It was already time to get off work. I was about to get off work when I was blocked at the door of the clinic by another patient. It seems that the patient is still relatively young, wearing a pair of glasses with a high degree of myopia, but there is an obviously melancholy look on his face. After the patient sits down, he naturally enters the topic.

Yu, 34 years old, is an engineer in a company. I got married 6 years ago. I was nervous when I had sex for the first time. In addition, I worked hard for many days to organize the wedding. It failed, which caused an excessive mental burden and I lost confidence in my sexual ability. Although they were able to have sex reluctantly, the marriage ended three years later due to insufficient erection strength and duration. She remarried after 2 years as a widower, but because the shadow in her heart had not been eliminated, and she often recalled the unhappiness of her previous marriage during sex, she felt heavy and couldn't do it for long. After having sex with his current wife half a year ago, the wife began to accuse her husband of impotence and had a big quarrel. After that, the patient could no longer erect his penis.

After several ideological struggles, in order to find a solution, the patient finally mustered up the courage to seek medical treatment. At first, he went to a Western medicine hospital in Beijing for treatment. He was diagnosed with "mental impotence" and received psychological treatment, but it failed to work, so he came to seek treatment from traditional Chinese medicine.

1. Patient situation

Nowadays, patients cannot achieve erection at all during sexual intercourse for more than half a year, but their sexual desire is normal and they occasionally experience spontaneous erections in the morning. Mental depression, sometimes fullness and tingling pain in the chest and flanks, dark red tongue, and heavy and stringy pulse.

2. Understanding of traditional Chinese medicine

From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, this is obviously due to mental stimulation leading to stagnation of liver qi, which damages the blood vessels over time, causing blood stasis and blocking the collaterals.

3. Rehabilitation methods

Prescription: Bupleurum 12g, Citrus aurantium 10g, white peony root 15g, Tribulus terrestris 30g, Salvia miltiorrhiza 30g, Angelica sinensis 10g, Achyranthes achyranthes 10g, 1 centipede (grind into powder and drink), turmeric 10g, Cyperus rotundus 10g, Nine-spice insect 10g, 3g of leech (grind into powder and drink), 2g of Dilong (grind into powder and drink), 10g of red peony root, 6g of Passepartout, take before water, 1 dose per day. After taking 7 doses, I was able to have sex. However, the angle of penile erection before intercourse was less than 90 degrees and the duration of intercourse was only about 1 minute. However, my spirits improved a lot and the pain in my chest and hypochondrium also disappeared. Shou Fang took another 7 doses. . Later, the erection angle of the penis was greater than 90 degrees, and the erection time was also more than 3 minutes. Considering that the patient has a medical history for many years, in order to consolidate the curative effect, it is recommended that the patient take the Chinese patent medicine Qiyanghuili Capsule for another 2 months. After that, the patient also introduced several male patients to come for treatment.

This is a very common type of impotence patients clinically. When newlyweds start to behave "not good", they often have a "history" of being criticized by their wives, and dignified men cannot correctly deal with the fear and nervousness of their first sexual life. The two factors add up, and eventually men are unable to behave. masculinity. And if the wife at this time can comfort her husband more and give him confidence, and the husband can also correctly treat the normal mentality of having sex for the first time, then the result will be "men become more and more powerful, and women become more and more happy." Why not do it?

4. Expert advice

As a man, you must never lose confidence when faced with anything that goes wrong. As a woman, when your man starts to behave unsatisfactoryly, you must not jump to conclusions or throw your hat in the hat. Give your husband time and believe that your husband is the best.

5. Clinical feedback

In the author's clinical practice, there are indeed many people who have erectile dysfunction due to similar reasons and come to the men's clinic for treatment. Roughly speaking, they should account for about 10% of the total causes of impotence. For the treatment of this type of impotence patients, in addition to guidance and treatment for the man, sexual guidance is also needed for his wife or sexual partner. Only in this way can the man's sexual function be better restored.

6. Classic remarks

Don't give up, don't abandon, don't get angry, happiness will be by your side.

Don’t touch these four minefields during your first sex life

On the "wedding night", when young men and women truly face sex life for the first time, and turn latent and surging sexual desire into reality of passionate sex, what should they pay attention to?

1. Don’t forget to kiss deeply

When having sex for the first time, men and women are often passionate about kissing and touching as a prelude to sexual intercourse. However, kissing inappropriately can lead to great joy and sorrow. If you kiss inappropriately or press the other person's neck too hard, the heart rate will slow down and the blood pressure will drop. In severe cases, it can reflexively cause cardiac arrest, which can lead to death.

2. Don’t overindulge yourself

Newly married men and women are so horny that they indulge in sexual desire and have sex frequently, which is harmful to the body. In the process of preparing for the wedding, you are already very tired. If you continue to have sex too much, the body's disease resistance will decrease and some diseases will occur. Generally speaking, healthy men and women should do it 6 to 7 times a week in the early days of marriage, and then reduce it to 3 to 4 times a week. As long as they don't feel tired the next day, but feel happy and energetic, they are adaptable. If there is emotional fatigue, weakness, backache, drowsiness, dizziness, shortness of breath, etc., it means that sexual intercourse is excessive and must be controlled, otherwise it will be harmful to health.

3. Don’t be impatient or rude

During sexual intercourse, the man should be kind and gentle, and should not be too rude to avoid causing pain to the woman and causing negative stimulation. Excessive excitement often leads to premature ejaculation. If this happens, don’t worry too much. It will gradually improve in the future. If a newly married woman catches her menstruation, the man must control his sexual behavior and cannot have sexual intercourse, otherwise it will cause pain to the woman.

4. Don’t be suspicious

If a newly married man and woman find that the woman's hymen has been broken during sexual intercourse for the first time, they should not doubt the bride's moral behavior. In fact, hymen rupture is common for women. Many daily activities can cause hymen rupture, such as participating in sports and heavier labor. Therefore, the man should not be suspicious and cause unnecessary conflicts.