Survey keywords: Premarital sex

College students: A rich man’s marriage proposal makes female college students “flawless”?

On the afternoon of August 14, just as the "Youth and Immaculate Declaration of Heaven and Earth" online signature campaign for college students to refuse premarital sex entered a fierce stage, seven "Youth and Immaculate Forerunners" who signed a "Rejection of Premarital Sex" agreement with a university in Chengdu two years ago Liu Lin (pseudonym), one of them, got in touch. According to her, so far, very few people have kept their original promises.

At first, the sisters took the "Chastity Alliance" seriously, but later they learned that one of the sisters had secretly eaten the "forbidden fruit", and no one mentioned that they should continue to persevere. Her sister admitted that not long after the signing event, she heard that a sister and her boyfriend had not kept their promise and even moved out of the student dormitory and rented a house near the school to live together. In this regard, Liu Lin believes that although signing does not guarantee that every ally will keep their promise, it has, to a certain extent, attracted attention and correct guidance from all walks of life on premarital sexual behavior among college students.

According to surveys, a small number of young people scorn the "rejection of premarital sex" campaign. Xiao Fang, a senior boy at a certain school, said to the well-informed girl: "Recently, some multi-millionaires have openly solicited marriage in society, and one of the conditions is that the other party must be a virgin. It seems that their actions still have certain social effects. No, many girls understand the importance of maintaining their 'virginity'."

Comment: It is worthy of respect and promotion for college students to "reject premarital sex" in a way that is acceptable to them, but this also brings discussion to the topic of how sex education in colleges and universities can truly penetrate into the psychology of college students.

Parents: Beware of the bitter consequences of "living together" among female college students!

Hearing that her daughter would have to stay at school to make up for classes this summer and could not go home, Ms. Wang rushed from Jianyang, Sichuan to Chengdu to visit her daughter, who is a sophomore. However, she walked around the school and asked around the student dormitories, but there was no trace of her daughter. . After many twists and turns, she got in touch with her daughter, and when mother and daughter met, she saw a flaw in her daughter's slightly swollen belly.

Amid her mother's scolding, Xiaoran (pseudonym) told Ling Tongmei that after having a relationship with her boyfriend, they moved out of the student dormitory and rented a two-bedroom apartment near the school to live together. Before the summer vacation, Xiaoran suddenly found out that she was pregnant. In order not to delay her studies, the two of them decided to wait until after the summer vacation. Xiaoran said that the school had heard about her pregnancy and she would definitely be punished after school started. Thinking of this, Xiaoran felt very upset, and because she didn't have enough money to go to the hospital, she kept putting it off. Before her mother came, she just bought abortion drugs from the pharmacy and was ready to take them.

Xiaoran's mother was angry and shocked after hearing her daughter's words. She was glad that she arrived in time. If her daughter had another tragedy due to private abortion, she would be even more heartbroken. In addition to blaming herself for failing to discipline her daughter, Ms. Wang also questioned the school's dormitory management. Ms. Wang said that the school should have unified arrangements and supervision for students' accommodation. She suggested that for students who have to rent a house outside the school or insist on renting a house outside the school, they should sign it with their parents and report it to the school for record, so as to avoid the negative consequences of students living together in rented houses outside the school.

Comment: While schools are strengthening education, male and female college students should think twice before living together. Whether you have the ability to assume the responsibilities of premarital sex and whether you are ready to handle the physical and psychological challenges caused by improper handling.

Education Department: College students who live together can be expelled

On the afternoon of August 16, we learned from the Chengdu Municipal Education Bureau that according to the Ministry of Education’s recent notice requiring local education administrative departments to strengthen the management of students’ off-campus renting, in order to avoid the problems caused by college students renting houses outside, causing problems such as cohabitation, personal and property safety, etc. To solve the problem, Chengdu universities are actively taking accommodation management measures to create the best accommodation conditions for students as much as possible. It is reported that the Guangdong Provincial Education Bureau has issued a document prohibiting college students from renting housing off campus.

In addition, the phenomenon of cohabitation and pregnancy among college students has been included in Chengdu's colleges and universities to regulate and correct the improper behavior of college students. For college students who have serious adverse consequences due to improper sexual behavior, the school may take severe measures to expel them from school. deal with.

Students' self-discipline is very important, but school management is also indispensable. Some school management systems and regulations are still necessary. However, it is suggested that school management methods should be diversified and humanized in order to achieve better educational results.

I watched "The Flaw of Youth"

This summer, when the public was discussing that "female college students have more abortions during the summer vacation," several female college students in Beijing and Nanjing launched an online signature campaign to "reject premarital sex." I very much support their signature activities. However, I think it is inappropriate for this event to be dubbed the "Declaration of Immaculate Youth".

Generally speaking, young people living together or having premarital sex are the result of their sexual maturity and emotional development. Although it is a behavior that is not recommended by society, it does not violate moral principles and legal norms. In other words, having "premarital sex" is just a person's attitude, and it is by no means a person's "stain". The attitude of the female college students who participated in the signing deserves our respect. However, it cannot be said that other female college students who did not participate in the signing, especially those who have had "premarital sex", have not remained "flawless". Because no one has the right to assume that all people who have had "premarital sex" hold an incorrect and unhealthy sexual concept.

"Premarital sex" is not a "flaw of youth". Whether young people have "premarital sex" is not necessarily related to whether there is a "flaw" in youth. Some female college students can advocate "rejection of premarital sex", but it is better not to get involved with the "youth and flawlessness" that has strong moral judgment!