When you want to choose a lifelong partner, no one has to make a wrong choice. However, when the divorce rate is as high as 50 %, you know that many people are choosing him (her )'s partner made a serious mistake. If you're serious about finding and having a lifelong partner, here are five questions to ask yourself.

Question 1: Do we have a common goal in life?

If you've been married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time. How do you plan to spend this time? Eat or run together? You must share something deeper and more meaningful with him or her, and you must have a common goal in life.

Two things can happen in a marriage: you can grow together, or you can grow separately. Fifty percent of people grow up separately. To make a marriage successful, you must know what you want in terms of the bottom line in life, and then marry (or marry) someone who is the same as you.

Question 2: Do you feel safe when sharing your feelings and thoughts with him/her?

This question is related to the quality of your relationship. "Feeling safe" means that you can communicate openly and honestly with this person. The foundation of good communication is trust. Be honest with yourself! Make sure you marry the person you feel emotionally safe with.

Question 3: Is he (she) a special person worthy of admiration?

The meaning of this question is: Is he (she) a noble and sensitive person? How do you test him or her?

Here are some suggestions: Does he or she use general foundations as a method of personal growth? Is he/she serious about improving himself/herself? Someone defined a good person as someone who always strives to do the right thing.

So ask your significant other: How does he/she use his/her time?

Basically there are two types of people in this world: those who are committed to personal growth and those who seek a comfortable life. The kind of person who has a comfortable life as his goal will put personal enjoyment first. You need to know this before walking down the aisle with him or her.

Question 4: How does he (she) treat other people?

The most important thing that fosters relationships is the ability to give. The so-called giving is the ability to make others happy. See if this person enjoys giving? What is his attitude toward those with whom he has nothing to do? For example: waiter, bus driver, etc. How does he treat his parents and siblings? Does he know how to be grateful? If he's not grateful to the person who gave him everything, don't expect him to be grateful to you. Does he gossip and speak ill of others? A person who gossips does not know how to love. You can be sure that if he is not good to others, he will not be good to you either.

Question 5: Do you hope to change this person after marriage?

Too many people make the mistake of hoping to "change" their spouse after marriage. You may want someone to change after marriage... maybe for the worse, and if you can't fully accept him or her for who they are, you're not ready for marriage. In summary, during the love stage, you should use your head more and less your heart.

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