1. What should I do if sexual intercourse fails for the first time?

Failure to have sex on the wedding night is also very common. According to analysis, the main reasons for failure of first-time sexual intercourse are (due to excessive tension), accounting for 10%; ejaculation before sexual intercourse or ejaculation just after touching the female vagina (caused by over-excitement and impatience), accounting for 8%; pain on the woman's part, accounting for 35% ; 15% did not know the location of sexual intercourse; 20% did not know the reason. On the other hand, the failure of first-time sexual intercourse is related to the experience of caressing. Inexperienced people account for 2/3 of the people who fail. After the first-time sexual intercourse fails, 1/3 of them can understand the reasons. Most of them fail after 2 ―The union will be successful after 5 trial intercourses, so even if it fails, there is no need to be impatient or have any worries. You can try again after taking a short break, or wait for a day or two after both parties have stabilized their emotions and the fatigue of the newlyweds has been relieved before trying again. try.

If the man fails, the woman's accusations such as "really useless" and "too bad" will often make the man who feels deeply ashamed and uneasy suffer greater psychological setbacks and get into trouble. At this time, if the woman can be reasonable and murmur love words as if nothing has happened, to encourage and comfort the man, the man will regain his courage and seek a harmonious and happy sexual life.

2. Do you need contraception during honeymoon travel?

Nowadays, wedding tourism has become quite common. Although it has many advantages, newlyweds should not forget to pay attention to contraception, so as not to sow inferior "seeds" and regret for life. Because travel life is irregular, the mood is tense, mental and physical fatigue, and the body's resistance is also reduced, which will affect the quality of sperm and eggs. Besides, the climate varies greatly from place to place during the journey, making it easy to catch colds and colds. In addition, mixed crowds, widespread pollution, and poor sanitary conditions for bathing and accommodation make it easy to induce and transmit diseases.

In particular, infections with rubella virus and sexually transmitted viruses are important causes of miscarriage, premature delivery, stillbirth or fetal malformation or secondary infertility. Medical and geneticists believe that comfortable and pleasant living conditions are appropriate for conception. From a eugenic point of view, if newlyweds want to get pregnant early, they should not go on a honeymoon trip. Honeymoon couples should take contraceptive measures, and it is best to wait 1-2 months after the trip to conceive.

3. Does semen leakage after sexual intercourse affect pregnancy?

It is a common phenomenon for semen to flow out of the vagina after intercourse. In fact, although each ejaculation can discharge about 2-5 ml of semen, which contains hundreds of millions of sperm, only a very small number of sperm can finally pass through the cervix and uterine cavity and reach the fallopian tube waiting for fertilization, generally only 15-50. No more than 200 at most. Among them, only the first and high-quality sperm is selected by the egg and combined with it to complete the great cause of life continuation. Most of the remaining sperm are rejected from the palace and are discharged from the vagina along with their semen. In order to prevent the leakage of semen and increase the chance of conception, the woman's buttocks can be elevated during sexual intercourse and she can lie on her back for two hours after sexual intercourse to ensure that the semen floods the cervix and reduces its outflow. As for excess semen being discharged from the vagina after sexual intercourse, it is a natural phenomenon and generally has no impact on pregnancy.

4. Is bleeding and pain a virgin?

The first thing a newlywed comes into contact with when having sex for the first time is the "hymen" issue. The hymen has always played a more important role in social and moral concepts than other sexual organs. This is because its integrity has always been considered a reliable indicator, or even the only indicator, of determining a woman's chastity. In fact, from the perspective of medical practice, it is not scientific to judge whether a virgin is a virgin based on bleeding and pain. Because not every virgin bleeds or has pain during sexual intercourse for the first time, and the characteristics of the hymen vary from person to person. It can be thin, thick, loose, tight, large, or small, and the shape is also different. Some are caused by strenuous exercise, riding, etc. It ruptures due to reasons such as car accidents, falls, trauma, menstrual suppositories, masturbation, etc.; some hymens have shrunk on their own as they get older; some hymens are not obvious at birth but remain intact despite repeated sexual intercourse. Therefore, it is obviously extremely unfair to judge a wife's chastity based solely on her hymen.

5. Will contraception affect sex life?

Among newlyweds who are preparing to take contraceptive measures, the first question they repeatedly consider is whether contraception will affect the normal reaction of sexual life. In fact, a large number of scientific experiments have proven that various contraceptive measures, such as male condoms, female vaginal diaphragms, oral contraceptive pills, and birth control rings, not only have no adverse effects on the human body, sexual function, and sexual life, but also "enhance sexual life." Provides freedom and psychological liberation.” The so-called "sexual discomfort" experienced by some people is not caused by the measures themselves, but is the result of psychological illusions, misunderstandings and even distortions caused by long-term social influence.

