My husband and I are college classmates. We have been together for nearly 8 years and been married for 6 years. Recently, we have fewer and fewer topics to talk about, and we often quarrel over trivial matters. When we were young, we always "quarreled at the head of the bed and got together at the end of the bed" and never cared about it. But now we feel that our relationship is getting weaker and weaker, and sometimes we even have thoughts of separation. Does the seven-year itch really exist, and no matter how deep the relationship is, it can't cross this hurdle?

What do you need to overcome the seven-year itch

Expert: As many people approach middle age, they will find that they become more and more alienated from their significant other, and sometimes even feel that the other half is unreasonable, which leads to confusion and uneasiness in the relationship between husband and wife. One of the reasons for this is that an active sex life in youth can resolve disharmony in life. But as age grows and sexual passion weakens, various contradictions will gradually emerge. If it is not resolved in time, it will become more and more serious.

Solving this problem requires the husband and wife to work together and continue to sublimate their feelings through communication. First of all, you must be good at communication, do not criticize, sarcastically, or preach, but sincerely express your feelings. Secondly, learn to understand the other person’s feelings and learn to put yourself in others’ shoes. Thirdly, don’t be affected by the “seven-year itch” or “mid-life crisis”. Believe that you will get better and better. Finally, we should often give each other kind affirmations, develop new common hobbies, and add new common languages.

Introduction to some of the most magical reasons for divorce

1. The husband won’t cover the toilet, but the wife insists on covering it. If they can’t negotiate, they will get divorced;

2. The husband’s bank card only has 2,000 yuan, and the wife wants the password as long as she lives, and neither side gives in. Divorce;

3. The husband complained that his wife’s cooking was not good, and they got into a fight and got divorced;

Fourth, the husband must report to his parents for sexual intercourse. If the wife cannot bear it, she will divorce.

Recently, "Wuhan Evening News" published a new strange reason: the wife hid in the car and ate durian, and the husband was so angry that they quarreled, and the wife got divorced out of anger.

These weird reasons seem to be trivial matters, but the couple insists on clinging to them until everything is broken. Therefore, they give people a sense of frivolity, as if these people like to make fuss out of molehills and have no regard for marriage. cherish. But after careful discussion, we often find that they themselves don’t want this. They also want to have a happy family, harmonious husband and wife, and grow old together – but as the Queen’s famous saying said: “I just can’t do it! ”

This kind of person seems to have a demonic nature in his character and is difficult to control, so at the critical moment, they destroy the things they want to cherish.

What exactly is this demonic nature? If the treatment continues, you will often see that there seems to be a "demon cave" in their hearts. No matter how small the daily incident is, as long as the "devil's cave" is touched, the devil will be released to cause trouble.

For example, in the second reason above, the "devil's cave" is the wife's abnormal insecurity, hostility and inferiority complex towards men - she demands to know her husband's bank password in order to control all of her husband's actions. In her imagination, she was of low value and unworthy of love. As long as she loses control over her husband, he will definitely betray her. It was precisely because of this idea that she persistently demanded to know her husband's bank password - in other words, the password opened the door to the "devil's cave" in her heart.

In the fourth reason, the "magic cave" is the husband's inner dependence and lack of boundaries - due to his growth, his psychological functions are underdeveloped and he is unable to make decisions on his own. After he becomes an adult, he still needs his parents to make decisions for him. To the point where he couldn't live without his parents - the matter of having sex exposed the "devil's cave" in his heart, and also made his wife feel the horror of this kind of man and this kind of family.