Tolstoy once said, "Happy families are all alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." In China, what happy families have in common is that they have the following things.

1. Childlike innocence:

In fact, only when the childish innocence remains awake, youth will last forever and love will last forever, so it is best to retain more innocence, simplicity and possessions. A little hobby, curiosity. Although you can be a "gentleman" outside, when you get home, you'd better be a big boy when the door is closed.

2. Romance:

Many Chinese families are too practical and lack romance. Don't think that unlimited romance means giving flowers and dancing, and don't think that you can't be romantic without time or money. You know, the forms of romance are colorful and diverse.

3. Humor:

Humorous speaking can resolve and buffer conflicts and disputes, eliminate embarrassment and barriers, increase interest and emotion, and make the whole family happy.

4. Intimacy:

Many couples regard frequent intimacy as sticky, explaining that "inappropriate intimacy" is not a sign of frivolity. However, expert research has found that intimacy has a wonderful effect on improving the quality of family life, and people who lack hugs and kisses for a long time are prone to "skin hunger" and then emotional hunger.

5. Love words:

Psychologists believe that spouses must say at least three or more affectionate love words to each other every day, such as "I love you", "I like you" Your so and so”. However, many Chinese people pay too much attention to being reserved and rarely talk about love, thinking that this is shallow and disgusting. Many Chinese couples hope that their spouses will show their love in meticulous and considerate care. This is certainly true, but if there are only actions and no words of love, will it give people a sense of shortcomings like "only the main course, no condiments"?

6. Communication:

Many Chinese couples suppress their opinions and dissatisfaction psychologically without making it clear, and they call it "good temper and well-educated". In fact, mutual blocking can only lead to deepening misunderstandings. Long-term suppression equals malignant energy. Once it breaks out, it will be even more destructive. The normal approach should be to strengthen communication. If you have opinions or dissatisfaction, you should speak out sincerely, gently and strategically, and always take the initiative to understand the other party's thoughts. Quarreling is not necessarily a bad thing. After all, it is also a means of communication. However, you should discuss the matter as it is and avoid making personal attacks.

7. Appreciation:

People often look at their children with appreciation, so they always feel that "their children are their best"; and because they often look at their spouse with a critical eye, So I always think that my wife (husband) is someone else’s good friend. If you evaluate the same thing with different eyes, the conclusions will be very different. If you can easily count your spouse's shortcomings without thinking, you probably lack appreciation. If you only talk about the good qualities of your spouse in front of and behind your back, then you have learned love and can gain love.

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