It is said that getting along between husband and wife depends on trust between them, but in life, trust is not necessarily the only way for husband and wife to get along with each other. In fact, when husband and wife get along, we still need to pay attention to the following 10 behaviors to prevent the relationship between husband and wife from weakening.

1. Don’t make blind suspicions

Don't assume you know everything about your partner's thoughts and feelings. Nine times out of ten, you'll be wrong. In a marital crisis, this scenario often occurs: ghosting suspicions make both people angry, difficult to communicate, and eventually the relationship breaks down.

Suggestion: Take a piece of paper and follow your intuition to complete the sentence "I guess my lover will think that I ____ (to me)". Then, verify the accuracy of your guess with your loved one. As a result, you will find that many of your guesses are wrong. When you have questions, the best way is to ask him directly.

2. Don’t take everything for granted

It's important to express gratitude to your loved ones and eliminate three major negative attitudes: a sense of entitlement, unrealistic expectations, and feigned forgetfulness.

Suggestion: Write down the big and small things your loved one has done for you. Ask yourself if you have ever expressed gratitude for these things, and how. Keep expressing gratitude for a week and you will notice a change.

3. Don’t complain often

"It's all your fault!" "You asked me to do it, and everything is a mess because of you!" Such complaints are easy to say. Words such as "What responsibility should I bear" are rarely uttered. Complaints actually express accusations and threats, and the other party will naturally retaliate in kind, leading to an escalation of the conflict.

Suggestion: Write down your complaints about your lover, then ask yourself, examine your responsibilities, and finally discuss and find a solution.

4. Don’t explain blindly

"Now I understand why you are so picky. You are just like your dad." This type of analysis that seems to understand the motivations of your lover's behavior will only lead to anger. As LELO said, know what should be explained and what should not be explained. Saying everything is your fault is encouraging your lover's shortcomings.

Suggestion: First understand the reason for your anger, learn to listen to your lover's point of view in an open and loving way, use non-verbal means such as eyes to let your lover know that you are listening carefully, and finally make constructive suggestions.

5. Sometimes you should follow your heart

The practice of sacrificing one's own feelings to satisfy the other party may seem beneficial, but in fact it is a sign of insincerity. And it is difficult to have intimacy in a marriage that lacks sincerity.

Suggestion: Telling the truth can win the trust of your lover and deepen the relationship between husband and wife. Consider making a list, in order of difficulty, of all the things you are afraid to tell your loved one. After that, start with the simplest thing and try to tell your lover the truth.

6. Silence is not your weapon

In a relationship, silence is a deadly weapon.

Suggestion: Write a letter to your lover, express the reason for your anger and your own troubles, and use a positive attitude to strive for communication and understanding between the couple.

7. Don’t speak in a provocative tone

The act of choosing to indulge yourself emotionally or physically is more like a provocation. Such as depression, spending money randomly, suicide, etc.

Suggestion: Find a place where both parties can talk calmly for 30 minutes, then figure out what behaviors of yours are causing trouble for your lover, and reflect on yourself one by one.

8. Don’t look down on your lover

Husbands and wives should avoid words that lower each other's self-worth. For example, "Why are you so lazy!" etc.

Suggestion: Make a list of all the sentences that say "how are you", then replace "you" with "I", and try to use sentences starting with "I" to communicate with your lover.

9. Don’t threaten your lover

Verbal or physical threats and abuse will inevitably lead to marital conflict.

Suggestion: When you are angry with your lover, be sure to learn to control your anger. For example, stay alone in a room and hit the pillow with your fists or other objects until the anger subsides. It's better to shout out loud while fighting, but make sure no one else hears you. After your anger subsides, write a letter to your lover. Talk about the reasons for your anger. Be careful not to complain. Just write down the hurt you have received.

10. Don’t tell outsiders everything

Conflict between husband and wife is like a war between two countries. Both parties want to win alliances to support and consolidate their positions. However, the appearance of a third party is not conducive to communication between husband and wife and fundamentally resolves the conflict between the two.

Suggestion: Both parties can calm down for a few days, each consider the gains and losses in the marriage relationship, and write down what they need to improve; after a few days, communicate face-to-face with your lover.