Although the saying goes that women are "thirty wolves and forty tigers", in fact, many women of this age are suffering from a boring life in bed. So, does he really not love you anymore or do you have no feelings for him anymore? Did you misunderstand him or did he misunderstand you?

Analysis

A. If he doesn’t ask, I won’t tell

Many couples are not as keen on communicating and exchanging feelings as described in fashion magazines. The truth is the opposite. Women, in particular, are not even willing to understand and evaluate their sexual life from the perspective of exchange. This is the root cause of misunderstandings between partners, because the more this happens, the harder it is to recognize the other person’s contribution to oneself, and the less likely he is to make corresponding returns. The most common mistake is that he has actually already done so. He has put a lot of effort into pleasing you and coordinating your sex life, but because you have no communication, he cannot be targeted and you cannot feel accurately. So there was a serious misunderstanding. Of course, mutual dedication and mutual reciprocity in sexual life between partners are generally tacit and rarely expressed in words. But this kind of "exchange" actually does exist, and precisely because the one who made the contribution will not say it clearly, it is easier for the other party to ignore it and to hurt the other party's heart unintentionally.

B. He thought, I don’t want to

The psychological timing of choosing a life is not consistent between partners. One party may feel that it is natural to have sex at this time, but the other party feels that they are forcing it and paying the price. If the former does not understand and consider this, and does not make due returns in other ways or in other aspects, the latter will think that they are suffering a loss, or even being forced or exploited. Over time, every little shadow accumulates, and the relationship is easily cooled. The cooling of the relationship directly leads to the weakening of women's sexual requirements. This is a vicious circle. When two people first get together, these small psychological differences can be easily ignored and overcome due to their freshness and curiosity about each other. Once they enter a stable situation, various small flaws in their sexual life will easily become apparent. .

C. He is busy and I am even busier

After having a fixed partner, it is easier for a man to focus on his career, and work and entertainment will take up most of his time. After a certain amount of time is divided between work and entertainment, professional women still have to worry about their children and family. The quality and quantity of sex cannot be guaranteed in most cases. Sexology experts pointed out through surveys that partners who are both professionals lack uninterrupted non-sleeping time to go to bed together, which seriously affects the maintenance of their sexual life and relationship quality. .

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Repair plan

1. Discover neglected sex opportunities

If you have ten minutes available, try Have a quick fuck. This may sound like a ridiculous suggestion, but you won’t know how interesting it is until you try it. Sometimes, having sex quickly is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, many couples appreciate the stimulation brought by having sex quickly, which can create a feeling of secret that only belongs to two people.

2. Touch each other often

Survey shows that apart from having sex, many couples rarely touch each other affectionately. They may feel awkward about this, and touching each other regularly is the best technique to eliminate emotional and psychological barriers. Be sure to get into the habit of touching your partner, such as holding his hand while watching a movie, running your fingers up and down his upper arm while watching TV together, and giving each other a kiss from time to time. Don't constantly send "don't come near me" messages to your partner. Even if he kisses you in the morning and it smudges your freshly applied lipstick, re-applying your makeup is nothing compared to getting a signal that he has deep feelings for you. of.

3. Speak boldly about what you want him to do

Don’t let him act like a coolie in bed trying to please you. If you want him to stay in a certain area, you have to say so. When he meets your requirements, you should also let him know. If he doesn't do something right, don't accuse him maliciously. Express it in a gentler way and say that you prefer this or that.

4. Expand the space for making love

The bed should not be the only place where you two have sex. When you get excited at home, but on the way to the bedroom, there will always be many things to distract you, and you will soon lose your enthusiasm. Experts point out that if you want to enjoy more and better sexual pleasure, you should act immediately when your desire is aroused. Dining rooms, carpets, sofas... can all be good places for you to enjoy yourself.

5. Try new ways

Of course, the same way of having sex is extremely boring. If you dare to try it, you will definitely get unexpected gains. These attempts can be easily obtained from relevant books, don't worry about your imagination.

6. Plan a sex trip

Plan a itinerary with him that you have never tried before and that is the most arousing of desire, so that you two can have the intimacy of first acquaintance. Feel.

Everyone knows very well that no matter whether it is a man or a woman, it is impossible for them to give nothing in their common sexual life, and it is impossible for them not to expect anything in return. Suppose two people are investing in a company in partnership. Of course, no one is willing to always suffer losses in a cooperative relationship, let alone tolerate the other party always taking advantage for a long time. It's that simple.

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