A mentally fragile man wrapped in a strong package
Analyze the psychological vulnerability of men
Men are always given the definition of strong. Weakness and men can never be put in the same concept, and psychological vulnerability cannot be shown in any way. Men The right is to wrap one's psychological frailty in layers of false strength to prevent others from seeing it. If a woman wants to get close to a man, she must understand his psychological vulnerability.
What are the facts? In fact, men's psychology is much more fragile than women's, but the definition given to men by society makes men have to endure pressure that is several times or even dozens of times beyond their psychological endurance, and men's psychological needs, But few people care. We often hear such words on many occasions: "You are a man..." Men seem to have become synonymous with "superman" here, but how many people can understand the "suffering" of men? Who can satisfy the needs of men?
At work, for a man, if he is dismissed because he is not good at his job, it is the greatest insult to him. Once a man is fired, it means he has lost the backbone of his life, and the accompanying consequences are: loss of income, embarrassment in life, bleak future, destruction of self-image, etc. Therefore, almost all men are unwilling to accept the reality of being fired. Fortunately, Chinese people are better at taking care of other people's face. Even if they are dismissed, they will not directly say "dismissal", but "lay off" or "layoff". Because dismissal means unemployment, and "laid-off" contains the hope of "recruitment", and "layoff" seems to also have the dream of "demobilization." In fact, this is all a "hypocrisy", but men need such hypocrisy and are happy to be deceived by such hypocrisy.
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Analyzing the psychological vulnerability of men
The reason for this kind of self-deception is actually very simple. Once a man loses his job, he will have nothing, because men often lose their lives when there is a crisis at work. , family, marriage, etc., will all be in crisis. When a woman loses her job, she can go back home to be a full-time housewife and not be laughed at by anyone; but if a man loses his job and returns home to be a full-time husband, then this man is finished and will not only be laughed at, but even Accusation: "This man is really useless!" What a man fears most is that he is "useless", and only work can reflect his "useful" value.
In the family, most people in society believe that the family is the biggest need of women, and women always have more feelings for the family than men. In fact, this is completely a misunderstanding. In fact, men’s need for family is dozens of times greater than that of women. For men, family is not only a safe haven, but also a warm paradise for relaxation. But some women don't understand this. They often vent their dissatisfaction with men because they come home after working hard outside and don't want to do anything. Some even leave early and come back late, coming and going in a hurry. "Treat the home as a hotel", "Don't help with some housework", "Don't treat this as a home at all", etc.
But she didn’t think about it. Men are in a highly stressful situation in society, and every nerve in him will be tense in social interactions, career development, and even daily work. of. He didn't dare to relax at all, fearing that he would be unable to support his family if he failed, so he had to go all out. And when he returns home, what he wants is to completely relax and completely put aside the tension of working hard in society in order to recuperate his body and mind. Therefore, some men often act very lazy when they get home and don't even want to say a word. It should be said that this is a normal behavior. But some women don't understand, and they blame men for no reason, and even nag and complain about trivial matters, which makes the men's tired bodies and minds unable to get peace, and finally breaks out in family wars, and even causes family tragedies.