The 9th National (Guangzhou) Sexual Culture Festival’s forum on “How to Correctly View Premarital Sex” for college students was held in the university town on the 7th. The male and female students present were not shy. Not only did they boldly ask Professor Dong Yuzheng who was giving the lecture, but one girl also repeatedly asked the professor: "Under what circumstances can I give myself up?" This bold girl was considered to be bold in asking such a question. , avant-garde.

Avant-garde? Why do I feel like I'm falling behind?

We always say that "society is progressing", but progress can be seen: GDP ranks second in the world, and material life has also been greatly enriched. However, we are helpless to find that people's thoughts The concept is at a stagnation state, and has even suffered a serious setback. The tragedy of China today is probably that problems that have long been solved by predecessors or others have become problems again in our society. The so-called "sex education" is an example. In fact, in the 1980s, we experienced a great liberation of thought. At that time, people were relatively free and open-minded, and had quite in-depth discussions on ideological fields including sex education. However, thirty years later, we will find that many People are still in the old confusion. Why is this?

We have to find the reason from our education methods. I have discovered that many parents place great emphasis on the so-called "standard answers" when tutoring their children with homework. If they encounter a question without a standard answer, they will unconsciously guide their children to make guesses about what kind of answer the teacher would like. Woolen cloth? As a result, over time, students have become accustomed to giving up independent thinking and only memorizing standard answers from books. "What would happen to the world if there were no standard answers?" For students who regard test scores as their lifeblood, such an "in case" is tantamount to disaster; and our huge educational machine is actually a question and answer machine that specializes in providing standard answers. You can either The answers it provides should be regarded as authoritative, or they will be regarded as aliens and ostracized, suppressed and eliminated by various means.

There are no ready-made standard answers to the questions in life, otherwise we will still think that the sky is round and the earth is round, and that we are the center of the universe. We will never be able to break through our predecessors, and we can only pick up the debris of their predecessors’ wisdom. As long as we keep talking, we will only marvel at Steve Jobs' talent. However, when "Master Qiao" left, it triggered the regret that "there will be no more iPhone 5 in the world".

Talking back to the little girl, her performance was not bold or avant-garde, but an urgency to ask for standard answers. She was used to getting standard answers as a matter of course, but she completely gave up on searching and going on her own. Experience the plan. This is precisely a kind of timidity, the timidity of facing a life without standard answers. And the applause she won from her classmates showed that this timidity is a common phenomenon.

Do you still want to ask, "Why do we never get the Nobel Prize?" Provide a non-standard answer: This is because the Nobel Prize will only be awarded to those who find the answer themselves, and it may not necessarily be the person who finds the answer.