I saw a piece of social news in the newspaper some time ago: a highly educated couple (a doctor husband and a doctorate wife) filed for divorce in court. The man's reason was that his wife had refused to consummate the marriage due to vaginismus since they got married. "Sex" is not everything in a marriage, but it is an important part after all. Without it in a marriage, it would be like missing that alluring layer of sweet cream on a cake!

"What should it be like on the first night?" "Is it bound to be painful for the first time to have sex?" People with higher expectations are usually more disappointed; because "newbies are on the road", it is the first time for both men and women, and they often rush into things. Failure to enter through the right door will result in failure. For a woman who has never had sexual experience, when she comes for the first time, she is usually mixed with nervous and anxious emotions, which makes the muscles of the whole body contract and cannot enter the situation. At this time, if the man wants to forcefully cross the mountain, the vaginal opening will The tight muscles caused intense pain, which added to her fear of the first night pain. From then on, she refused to have sex and regarded it as a fearful way.

Every man’s first time may not be successful. If he is too nervous or cares too much about his performance, he will not be able to get an erection or suffer from premature ejaculation. On the other hand, if he is unable to understand or even sarcastic, his lover will never have hope from now on. "Again" is a family tragedy.

Our ancestors never forgot to include a sexology guide with pictures and texts in their daughter’s dowry. Since it was inconvenient to explain it in words, we had to follow the pictures and figure it out for ourselves. Modern parents push sex education to schools and society; so the next generation’s sex knowledge comes from comics, adult magazines and even computer networks. Is this progress or regression?

Which contraceptive method is the most comfortable during the first night

Mr. Wang, a reader in Beijing, asked: My wife and I have just gotten married and don’t want children for the time being. We use condoms for birth control, but sometimes I feel that it affects my pleasure, and my wife is allergic to certain brands of condoms. May I ask, which contraceptive method is more comfortable and safer?

George Lauris, a British sociologist and doctor of obstetrics and gynecology, answered: If you want to have safe and happy sex, you must choose a convenient and comfortable contraceptive method. Generally speaking, contraceptive methods differ at different physiological stages and cannot be generalized. For most people, oral contraceptive pills are relatively safe and comfortable and do not affect pleasure. However, take it in advance and try not to choose emergency contraceptive pills. If you experience weight gain, dizziness, etc. after taking it, please consult your doctor promptly. Secondly, male condoms are also a relatively comfortable contraceptive method. As long as you choose the right size and use them properly, they will not affect your pleasure. However, if you are allergic, you should stop immediately. In addition, many people choose ligation for contraception. Relatively speaking, it is more difficult to do fallopian tube ligation than vas deferens ligation, so it is generally recommended for men to have ligation as it will not affect sexual ability. Finally, intrauterine devices are the contraceptive method chosen by some women, but some people may have rejection reactions to the device. If problems such as heavy bleeding occur, they should consult a doctor in time.

The strange custom of ancient women’s first night

[The first type of woman dedicated her first night to the "Golden Bull"] In ancient Egypt, there was a trend of worshiping the "Golden Bull". The so-called "Golden Bull" is a black bull with special markings on its body. It is said that this is the color of the god of fertility. Reese's incarnation. In the Qing Dynasty, not long after the queen entered the bridal chamber, the emperor also wore a dragon robe and auspicious clothes, and was escorted from the Qianqing Palace to the Kunning Palace by a nearby prince.

[The first type of woman dedicated her first night to the "Golden Bull"] In ancient Egypt, there was a trend of worshiping the "Golden Bull". The so-called "Golden Bull" is a black bull with special markings on its body. It is said that this is the color of the god of fertility. Reese's incarnation. During the 40 days when the "Taurus" first arrived in the temple, men were not allowed to go. Only women were allowed to worship naked in the temple. Girls dedicated their lower bodies to the "Taurus" one after another. This was their religious responsibility.

[The third type is that chiefs, landowners, and monarchs execute the right of first night] In the indigenous people of Bengal, India, virgins are not allowed to get married unless they serve the chief who is also a priest. The custom in Bretagne, France is: the first night is dedicated to Christ, the second night is dedicated to the Virgin, the third night is dedicated to the landlord, and the fourth night is dedicated to the groom.