Recently, there have been reports on the Internet that "men dressed in low-key, 'tall, handsome and rich', chatted up eight girlfriends on WeChat and defrauded millions of dollars", which aroused great concern and heated discussion among friends. Picking up a conversation, which Beijingers call "taoqi", is popular in various places in recent years to proactively meet the opposite sex. If you are lucky enough to meet your Mr. Right (goddess in your heart), how should you strike up a conversation? Today, the editor of Kanglu.com will teach you 5 tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex!

Tip 1. Make yourself a "fate-friendly person"

Whether you take the initiative or be passive, making yourself appear to be an approachable and willing person is the first key to a successful conversation. Research in social psychology has found that people who smile, are willing to make eye contact, and integrate their body language into the surrounding environment exude the invincible charm of "fate-friendly people". Therefore, you should take the initiative to make eye contact with others and nod gently when your eyes meet to convey respect and friendliness. If at a party, everyone has a glass of wine, your hands must not be empty. If there is music, your body should dance with it. In this way, those who are interested in you and those who belong to you will be happy to get close to you.

Tip 2: Look for clues from the environment and speak elegantly

If you go up to you directly and say, "I like you very much, may I get to know you?" With luck, you will win the jackpot, but more often than not, you will frighten people and bring trouble to yourself, haha! The wisest thing to do is to look for clues from the environment and make your words generous and not abrupt. For example: in the supermarket, you can ask: "Do you know if this brand of products is good?" In the library, say: "I also like this book you borrowed." In a coffee shop, greet like this: "I am the Are you coming here once?" If you could politely add: "I'm sorry to bother you, please..." before speaking, it would be more likable!

Tip 3. Praise a woman’s temperament and affirm a man’s ability

Some men start by saying to a woman: "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen..." This kind of direct compliment sometimes makes people wary. If you want to compliment the other person, a better way is to target her temperament: "I admire a quiet (generous) and elegant girl like you..." And if a woman wants to take the initiative to get involved with a man, from the perspective of asking for help, it is often easy Get a positive response: "My phone is having trouble (or my laptop is having issues), can you help me check it out?" Give men a chance to show off their skills, and they usually enjoy it. When a woman wants to compliment a man, she can also use a more roundabout way. When a man does considerate service for you (such as helping you get a drink), the best compliment is not: "Wow, you are so considerate!" A more thoughtful response is: "You know what? I appreciate considerate men! "By expressing your stance like this, the other party will know it well, but it won't be too explicit. Next, it is appropriate to advance or retreat. If your husband doesn't mean it, you won't be embarrassed.

Tip 4: Make a sound in the east and attack in the west, attack quietly

If you see someone of the opposite sex you like, but it’s not appropriate to speak directly, you can first find someone of the same sex as you and start chatting with a louder volume (hehe, you have to make sure he/she can hear you!): “Hi, how are you? ! I am so-and-so, are you here alone?" Start the conversation between the two. After a few words, you can casually turn to the person of the opposite sex you are targeting and invite him/her to join your conversation: "Hey, what about you? How do you know so-and-so?" When we don't feel like we're being picked on, but instead invited to join an ongoing conversation, we're usually more than happy to participate. So, go to a party, find a same-sex friend to hang out with, and you can take advantage of this approach. But remember, when the conversation gets better, the partner should find a reason to disappear, so that you can create an opportunity for the two of you to have a deep conversation alone.

Tip 5: Create opportunities to meet again

Don’t forget to turn today’s first acquaintance into a long-term interaction. A more natural way is to talk about the common hobbies between two people. You can say something like this: "That's great. I have a group of friends who are all movie fans. Let's call you next time we watch a movie!" It's very casual to use this way. The way to say it is: "Please leave your contact information and I will definitely contact you next time!" Or simply and generously say: "I enjoyed chatting with you today. Let's exchange experiences together when we have time next time!"

The above is a detailed introduction to 5 tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex. I hope it will be helpful to you to further understand the psychology of gender. In daily life, if you fall in love at first sight, you might as well try the above methods to strike up a conversation with him or her, so that you can happily enjoy your world together.