A psychologist once said: "Nowadays, many men are prone to impulsiveness, not because of their irritable temper, but because of a lack of self-confidence." Some people also say that men lack self-confidence and are prone to impulsive emotions. This kind of impulsiveness In fact, it is a false self-protection on their part. Regarding the above point of view, is a man’s impulsiveness really related to his self-confidence?

From a psychological point of view, if a man does not agree with his own value, he will feel that he is looked down upon and threatened. The manifestations of this psychological state are cowardice and withdrawal. Especially when encountering accidental emergencies, it is more likely to cause out-of-control emotions, such as impatience, anger, etc.

For impulsive men, it is recommended that you adopt the following points to help yourself relieve your impulsive emotions.

First of all, if something suddenly happens that makes you feel anxious or angry, it is better to cool down your emotions before you express your emotions. For example, say to yourself in your mind: "I will get angry again in three minutes." Then count silently in your mind. Don’t underestimate these three minutes, it can go a long way in helping you regain your sanity.

Secondly, when you find that your emotions are about to get out of control, quickly change the environment, and your attention and energy will shift accordingly. Don't let yourself get stuck in a dead end, always thinking about people or things that make you angry, which will make you even more angry. In addition, when you feel that your emotions are uncontrollable, you can take the initiative to do some exercises to let the impulsive emotions flow away with sweat.

Finally, as I often say, you should speak out when something happens and communicate more with your friends. Especially when you are not angry, talk to the person who often offends you, listen to each other's most irritating things, and think of some ways to communicate your feelings.

Self-confidence needs to be built by oneself. Only with self-confidence can you have a good attitude to face life. The impulse caused by lack of self-confidence cannot solve the fundamental problem. While expressing your emotions, you must also know how to regulate yourself correctly. You must not let impulse lead to you. Do something you regret.

To be a human being, one must have a peaceful and tolerant mentality

Those who achieve great things are good at giving in, that is, they do not argue needlessly with others when encountering problems, but focus on doing their own things through tolerance. One of the key reasons why many people are unable to achieve great things is that they are inactive and contentious and unwilling to give in.

A gentleman is magnanimous and magnanimous, which is a noble virtue that has been passed down for thousands of years. A person must be open-minded and have a peaceful and tolerant heart. This is not only a kind of charm, but also a necessary personality for people with a successful career.

The so-called tolerance refers to a person's attitude and behavior of being modest, self-denial, and seeking compromise when interacting with others. What you tolerate here are those non-principled trivial matters with your friends, colleagues, etc. If you have a small friction with a friend or colleague, don't worry about it. You should be more open-minded and let it go if you suffer a small loss.

The purpose of this is to avoid damaging friendships between friends and solidarity among colleagues. However, we cannot tolerate some negative phenomena in life, bad social atmosphere, bad people and bad things. Instead, we should stand up and fight resolutely.

Therefore, the tolerance we are talking about does not mean that we do not distinguish between right and wrong, give up principles, and tolerate everything without limit. It should be "a man who can bend and stretch". This is the measure of a successful person.

To be tolerant, you must have an open mind and not be too demanding on others when dealing with others. We should learn to tolerate and understand the shortcomings and mistakes of others. To do this, you must be generous and not narrow-minded, but magnanimous. Especially when it comes to small things, if you are tolerant and act "confused" as much as possible, it will be easier for people to feel that you understand world affairs and human feelings.

There is a story about a Zen master who lived in a thatched cottage in the mountains and went for a walk in the forest one night. Under the bright moonlight, he suddenly enlightened to the wisdom of his own nature.

He happily walked back to his residence, only to see that his hut was being visited by thieves. The thief who could not find any property was about to leave when he met the Zen Master at the door. It turned out that the Zen master was waiting at the door for fear of alerting the thief. He knew that the thief would not find anything valuable, so he had already taken off his coat and held it in his hand. The thief was shocked when he met the Zen Master. The Zen Master said, "You walked all the way to the mountains to visit me. I can't let you come back empty-handed! The night is getting cold, so take this dress with you and go!"

Said. He put the clothes on the thief. The thief was at a loss and slipped away with his head lowered.

The Zen master watched the thief's back disappear through the bright moonlight and disappear into the mountains and forests. He couldn't help but said with emotion: "Poor man! I wish I could send him a bright moon."

After the Zen master watched the thief go away, he returned to the hut and meditated naked. He looked at the bright moon outside the window and entered the sky.

The next day, under the touch of warm sunlight, he opened his eyes from deep meditation and saw that the coat he had put on the thief was neatly folded and placed at the door. The Zen master was very happy and murmured: "I finally gave him a bright moon!"

This concludes the writing. I thought of a real-life story: There was a woman who always kept telling others that her neighbor's house was filthy. Once, she deliberately brought a friend to her home, pointed out the window and said, "Look, the clothes hanging on the line there are so dirty!" But the friend quietly said to her, "If you look carefully, A little bit. I think you can figure out that it’s not other people’s clothes that are dirty, but your own windowpane.”

yes. We live under the same blue sky, why don't we learn to be kind to others instead of blaming others easily? Even if the dirty clothes are really the neighbor's clothes, why can't we show understanding and tolerance? You know, we won't lose anything by doing this.