6. What method of contraception is best for newlyweds?

If newlyweds do not want to have children prematurely, they can use contraception. It is best to use condoms and contraceptive cream, which can not only ensure the contraceptive effect, but also increase the lubrication of the vagina. Condoms have no side effects and are the most hygienic. If used correctly, they will not affect the pleasure of sexual life, but can also prevent some infectious diseases between couples. They are safe and reliable for both the couple and future children. If there are no other discomforts, you can always use this method for contraception. After 2-3 months of marriage, when the woman's vagina becomes looser, she can also use a vaginal diaphragm plus contraceptive cream.

7. What diseases should be avoided when newlyweds have sex?

One is urinary tract infection. Such as urethritis, cystitis, pyelonephritis, etc. The prevention method is that both men and women should wash their vulva frequently. Both parties should clean their genitals and vulva before each sexual intercourse. It is best for women to urinate once and wash their vulva again after having sex to reduce the chance of infection.

The second is intercourse syncope. Because the bride is overly nervous, fearful or excited, her heartbeat speeds up, and symptoms of cerebral anemia may occur during intercourse, such as palpitation, shortness of breath, pale complexion, cold sweats, decreased blood pressure, weak pulse, clammy limbs, trance, aphasia, etc. When this happens, the bride should lower her head and drink a glass of sugar water. Generally, she can recover slowly. If she is still unconscious, she should be sent to the hospital for treatment. The preventive method is that the bride should be in a comfortable mood and should not be too nervous. The relationship between the two parties should be harmonious. The groom should restrain himself, be gentle in his movements and avoid being rough.

The third is female vaginal damage. Such as vaginal tears, excessive bleeding, vaginal vault damage, etc. These are all caused by the groom's rough movements and excessive force. Especially if the husband lacks self-control after drinking and has rough sex, these accidents may occur, and some may cause shock due to excessive bleeding. If this happens, you should stop sexual activity and use a sterile cotton ball to compress the bleeding area for a while. If it is serious, you should be sent to the hospital for treatment. The fourth is vaginismus. A very small number of brides are afraid of sexual activities because they do not understand them, and experience vaginismus during sexual intercourse, which makes it difficult to have smooth intercourse and even causes the penis to become incarcerated and difficult to pull out. The preventive method is for the bride to cooperate and coordinate, not to be nervous, and to regard sexual intercourse as a part of a happy life.

When you have vaginismus, you can take antispasmodics and sedatives, such as atropine, luminal, etc., half an hour before sexual intercourse. If you have vaginal deformity or stenosis, you should go to the hospital for treatment. Fifth, the man’s penis is damaged. Some grooms are impatient and aggressive during sexual intercourse, causing damage to the glans, rupture of the foreskin frenulum, bleeding, and severe pain. In mild cases, they can recover after a few days of rest. In severe cases, they should go to the hospital for treatment in time.

8. Which diseases may prevent pregnancy temporarily or for life?

Every newlywed couple hopes to have a healthy and smart child. To achieve this goal, brides suffering from the following diseases should not become pregnant for the time being. Such as heart disease, hepatitis, nephritis, tuberculosis, diabetes, hyperthyroidism, asthma, epilepsy and other diseases. In addition, if the woman has benign tumors in the abdomen, pelvis, breast, thyroid and other parts of the body, she should have surgery or treatment before pregnancy to avoid aggravation of the disease during pregnancy. , difficult to handle. If one or both parties have dementia or mental illness, they should not be pregnant for the rest of their lives. In addition, those with severe heart disease, poor heart function or heart failure should avoid pregnancy throughout their lives to avoid aggravating the condition after pregnancy and putting their lives in danger. Therefore, those suffering from such diseases should take sterilization measures after marriage.

9. Should the first child after marriage have an abortion?

Newlyweds should be cautious about whether to have an abortion for their first child after marriage. Newlyweds who do not want to have children and have not taken contraceptive measures must go to the hospital's gynecology department for consultation to choose and implement a contraceptive method that suits them to avoid pregnancy and abortion. Of course, this does not mean that women who have never had children must not have abortions. If abortion is necessary, when is the best time to do it? For women who have never given birth, the sooner the better. At present, many hospitals have carried out early pregnancy aspiration surgery limited to within 40 days of pregnancy. This kind of surgery is more suitable for women who have never given birth.

10. How to identify oral contraceptive reactions and early pregnancy reactions?

Most women have no side effects after taking birth control pills. A very small number of women may experience early pregnancy-like reactions after taking the pills, such as nausea, vomiting, upset appetite, dizziness, bleeding or reduced menstruation. These symptoms are similar to early pregnancy reactions. A married woman should consider whether she is pregnant if the following four symptoms occur: the second is early pregnancy reaction, the third is increased frequency of urination, and the fourth is breast swelling, pain, and coloration. Most symptoms of early pregnancy occur around 6 weeks after menopause, including dizziness, lack of energy, fatigue, sleepiness, intolerance to cold, poor appetite, and picky eaters, such as sour, sweet, or spicy foods. There are varying degrees of nausea or vomiting in the early morning. This reaction can range from mild to severe depending on individual physical characteristics. It usually disappears on its own about 12 weeks after menopause.