When people wish a newlywed couple, they will never forget to add the phrase "grow old together". It is indeed the most sincere blessing for a newlywed couple. After all, if you really love each other, there is nothing in the world than growing old together. Even happier. However, not many couples can truly grow old together. This is because if you want to grow old together, there are reasons and methods. Here are the factors that couples must have in order to grow old together:

1: Desire

Desire is a very primitive thing. Appetite, sexual desire, and desire for survival all belong to the category of desire. If a couple has sex just for sexual needs, it is also a dangerous thing, because at this time, the oxytocin in the body and vasopressin levels will be high, causing harm to health. Moreover, these chemicals can create a strong sense of dependence in people, but it would be bad if the other person is not a suitable partner.

Two: Obsession

When love begins, both parties will be infatuated with each other, but how can you maintain such enthusiasm over time. Experts believe that romantic love produces a chemical called dopamine, which causes people to become overly obsessed with their sexual partners. From an evolutionary perspective, this natural fascination drives male and female animals to stay together and spend the female's pregnancy together. Surveys show that people in the infatuation stage spend more than 90% of their time thinking about their lovers. There are two reasons for the lack of love between couples: first, the nerve terminals of the brain have been exposed to high levels of stimulation for a long time and gradually become numb; second, the secretion level of brain chemicals gradually decreases. No matter what the cause is, generally after two to three years, the enthusiasm will gradually cool down.

Three: Adhesion

When the infatuation weakens, there will be a period of adhesion. When partners have a mutual attachment mentality, both parties will feel safer. It is this power that makes a couple grow old together. Of course, the problem in life is how to find the other half to share it all with you.

The psychology of marriage and love is a subject that adults need to study. If you want a long-lasting love and a sweet couple, you might as well pay attention to the psychological factors recommended by marriage experts to grow old together. Try your best to learn more and maintain the relationship between both parties, so that you can truly be happy partners.

5 things you must remember to stay together for a lifetime

1. Be able to contact each other at any time.

Due to life, study and work, it is inevitable for two people to be separated frequently. For us now, mobile phones should be our main communication tool. Don't turn off your phone when nothing happens, or don't bring your phone with you. If your phone runs out of power, replace the battery and charge it in time. I'm calling you, not to supervise you or check on you, but to know that you are safe and that you are fine now. Therefore, please turn on the phone 24 hours a day. If you do not answer the phone for various reasons, be sure to call back immediately afterwards and proactively explain the reason.

2. Talk frequently and let each other know what the other is thinking.

This is the most important point for two people to get along for a long time. Without communication, how can we understand each other? How can we form a tacit understanding without understanding. You don’t need to talk about your mental activities like you are giving a thought report. Just like chatting, talk about what is happening around you, your own thoughts, or how two people get along. Fall in love, fall in love, how can you fall in love without talking? Don't keep everything in your heart. This will make you feel uncomfortable. I guess it will be uncomfortable too. Women naturally like to think wildly. Often, if you talk about a lot of things, things will go away. If you don't say anything, nothing will turn into trouble, and sweetness will turn into sadness.

3. The quarrel needs to be vented, not overnight.

When two people are together, quarrels are inevitable. But I hope that the two people will not have a cold war and can quarrel and fight. Let each other vent so they don't get sick. Not to mention staying overnight. Sleeping while angry is the easiest way to kill someone. Unless you are the heartless type, you can just lie down and nothing will happen. But it is best to solve it on the same day, because many things tend to become more difficult to solve the longer they are put aside.

4. Respect each other.

We should not only respect each other when we speak, but also respect each other's thoughts and actions. Especially in front of the other party's friends, don't show too much how awesome you are, you must have the upper hand, because the protagonist is not you in the first place. It doesn't mean that you must give him enough face and belittle yourself in front of his friends, so that he will look like him in front of his friends, that is, love him and respect him. Rather, don't deliberately belittle him or show yourself off, but support each other. Only in this way will others feel that you respect each other and have equal feelings.

5. Don’t have endless contact with friends of the opposite sex.

Everyone has friends of the opposite sex, and that's not a bad thing. On the contrary, it shows that you are mentally healthy. But don’t have too many friends of the opposite sex. Having more friends of the same sex is even more problematic. Contact is okay, but not too frequent. There is a saying: "When you quarrel with your lover, talk to strangers what is on your mind." You will always be gentle with friends of the opposite sex and tell them what is on your mind. But he is indifferent to his lover, cherishes his words like gold, and doesn't say anything that is on his mind. Then your relationship will definitely not be able to withstand any storms, and peace will only be temporary. Once the other party can't stand it anymore and breaks out, then you will definitely be doomed.