The psychological bottom line for men to get married

In the face of the cruel reality, many men and women have stopped outside of marriage, not daring to step into the trap of marriage, for fear that entering the siege will ruin years of sweet love. Love ruined their happiness. When falling in love, what you are facing is just the pure love between two people, while marriage is simply a "game" between two families. Marriage is originally a great joy, but in some ways it is a kind of "torture" for the groom and his family. From decorating the new house, to organizing the wedding, to the wedding ceremony, many aspects are shouldered by the man. If you meet a kind woman's family, you are lucky, but if you meet a picky family, you will be miserable.

Therefore, whether a man gets married or not, it is not the relationship between the two that has a problem, the problem mostly comes from the outside world. When it comes to marriage, a man has his own bottom line. Once this sacred and inviolable bottom line is touched, there is only one result - breaking up!

House - the pain of marriage for men

The hits of "Dwelling in a Small House" and "House Isn't Preventable" have brought the big problem of house to the front of the audience, and house has also become a pain for men when they get married.

In today's society, people are becoming more and more utilitarian. Many girls tend to worship money and become money-worshiping girls. They regard marriage as a transaction of money. Don't even think about it if you don't have a house, a car, or money. Marry her in. The high housing prices have deterred many men from getting married. How many marriageable men can afford a sky-high price house? Therefore, in order to get married, many men are willing to risk being scolded by others, and they also want to be an old man and let their parents buy a house for them to get married. Poor parents, in order to have a grandson as soon as possible and for the happiness of their son, they have devoted every penny they have left after a hard life...

And those men with average family backgrounds and no old age to chew on can only When his girlfriend asked about marriage, he hesitated and hesitated. It was not they who had the final say on whether to get married or not, but the woman. If the woman really wants the house, she can only retreat! Therefore, many people say that now many women are not married to men, but to houses and money!

Bowwowy - unavoidable in marriage

Historically, before getting married, both men and women would discuss together where and how to hold the wedding banquet, how and how much to give, and other issues. The ancients believed that a married girl is like a thrown water, she belongs to her husband's family, and the hard work of her mother's family in raising a daughter for many years will be measured by the betrothal gift, which is regarded as the reward of her mother's family's years of raising a daughter.

Everyone knows that marriage requires a bride price, and everyone understands its meaning. However, many lovers break up because of the bride price.

Some women’s family members feel that they have spent a lot of money and material resources raising their daughters, so they will ask for exorbitant prices for the bride price, making the originally pure love become a sky-high price, as if they were selling their daughters. Perhaps from the perspective of the elderly, this is unquestionable, but from the perspective of the son-in-law, the two of them fell in love freely and truly loved each other and wanted to get married together, rather than buying a wife through money. Does it mean that if your son-in-law gives you a lot of money, your daughter will be happy?

A man will also stop when faced with sky-high betrothal gifts. Sometimes it’s not that he can’t afford it, but that he doesn’t give it willingly. If the father-in-law and mother-in-law are so open-minded, it will only make him afraid that his mother-in-law's family will make endless demands after marriage and become a bottomless pit.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law - we must live in harmony with her

The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult problem in marriage. Many loving couples will reach an impasse because of the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even end in divorce. .

From a men's perspective, they all hope to find a good wife who respects her mother-in-law as much as they do and who can live in harmony with her mother-in-law. However, the mother-in-law is always dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law, picking bones from the eggs and causing her daughter-in-law to suffer a lot. Men have become like double-sided tape. It is difficult to do both sides and they are not human beings.

Many men, before they decide to get married, will try to get their girlfriend and mother to get along with each other to see if the two can live in harmony. If their girlfriends cannot tolerate their mothers, many men will choose their mothers instead of their girlfriends. In traditional Chinese thought, marriage is ordered by the parents. According to the matchmaker, a man must obtain the consent of his parents if he wants to get married. Moreover, if you only have one mother, you can still find a more suitable one after your girlfriend breaks up.

Marriage is a big event. You must think carefully before getting married. A man has his bottom line for marriage. If you want to enter the palace of marriage with him, you must not touch his bottom line!