No one’s love will be smooth sailing, and no one’s marriage will ever hit the rocks. Coincidentally, different marriages have surprisingly similar times of crisis...

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Symptoms: 1. Conflicts arise on specific events that test deep values, widening the emotional distance, similar to the psychological "divorce period". 2. Bring the emotional conflicts formed in the parents' family into the new family, and the old conflicts will continue to affect the new relationship.

Tips: 1. Harmonizing values ​​is not easy but communication is absolutely required. "Acceptance" and "tolerance" are necessary solutions. 2. Psychological crises and emotional problems that arise in the parents' family can be resolved by seeking relief from a psychologist so as not to affect the existing family.

N=7: "The Seven-Year Itch"

The famous "Seven-Year Itch", the caterpillar of marriage just trembles slightly, and the one who has been married for seven years will The couple falls apart in an instant? Where is the most fragile weakness of a marriage? Is it that you can’t bear someone else’s harsh bite, or can’t stand your own gentle let go?

Keywords: deep-seated contradictions, passion for liking the new and hating the old

Event: "Holding Hands" (TV series 1999) is simply the standard textbook for "Seven Year Itch". A wife who has given up her career to focus on her family and an unappreciative husband have less and less communication and common language. The intervention of another woman makes it difficult to sustain the passion, and there is little intersection between career and social circles. They are all mentioned to you. Warning.

Symptoms: 1. External problems are prone to occur. On the surface it looks good, but internally there is a lack of passion. External stimulation can easily break through the marriage and lead to extramarital affairs. 2. Conflicts over children’s educational concepts are also the focus of conflicts that lead to antagonism between husband and wife. 3. The focus of life is unbalanced and inconsistent, there is little communication and exchange, and there is a lack of focus.

Tips: 1. Maintain necessary communication, talk about your respective work from time to time, maintain mutual understanding, and enhance family cohesion. 2. It is best to have some common friends, or appear together at some friend gatherings to create intersections in life. 3. Don’t talk too much about family life to colleagues of the opposite sex, as this often misleads them. 4. Don’t have different opinions on your children’s education. The focus should be on choosing the path that is best for your children rather than on which side “wins”.

The triangular relationship within marriage means that the "third party" in the couple's relationship comes from within the family, that is, the children become the hidden "third party". This is because some people subconsciously hope to use their children to realize their unfulfilled self-expectations and emotional expectations. Therefore, mothers invest a lot of affection in their sons, while fathers pay too much attention to their daughters. This excessive emotional investment will also affect the family. Normal emotional communication.

N=10: Period of Confusion

The development of worldly affairs may not always go as expected. It is common for people to have a higher heart than the sky and a thinner life than paper. How to reconcile the "height difference" between husband and wife? In fact, it is only a difference in thought.

Who climbed to the top of the mountain, and who stopped halfway? Marriage is like a mountain climbing, who quietly let go of it on the way?

Keywords: Unbalanced personal growth, blame for husband, wife for studying

Event: "Ten Years of Marriage" (TV series 2004) The growth and Han Meng experienced "typical events in all time periods in the ten years" ". The career development of the two always rises and falls. As I grow up, I gradually develop feelings for my smart and capable work partners. The sweetness of the past is not enough to maintain the passion. Breakups happen in subtle differences.

Symptoms: 1. Unbalanced personal growth. Due to differences in their respective career opportunities and abilities, differences in worldviews, values, social circles and levels of concern arise between the two parties. Psychological research shows that satisfaction with personal growth is directly related to perceptions of happiness in life. 2. The imbalance of the proportions of career, lover, and children in life: As a result, necessary emotional exchanges become increasingly thin, and marriages face deep-seated crises from both internal and external attacks.

Tips: 1. Psychologically maintain self-requirements after marriage and maintain continuous personal growth. Especially after retiring to the family, you need to maintain contact with the outside world and constantly update your ideas. Always pay attention to personal growth so as to avoid becoming an unconstructive "hatred husband and wife" when differences arise. 2. The concepts and hobbies of both parties may change and do not need to be completely consistent. The important thing is to consciously maintain emotional communication so that the growth of both parties always intersects. 3. The key to this period is to find a good balance in various relationships within and outside the family. Don't worry about one thing and not the other. For example, career-oriented women should also carefully appreciate the comfort of family life and not easily interrupt or leave when family members are chatting or getting along.

N≥15: Menopause in adolescence

On his young face, you can see signs of his old youth. Aren’t those teenage-style rebellions that persisted in going their own way the same old self? Time is a circle. How long ago was your adolescence? What a pity it would be if we forgot how we felt at that time.

Keywords: middle-aged adolescent children

Event: "Desperate Housewives" (TV series, 2005, United States) Bree is a model of a perfect housewife, dedicated to raising her husband and children. But her only son was rebellious and mischievous, causing a lot of troubles and causing her a lot of trouble. Unexpectedly, the husband and his son are from the "same country", so he doesn't think his son is at fault and even bought a car when they were separated."

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