It is said that marriage is for leaving, or what does it do? But a good marriage, from the beautiful happiness, gradually changes the taste, and then parted ways after the bruises. Not a good thing.

I think back then, when I went to military school, the management was strict. In the first three years, all the students worked underground, and everything seemed to be calm. But when graduation was approaching, more than a dozen pairs of lovers suddenly appeared in a team of No. 100 people. I never understood how they hooked up.

After graduation, bad news came one after another. Until now, the original couple has been running out. When a friend talked about divorce, he looked helpless: It was like peeling off several layers of skin!

In this case, why bother in the first place! People are always full of daydreams when they get married, thinking that they can live a happy life from now on. Usually, No one would have imagined at this time that he would be sitting in a lawyer's office some time later, splitting his property with the person who had put him at risk of death.

Divorce cannot be prevented 100%, but we can still take steps to avoid the nightmare of divorce as much as possible. If you are already divorced, don’t be discouraged. You can also use the following methods to manage your future marriage. These ten methods may seem simple, but they are actually very practical. If you don’t want to suffer the pain of divorce, then just follow them and make your marriage last longer. There should be no problem.

　1. Be in a relationship for two years before getting married

Researchers say that if a couple gets married after being in a relationship for about two years and four months (this is the average time of a relationship) , their divorce probability will be relatively low. People who get married in a hurry after meeting each other and those who delay getting married have a higher risk of divorce. Dr. Ted Haston, an American marriage research expert, said: "People who delay getting married the longest are also most likely to break up."

　2. Be cautious about trial marriage

Nowadays, cohabitation before marriage is unprecedentedly popular. Of course, you can also find someone to live a "trial marriage" life, but researchers do not support cohabitation before marriage because they found that , people who live together before marriage have a higher risk of divorce.

3. Get older before getting married

Statistics show that if you get married after the age of 25, you are more likely to have a long-term marriage.

4. Discuss important issues before marriage

How many children do you want? How will you manage money? It is important to discuss these issues before the honeymoon. Premarital education or premarital counseling can help you solve this problem. Multiple studies have shown that people who undergo this procedure experience greater marital satisfaction and a greater sense of responsibility for their spouses.

5. You can quarrel, but don’t escalate it into a "world war"

Blocking is an integral part of the relationship between husband and wife. Fighting and arguing themselves will not lead to divorce. But be careful how you argue. Researchers Gottman and Levinson said they were able to predict whether a couple would divorce by looking at the negative manner in which they argued and the extent of constructive and positive communication. What to avoid in an argument: criticism, contempt, overprotection, and rejection. Learn to defuse heated arguments with humor and kind words.

6. Play together

Yes, both of you need to have your own personal interests and hobbies. However, too much emphasis on the self can lead to a life of separation, or a gradual separation. Just like the husband goes golfing every Saturday and the wife goes swimming every Saturday. Learn to get back together by participating in activities that you both enjoy. It's also important to find time to be intimate, even if it doesn't seem like you've been apart for a minute. Intimacy methods such as massage and cuddling can make you feel closer.

7. Sharing housework

One party does most of the housework, while the other party is lazy and leisurely. This is the "secret" of divorce.

8. Respect each other as guests

Sometimes we treat the people we love most in the most rude ways without even realizing it. Check yourself: "Am I being nicer to friends, acquaintances, co-workers, and even strangers than I am to my significant other?" Praise each other often; remember to say "please" and "thank you" rather than issuing orders or nagging. .

9. When you have a problem, you have to solve it

Is one of you depressed? Is there a drug problem? Is there an alcohol problem? Is one of you interested in cheating? If you or both of you have these problems and don't think of ways to solve them, the risk of divorce will be greatly increased. Addressing these issues through counseling services and other means can reduce your risk of divorce.

10. Marry the person you want to marry

This seems obvious, but many people don’t take it seriously. If you had to beg, sweet talk, or even issue an ultimatum to get married, you should realize that he or she probably doesn't want to get married at all. If you thought things were going to change the moment you were put on the ring, you were wrong. Don't cause trouble for yourself. It's better to find someone to live with who wants to get married as much as you do.

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