In sex, men are willing to be "long-distance running champions". Hardness and durability have become the key to showing their charm. "Men often ask me how long is the right time for sex. In fact, sex is not just physical work." Shang Xuejun, deputy chief physician of the Andrology Department of Nanjing Military Region General Hospital, said that complete sex includes foreplay, substantive intercourse (from the sexual organs There are three parts (counting from the beginning of contact) and the aftermath. Among them, the actual intercourse has attracted much attention because of its "live ammunition". "The time for substantive love is too short. If it is only one or two minutes, it is obviously difficult to satisfy both husband and wife, but it is not that the longer the better."

Substantial love lasts too long. On the one hand, both husband and wife will be exhausted physically and mentally, and they will need a longer recovery time after sex. On the other hand, women’s vaginal secretion liquid that plays a lubricating role during sex is limited. If it lasts too long, the vagina will become deformed. It is dry and easy to bruise.

Beeland College in Pennsylvania, USA, conducted a survey of thousands of volunteers and finally found that 7-13 minutes is the "golden time" for substantial intercourse. This is also the most comprehensive and objective survey ever conducted in the field of sexology.

It needs to be reminded that the purpose of sex is to bring pleasure to both parties. When couples have sex in a happy mood, they often feel that "the happy time is always so short", and there is no need to calculate "how long it will take."

Men deliberately delay time, and their original intention is nothing more than to hope that women can get more pleasure. Experts suggest that it is better to "explore" more and understand your partner's sexual sensitive zones, and put more effort into foreplay, using rich, gentle and appropriate stimulation to fully arouse the "resonance" of the woman to increase her ability to reach orgasm. Chances are, this is far more effective than monotonous mechanical movement during substantive intercourse. Women themselves should also communicate more with their partners to let them understand that time is not the key factor in determining the quality of sex.

Eight ways that women love most that men don’t know

1. Wedding night

Reason for commemoration: This day is her most beautiful day. She will feel very safe with her husband.

Try this tonight: Even though you had your honeymoon 12 years ago. Use a ballpoint pen to write a sexy message on her body in the morning, because women are easily excited by words. It would be best if she saw it a few hours later, then she would have time to fantasize about it. When she gets home, try treating her differently than before, such as just kissing her gently on the cheek or neck.

2. Business trip

Reason for commemoration: Have you ever felt that the most romantic moments are when you come back from a business trip and are intimate with each other? Watching a romantic adult movie is so sweet.

Try this tonight: Whether you're out for eight days or eight minutes, imitate that passion and kiss him softly all over his face.

3. Quarrel

Reasons to Remember: You had a yelling argument and maybe broke a few dishes. Maybe things will be more intense in the bedroom. Because when people are angry, both partners' testosterone increases, and if you enter the bedroom with this high level of testosterone and anger, the desire will be even higher.

Try this tonight: Create a heated argument without actually hurting each other. Maybe you can also try some physical contact, such as miniature golf, pillow fighting, or naked wrestling, but remember to let her win.

4. Breakup

Reason for commemoration: You have made the decision to separate, but the final date will not cause any harm to both parties. Of course, your feelings will definitely be different: physically speaking, research has found that during this final sex, the hormones of the man's sperm will change, and this change will cause the other party to spontaneously ovulate. In other words, you have subconsciously turned her on, even if you don't want to; psychologically, when you know this is your last time, you will both be more relaxed and carefree.

5. Birthday

Reason for commemoration: On your birthday, you always think about what kind of gifts or surprises she will give you. Maybe a different kind of married life is the best gift.

Try this tonight: Tell her you're taking her somewhere mysterious and ask her if she can leave her panties at home. Take her somewhere with Latin music, because Latin dancing is very sexy. When you get home, you can present her with the perfect gift: stimulating all the senses and giving her an orgasm like never before.

6. The first time with her

Reason for commemoration: Since it is your first time, all your senses will be mobilized. And because every man has his own set of sexual processes, but when this process changes, they will be more excited when they are with a new girlfriend.

Try this tonight: Maybe tonight isn't your first time, but the point is that you engage all your senses, or at least stimulate them in a different way. You can try these little games: Blindfold yourself, put a drop of honey on her body, and use your tongue to find the drop of honey; take a sip of champagne and then kiss her without swallowing it.

7. Vacation

Reasons for commemoration: First of all, you are free from pressure from all aspects, such as work, money and other things. And due to the change in the surrounding environment, the atmosphere will be increased.

Try this tonight: From simple luxuries you can take to vacation every day. Sleep on your back with your feet on the pillow or turn the bed around. Even with this small change, you'll both feel an extra kick.

8. Pregnancy style

Reason for commemoration: Many couples are nervous when they try to have a baby for the first time because they have been trying to avoid birth control, but now they decide to become parents. Saying "Let's have a baby" to your significant other is a very romantic thing.

Try this tonight: Place some rose petals on a ceiling fan and turn the fan on when she lies down. Put on the song from your wedding. If there is something special to you, bring it to the bedroom because it will create a special rapport between you. The side position is the easiest to get pregnant.

Learn to whisper in bed to improve your sex quality score

1. Praise

Chinese people tend to be stingy about praising others, but she is a sweet-mouthed woman. Her few compliments often inspire my confidence and make me feel happy. The whole process of making love with her is so enjoyable.

She likes to kiss me while praising my soft lips and sexy chin, and nibbling my earlobe to praise how cute it is. She would also slide down my chest, and when she reached my belly button, she would smile and caress it with fascination. I know I'm not perfect, and I can't even be called a handsome guy, but seeing the way she looked at me, I felt that I was the proudest.

I usually can't hold back anymore and penetrate her. Only in front of her, I feel that I am a complete man, full of charm, no need to hide myself, I hope that I can repay her with everything I have and make her the happiest woman.

2. Foreign Languages

My girlfriend is French, but I don’t understand French at all. We all use Chinese in our daily conversations, except for one situation, which is when she is about to climax. Whenever she starts to close her eyes in bed and reaches a state of selflessness, she can't help but speak French: This is a signal to me, because I know that I have made her ecstasy again, and I also know how to control my own speed. I couldn't understand a word of the French she spoke, which gave me an exotic and mysterious sense of excitement, a little strange, not like her usual self.

I have seen a similar plot in a movie. The heroine spoke the indigenous language passionately at a critical moment, and the hero was inspired to lose control, and a passionate sex was completed. I once asked a female friend, and she said that her French boyfriend also liked her to murmur some Chinese that he couldn’t understand on bed. It seems that the effectiveness of foreign languages ​​is universal, but the trick is that you must choose the other person completely. Unintelligible language.

3. Moan

My girlfriend's moans always excite me, giving me a sense of conquest, as if she has been "tortured" into submission by my brave me. So I like the sound of my girlfriend moaning very much, it is more effective than the best aphrodisiac in the world.

4. Children’s Language

Warm reminder from Jiujiu Health Network: I like girls to act coquettishly towards me, especially when they talk like a little girl. I wonder if men have some vague "pedophile" tendencies. One time, my girlfriend had a sudden idea and suddenly said when I was entering from the front: "You can't bully me! I'm still a virgin! Oh, it hurts the first time!...It hurts." I really felt like she was a virgin , immediately couldn't help but bully her, and afterwards I felt like I wanted to love her and protect her. I really like her childish tone, and I also like her to satisfy my yearning for a "virgin". Maybe you think this is too masculine, but you can’t help it, men just like this.