Recently, online reports claimed that a 13-year-old boy lifted up a young woman's skirt in an elevator, which caused great concern and heated discussion among friends. Child sexual behavior has become a hotly debated issue among people from all walks of life. Today, the editor will take you through the incident of a 13-year-old boy lifting up a young woman's skirt in an elevator, and learn more about cultivating children's healthy sexual psychology.

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Xiao Tao (pseudonym), a 13-year-old boy from Nanping, went to his aunt's house in Fuzhou to visit relatives during the summer vacation.

The afternoon before yesterday, Xiao Tao did something that surprised her relatives. While riding in the same elevator with a woman, Xiao Tao suddenly lifted up her skirt and touched her buttocks. The angry young woman slapped Xiao Tao several times and called the police. In this regard, education experts said that 13-year-old boys are in the physiological impulse period and need more care and guidance. In addition, after the incident occurs, the child should be provided with timely guidance to protect the child's self-esteem.

Experts explain: Children have poor self-control ability

What is the psychological state of a 13-year-old child when he reaches out and touches a woman’s buttocks?

Yesterday, reporters consulted relevant experts on this matter. Experts analyze that the child is currently in the impulsive stage of physiology and thought, has curiosity and fantasies about the opposite sex, and has relatively poor self-control ability, so he behaves like this.

Experts say that according to the current social environment, sexual and physiological maturity is much earlier than sexual and psychological maturity. This boy's behavior should be due to problems with the methods of family education.

Expert advice: protect children’s self-esteem and provide timely guidance

Experts suggest that at present, children should not be hurt again and their self-esteem should be protected. Because people's self-esteem and shame are related, if the self-esteem is damaged, the child may break the jar. Parents [Weibo] should find the relevant youth psychological counseling agency to use appropriate methods to treat the child in a timely manner. Provide guidance.

Cultivate children's healthy sexual psychology

According to data, the cover of the first primary school hygiene textbook published by Japan's Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology shows a woman giving birth: the mother spreads her thighs and a baby's head emerges from the birth canal. This picture intuitively answers the question many children ask: Where do I come from. A survey shows that Singaporean children begin to have a sense of gender when they are 1 year old. Some girls see a boy's genitals and wonder why they don't have a "small penis." The teacher will patiently tell her simple reproductive knowledge and will not be secretive.

At the same time, sex education must be moderate, otherwise it will backfire. The UK has the best developed sex education system for minors. Its content is all-encompassing, including knowledge of sexual characteristics, sexual health and gender relations, as well as education on sexual morality and emotional development. Different compulsory courses are also set up for primary and secondary school students of different ages. However, the results of a survey released recently are surprising: Britain now has one of the highest pregnancy and birth rates for teenagers under the age of 16 in Europe.

There is no doubt that there are many reasons for the embarrassing situation of adolescent sexual psychology confusion and sexual anomie. Our sex education for teenagers must follow the physical and mental laws of teenagers, overcome the singleness of sex education channels, and then form an education network that is jointly managed by families, schools, and society. We also need to change the misunderstanding of "teaching based on sex alone" and organically combine sex education with other aspects of education to promote the all-round development of young people.

Darwin was a man who dared to break through secular prejudices. He systematically provided sex education to his children in an era when "sex" was classified as a forbidden area. Darwin's second daughter once recalled:

"When my mother was pregnant for the last time, I was not yet 8 years old, and my father took this opportunity to educate us. He told us why our mother was 'sick'. After that, he also gave me a book. After I read it, I started I feel like I’ve really grown up.”

From this, I thought that in today's society we must make early plans for the sex education of minors, and our education must be straightforward, scientific, and artistic. Premier Zhou once solemnly proposed that sexual knowledge should be taught to boys before their first nocturnal emission and before girls have their first period. Among Asian countries, Japan, Singapore and other countries attach great importance to the sex education of minors and start cultivating children's healthy sexual psychology from childhood.

To sum up, we learned about the 13-year-old boy lifting the skirt of a young woman in the elevator and cultivating children's healthy sexual psychology. Here is a warm reminder from the editor: During the growth and development stages of children, parents and friends must always pay attention to their children's physical and mental health, especially in terms of sex education and sexual psychology. At the same time, we also hope that the children can have a healthy and happy childhood and actively welcome a new and bright future.