Ordinary people always believe that men are always aggressive and possessive when it comes to sex. We often say that men are animals that think with their lower bodies, and they play an active role. But many men also have sexual fears when it comes to sex... Due to face issues, they will not speak out about these problems, because for them, there is no more private issue than this. So, what are those panic attacks that men have in bed? Let’s take a look today.

1. Fear of not lasting enough

There is no standard for the length of sex, but many men often feel that the longer the better, and they think that the longer the time, the better. They think that the longer the time, the better. They think that the longer the time, the better. The stronger the man is, the higher his sexual skills are. At the same time, the longer the time is, the more satisfying his wife will be. Therefore, when men compare their sexual abilities with each other, they often brag about how long their sexual intercourse lasts. Deep down in the hearts of men, they are always worried that their sex time is not long enough and that women are not fully satisfied.

In fact, the time for making love includes the preparations for sex between both parties before sex, until the end of sex, when both parties caress each other to complete the post-sex life. This whole process is the real time for sex. This process It can last for dozens of minutes or even longer. And women's sexual satisfaction is not directly proportional to the length of men's sexual intercourse.

So, men should not blindly believe that the longer the sexual intercourse, the better. If you feel that it cannot last until your wife is satisfied, then increase the time of pre-play and post-play, or add some fresh ingredients to the sex. , try new ways, sex will also make your wife feel satisfied.

2. Fear of not knowing women’s needs

Because of shyness, women will remain reserved, especially during sex, and will never express their feelings. Therefore, in the life of a couple, a man will follow his own routine, but he does not know the needs of women and is afraid that he will not be able to satisfy the other party. This is another major fear that men have in their sexual lives.

Because you don’t know the other person’s needs, you will get confused and cannot prescribe the right medicine, let alone allow the other person to enjoy the pleasure of orgasm. Men can only learn about women's physiological structure through other channels, hoping to explore some ways. However, everyone's physiological structure is not exactly the same, and everyone's desires are not the same, so general theories cannot be applied to everyone.

As the person closest to him, there is no need to be shy. You have to give him guidance: use your hands instead of words as much as possible. Just hold his hand and guide him to make movements that make you feel pleasure. This will not only make it easier for him to understand you better, but also allow you to enjoy different pleasures, which is more conducive to closer intimacy between husband and wife.

3. I’m afraid you won’t respond at all

Sex is the most intimate emotional and physical communication between lovers. It is a simultaneous dialogue between the spirit and the body. When making love, men always like to hear a few words of encouragement, or hear and see your clear response, whether it is your voice or body movements. If you keep silent and let him sweat profusely, as if you are leaving him in the sun, he will feel that your silence is a kind of protest, dissatisfaction or carelessness.

Some men say that when a woman's body no longer swings with their rhythm, they feel scared, like swimming desperately in an unknown depth of the sea. Mike, a 27-year-old teacher, said: "Sometimes we choose a good posture and feel completely integrated with each other without reservation, but she suddenly stops moving. I feel very strange and just want to call it a day."

Believe it or not, sometimes it is your neglect that makes your man lose interest in an instant. If you like, feel free to moan happily or give him a gentle pat on the shoulder. If yelling isn't your style, move your body to his rhythm, like a waltz at his pace, and your spin will be the source of his motivation. "

4. Menstrual phobia

No matter what men say, they will lose their feelings when they see blood. Mark, a 25-year-old welder, said: "Once and When she was having sex, I noticed that she was bleeding. She had just had her menstruation, and I felt like I had been hit hard and couldn't do it all at once. "

Dr. Schiller said: "Many men think that blood is unclean and is a harmful substance. If you don't know how he will react, it is best to tell him in advance: 'Dear, I just had my period, do you think it will be an obstacle? ’” He will definitely appreciate your straightforwardness and avoid possible friction.

5. Don’t let him touch your vital parts

Most men like to kiss a woman’s body, including the most private parts. If you refuse him, it will only arouse his suspicion. Jason, a 30-year-old filmmaker, said: "Every time I tried to get close to her key parts, she kept pushing me back. I was hurt." Peggy explained: "It's not surprising. Men like to do things that are novel to women. When a woman refuses to accept it, the man will feel that she is actually still keeping her most precious things from him and is unwilling to give herself completely to him.”

Whether you are embarrassed or not in the mood, you have to choose the best way to communicate with him. Don't push him aside or refuse him outright, try touching him passionately and naturally guide him to have sex the way you like.

6. Afraid of women’s size considerations

Women are always worried that their breasts are not full enough, so they will undergo some breast augmentation surgeries. Likewise, men may also worry about the size of their genitals.

Usually unmarried men, because they have no sexual experience, are not surprised to worry about the size of their penis, and it is not uncommon for married men to worry that their penis is too big or too small. Especially some newlywed husbands and husbands who still cannot satisfy their wives after being married for a long time are often afraid that their wives will care about the size of their penis when they are living together.

In daily life, we often see men cheating on women because they pursue women’s fullness. Men are also worried that women will seek stimulation because they are not satisfied.

In fact, the deviation in male penis length is just like the height and shortness of people, and truly pathological gigantism and dwarfism are very rare. In the life of a couple, women care more about the feeling between the two, rather than just focusing on size. After all, women also have different personal factors. It does not mean that bigger will give her a better feeling. Only the one that suits you is the best. OK

Therefore, in your married life, boldly tell him that you feel good, which will help him increase his self-confidence.

7. Fear of women faking orgasm

Women and men have very different physiological structures. Usually, men are more likely to reach orgasm, but women are not. Studies have shown that only about 30% of 30-year-old women can reach orgasm. In order not to make men uncomfortable, many women will fake orgasms during their married life, hoping that men will be satisfied psychologically while being physically satisfied.

Men are not fuel-efficient lamps, and they cannot be coaxed so easily. It is true that he knows that your disguise is to prevent him from being depressed, but behind your disguise is the man's endless troubles. Because your disguise hides dissatisfaction with him, he will feel disappointed with his performance.

Some women equate faking an orgasm with saying kind words to others. In fact, the two are different. You shouldn't fake an orgasm. You can say: "I'm sorry, because I'm too tired. In fact, the close contact with you has made me very satisfied." In this way, it is easier for the male to be psychologically satisfied instead of feeling lost. When dealing with people, it is better to be sincere and sincere.