It is often difficult to imagine that men and women in their later years still have sexual feelings, sexual needs and sexual relationships. There is no doubt that outdated cultural beliefs play a large role in creating this illusion. These misconceptions are reinforced by a common tendency among young people to deny the sexual activity of older people. The first obstacle in the sexual life of the elderly is precisely this outdated concept that the elderly themselves have.

The elderly should also pay attention to their sexual life

For the elderly, especially elderly women, the most important thing to pay attention to is not to force their sexual requirements. Due to the influence of old ideas, many women in our country often believe that they must consciously and actively terminate sexual intercourse after menopause, otherwise they will be easily considered "old and immoral", which is inappropriate. Older women still have sexual desire, and some may increase it after menopause. This is not a bad thing or scandal, but is conducive to the harmony of the sexual life of couples. Therefore, not only women should not suppress their sexual requirements, but their husbands should also understand and cooperate. Even older women who already have sexual frigidity can relieve their psychological depression and regain their sexual youth with the guidance of a sex doctor and the cooperation of their husbands.

Many elderly people, especially women, often have excessive self-esteem due to their aging appearance, causing them to lose many opportunities to enjoy sex. Aging is the law of natural development, and no one can escape the laws of nature. Inferiority is a punishment for excess. For a family and an elderly couple, their eternal charm comes from the beauty of their souls, the sweat they put into building a family together, and a harmonious and happy sex life.

Many elderly couples had a happy sexual life when they were young, but after entering old age, because one or both spouses succumbed to the social customs of the time and place that despised sex for the elderly, they restrained the expression of their normal feelings and terminated sexual activities prematurely. . There are also many elderly men and women who have met a suitable partner after being widowed. However, due to the old ideas in their minds or due to the pressure of feudal forces, they missed the opportunity of "twilight love" and secretly endured mental and emotional pain. Physical pain. These are the results of not establishing a correct perspective. The sexual requirements of the elderly are normal physiological needs. They have the right to remarry and enjoy sexual pleasure. The elderly should abandon the shackles of old traditional concepts and fight for their rights openly and openly.

From a social perspective, the idea of ​​belittling the elderly and praising youth, health, and physical beauty as an ideal vitality is so prevalent that many older people feel that any sexual desire is abnormal. People who are sensitive to this type of upbringing pressure may feel guilty and deeply embarrassed when they experience sexual arousal. In some cases, the influence of cultural consciousness is so strong that older couples avoid sexual contact even more in order to conform to their imagined normative behavior. If any or all forms of sexual contact are avoided, opportunities for emotional communication and intimacy may be reduced to nothing. Fortunately, the issue of the elderly in our country has attracted more and more people's attention, and the discussion of sex and aging issues has begun to shift in a more open, scientific and accurate direction. We can expect that the restrictions on sexual behavior caused by upbringing biases in the past will fundamentally change. We can also expect that in the near future society will accept the activities of older people in this area as well as the normal sexual behavior of young people.

In short, the elderly must first establish a correct understanding before they can enjoy sex. Otherwise, it is difficult to imagine that elderly people who have ideological resistance or feelings of guilt and guilt can also have a harmonious sexual life.

Get rid of bad thoughts about the sex life of the elderly

As age increases, the decline of sexual function is inevitable, but it does not mean that the elderly cannot have sex. There are many reasons why Mr. Hu and his wife have such problems. First of all, they still have some mistakes. concept.

Misconception 1: You’re old and you can’t do it anymore.

As the body enters old age, sexual function decline is inevitable, but sexual function still exists. Many elderly men in their 70s and 80s are still able to get their young wives pregnant, and although elderly women have lost their reproductive functions, they are fully capable of sexual life. Therefore, as long as you maintain a good attitude and establish a sexual life pattern corresponding to your age, the elderly can also enjoy the joy of sexual life.

Misconception No. 2: The elderly are “irregular” in having sex.

Sexual pleasure is not a "patent" for young and middle-aged people. Older people also have normal sexual needs. According to foreign surveys, 83% and 70% of men aged 60 to 65 and 65 to 70 can lead a normal sexual life respectively. Many elderly couples have lost their sexual pleasure and ability simply because they suppress their needs due to the influence of old traditional ideas.

Misconception 3: Sex is just sexual intercourse.

Due to the decline of sexual function, the elderly may experience symptoms such as atrophy of reproductive organs, difficulty in erection, or vaginal dryness. Simple sexual intercourse is often not easy to complete, but kissing, hugging, caressing, and talking also belong to the category of sexual intercourse and can satisfy both men and women's sexual needs. desire and obtain psychological satisfaction.