Sex and love are a perfect unity. It is not just the act of sexual intercourse. The real purpose of sex is to express and pursue the happy state of inner love.

For couples, sexual life is a necessary guarantee for trust and emotional sublimation. This guarantee is mostly established from the first sexual life. This shows how important the first sex between husband and wife is. Therefore, it is very necessary for first-time married men and women to master the essentials of their first sexual life, otherwise it may affect the intimacy between husband and wife in the future.

During the first sexual intercourse, due to the shyness and nervousness of both parties, especially the woman, she will encounter many problems. As a man, you should be considerate, caring and loving towards your woman. Be gentle with your movements and don't focus on yourself. The woman should overcome her nervousness and fear and cooperate happily with the man. There will be some pain when the hymen ruptures, and you can hold your breath downward to relieve the pain. Generally speaking, there will be a small amount of bleeding when the hymen is ruptured, but in a few women, the hymen is very tough and does not rupture after sexual intercourse. There are also a few women whose hymen is already very fragile. Excessive exercise before marriage may cause the hymen to rupture. Therefore, virginity cannot be judged based on whether the hymen is intact or whether the hymen bleeds during sexual intercourse. During sex, both husband and wife should pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene. After introducing the key points of having sex for the first time, let’s take a look at what else you should pay attention to when having sex as scheduled.

Sexual drive is not enough to maintain sex

In sexual life, the emotions between men and women can be divided into four periods (honeymoon period or early marriage), conflict period (mutual adaptation period), transfer period (parenting period) and deep period (returning to the world of two people). If normal sex hormones are the cornerstone of a harmonious relationship, then good emotions are the fusion agent, and appropriate sexual fantasies are the catalyst.

Usually, young people have normal sex hormones and rich sexual fantasies, but physical and imaginative impulses often dilute the emotional factors. In real life, it is not uncommon for college students to break up as soon as they graduate and young couples to divorce as soon as their honeymoon is over. This is the reason. If the emotional relationship is not handled well, then pure physical impulse is not enough to maintain good sex.

Therefore, young people should respect, understand, tolerate, and adapt to each other. In particular, they should learn to accept all the advantages and disadvantages of each other, and use emotional fusion agents to make the newly established relationship between the sexes more stable.

Emotional transfer makes sex lack excitement

The situation of middle-aged people is different from that of young people. They spend most of their thoughts on raising their children and working on their careers, and their emotions are in a transition period, stable but lacking in excitement. At the same time, the approach to menopause will cause sex hormone levels to gradually decrease. The body and mind are gradually moving away from sweetness, and it is dangerous if this situation is not changed.

For middle-aged people, the best way is to increase sexual fantasies appropriately. That is, self-stimulation through thinking activities in an awake state or a sleep-like state, which is a self-performed sexual behavior.

The content of sexual fantasies is undoubtedly full of erotic color. It can occur on its own or during masturbation or during sexual intercourse. An American consulting expert gave the example of a middle-aged man who had always been satisfied with his sex life. For many years, he had fantasized about his wife being plump and delicate when she was young, and the two of them constantly changed the time and place of sex, including the bedroom, kitchen, The memories of their sex were left in the bathroom, and the boredom between the couple was eliminated little by little.

Sex hormone deficiency leads to low sex hormones

Sex is a lifelong behavior. Whether it is sexual ability or sexual needs, they are not lost after entering old age. However, as sex hormone levels further decrease, middle-aged and elderly people after the age of 50 will develop a series of sexual performance problems such as low sexual desire and sexual arousal disorders. Fortunately, with the help of modern medicine, professional doctors can use hormone replacement therapy and drug treatment to improve the sexual status of the elderly. Of course, increasing sexual fantasies also has a certain effect on them.

It should be noted that in real life, many young people do not believe that their parents will "do such things", and often ruthlessly separate old parents and let one of them take care of their children for many years; many elderly people themselves do not They will be ashamed to continue their sexual life and maintain the so-called dignity of the elderly in depression and pain, which will cause great harm to the elderly's body and mind.