hot potato. Because this is not a multiple-choice question with only two options: "yes" or "no". If so, then the girl whom the boy claims to love has given her first time to her ex-boyfriend a long time ago, instead of still guarding her sanctity and vowing to wait until the day of marriage. If not, then virgin feces would not be like a natural resource that has been cut down and faced with scarcity. It’s just that the key to the problem is not first love. First love, as the name suggests, is the first emotional spark. However, this kind of spark often fails and fails to take root.

However, first love does make many virgins fall. The reason for the fall is very simple. First love has given countless girls beautiful expectations and fantasies, longings and yearnings. It was an emotional first time, and it was endowed with a holy aura like a virgin. It is even like a lofty belief that has made countless girls become believers, treating their first time as a bargaining chip to win their first love, and treating this kind of devotion as a fearless offering of love; and like a moth fluttering Like fire, one after another. How many of these tragic sacrifices ultimately lead to the nirvana of first love? Obviously there are very few, and the one who rises from the ashes is the phoenix.

In fact, the biggest tragedy of first love for men and women is that everyone regards first love as the God of love. Many people are obsessed with this and firmly believe that first love will not die, and they firmly believe that loving someone If you want something, you should devote yourself wholeheartedly, including giving up your virginity; this is how women give, and this is how men take it for granted. I don’t know if this is a man’s sorrow or a woman’s misfortune. In the end, the obsession is just physical intercourse, not emotional intercourse; the so-called love is just falling in love with that hymen.

Any woman’s first time will eventually be given to a man, and whether this man is the object of her first love is obviously not the root of the problem. The root of the problem is that if a woman regards her body as a bargaining chip to win love and puts all her efforts into it, she will lose everything. Similarly, if a man only bases his love on his hymen, then it will be vulnerable and weak, and no matter how he repairs it, it will be nothing but self-deception and futile effort.