Men have iron-clad names. They will not shed tears easily in front of many people. They carry a lot, but who cares that they also have a fragile side.

Men are always considered to be open-minded, so whether it is their wives, colleagues or friends, they will always point it out without any hesitation when they are dissatisfied with the men around them. Xiao Zhenyu, director of the Assessment Department of the Mental Health Promotion Center of the Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences, pointed out that men are actually "face animals" and the biggest damage to their self-esteem often does not come from difficulties and poverty, but from some casual words in life.

5 things that hurt a man’s self-esteem the most

1. Comment that he is small-minded or cowardly

Everyone is afraid of being told about their weaknesses. For example, the poor are afraid of being called poor, and the nouveau riche are afraid of being called uneducated. For men, it is the most humiliating thing to be thought of as not having a broad mind or being timid. Whether it's a female colleague, a classmate or a buddy, whether intentional or not, such comments will seriously hurt a man's self-esteem. Especially when he hears these words from his wife, he will feel that even the people closest to him do not respect him, which is even more lethal.

2. Indifferent when he boasts

Men have some heroic dreams, and they occasionally show off their past glory to colleagues, buddies or partners. If the other party has no reaction at this time, or says something like "this is nothing" or "it's boring", then the man will inevitably feel a sense of loss in his psychology.

3. Disclosure of life privacy

When women get together, they like to talk endlessly about their husbands' shortcomings, and even share their private lives with their best friends, and tell others about the unsatisfactory life of the couple. This will make men feel that their secrets are no longer secrets and are treated as after-dinner gossip. The topic of conversation can easily affect the relationship between husband and wife.

4. Mention embarrassing things about him in public

Regardless of men and women, there are always people who like to expose people's shortcomings in public places, such as "I was in the same room with Xiao Wang on a business trip and was fainted by his feet", "Xiao Li likes to pick his nose when he is fine", even though it does not involve principle, but it will greatly reduce a man's self-conscious image. There are also people who like to make fun of their male colleagues or boyfriends' positions and incomes, which will make the person involved feel that his or her abilities have been denied and thus hurt his or her self-esteem. Additionally, it can be embarrassing to constantly ask single men about their relationships, whether with good intentions or bad intentions.

5. Praise another man in front of him

If their wives appreciate celebrities such as Beckham and Tom Cruise, I believe that most men will not be unhappy because this is far away from their lives. But if your wife or a female colleague with whom you have a good relationship often praises her male colleague or his buddies or brothers in front of a man, it will hurt the man's self-esteem. It's like being compared to a neighbor's child by your parents when you were a child. The closer you are, the more embarrassing it becomes. (Editor: BoBo)