7 Details to Preserve Marriage

Preserving marriage is a problem that every woman must face seriously. Men are always careless and careless. If you are the same, then who will maintain your marriage? If left to its own devices, it will inevitably lead to a dead end. Therefore, married women must take the responsibility of keeping their marriage alive.

The first detail: always look at him seriously and remember to tidy up his clothes before going to work every day.

Almost every man needs appreciation and care, especially when this kind of care is conveyed to him from the eyes and details of the women around him over the years, this kind of joy and warmth all over his body is better than any words. Praise and physical support. So, what I want to say to women is that when your man carries his bag and goes to work every day, please remember to look at him with admiration, no matter how neatly his clothes are dressed and his tie is tied. If he is beautiful, you should straighten his collar, pat down his clothes, and then say in a cheerful voice: "Well, my husband is very handsome, come on!" Of course, it is best that you can say such words in every period. Give him a small achievable challenge and requirement. I believe that such a man will definitely be more motivated and miss his family than other men at work.

The second detail: While dressing yourself up, you must remember to buy him some fitting, high-end and high-quality clothes at the right time, including his underwear.

If you buy him clothes, it means that you are always thinking of him. Buying clothes that fit you well shows that you understand him. The quality of the clothes further expresses your taste. It also hides your requirements and positioning for him. In fact, these are a kind of exchange of information, love and power for men. transmission. Especially men's underwear, which represents thoughtfulness, privacy and care that cannot be replaced by others. Just kidding, just think about it, even if your man is interested in having an affair, he will have to go through your private test when he takes off his underwear. Even if his movements pause slightly, this is a kind of Victory, because as long as the most impulsive man thinks of this love, he will be more calm and the chance of making mistakes will be greatly reduced.

The third detail: Always affirm him, and every effort he makes includes work and family. You must remember to say: Dear, thank you for your hard work!

Some people must say how hypocritical such a marriage must be. In fact, this is not the case. People often say "treat each other as guests", and this is what they mean. In my opinion, mutual respect and affirmation between husband and wife should be even more important than between ordinary people. Only in this way can marriage be able to break the dullness of years and keep a moderate and necessary distance between each other. This distance is not a stranger, but a kind of appreciation, affirmation and seeing each other clearly beyond the blind spot. A faint "Dear, thank you for your hard work!" may seem pretentious and redundant, but as long as it comes from the heart, it conveys the greatest recognition, affirmation and integration. After listening to this sentence, no matter how tired the man is, his heart will Everyone will get irreplaceable relief and care, and the bitterness will turn into sweetness.

The fourth detail: Remember every special day he cherishes, including: his birthday, his parents’ birthday, your wedding anniversary, the day he was promoted, and even the day he wanted to give A day for family calls in the country.

I think that as long as a woman can really do this, men will basically be moved or even surrendered. Men have been traveling for many years, and the biggest guilt they feel is their debt to their families and parents. However, due to work and nature, they always forget it, and often can only slap their thighs and regret it afterwards... And all this, his woman is actually doing it. Everything was done for him perfectly and carefully, silently and silently. What a surprise, touch and reverence this was! With this kind of feeling always at the base, should a woman still worry about her man looking for someone else outside?

The fifth detail: He is rarely confused and does not expose his lies easily.

Nine out of ten men in the world like to brag. It is just like women who like to nag. It is a psychological need and a kind of emotional catharsis. Therefore, a smart woman should allow her man to brag at the right time. Only when a man brags enough can he love you better and longer. But in reality, some women always sneer at men's bragging. No matter what the occasion, they always cut off this "hobby" of men, or even expose it on the spot... It goes without saying that such women are difficult for men to fight. I will only love you in my heart for the rest of my life. Of course, what I say is not to completely deprive women of their right to "pursue the truth." If you really meet a man who treats bragging as a career and as a meal, I still agree with women to bravely defend the truth, but the methods and methods still have to be Pay a little attention, hint if you can, and prevent if you can. Otherwise, if the pain is too much, you can only divorce, and there will be no need to keep the marriage fresh.

The sixth detail: Give him space to be alone.

When men encounter difficulties and setbacks, especially when making decisions, they need a calm environment. Men are different from women. They do not have the sensibility that women have innate advantages. In their concept, they believe that everything can only be reassured and correct after rational thinking, and thinking requires solitude and sufficient space. These space and time They all need the woman on the other side of the marriage to give. If a woman assumes that a man's love for her is compromised because of this, or even randomly suspects that he has another woman, this is obviously the greatest disregard and harm to a man.

The seventh detail: keep a man’s stomach. Women must know how to cook a few dishes that their men like to eat.

“To keep a man, keep his stomach first” This is a summary of the truth passed down from our ancestors. No matter what, it makes sense. But I find that this point seems to have been increasingly ignored by modern people, especially many couples born in the 1980s who grew up with the love of their parents. Many girls have never even cooked, let alone asked them to cook. Here are some dishes that men like to eat. I'm not being sensational. In fact, such a marriage is very unstable. What seems like a trivial matter like not knowing how to cook actually reflects the malleability of the meaning of home. A survey shows that besides vision, men’s most developed sense is taste. They are more likely to remember to be grateful and miss the people and places that once gave them delicious enjoyment. Therefore, if the wife at home can cook well, her husband will always come home on time and be grateful to her.

I mentioned seven details in one breath. Maybe some female readers will say behind my back that I am "macho" and blindly demand women. Here, I can only express once again that they may have misunderstood me. I write these words not to ask women to do anything, but to tell them how to do better so that their marriages can avoid detours, because maybe a small marriage detail and art will bring you Two completely different feelings and results of marriage. I hope my friends can understand my intentions.