How painful is a woman’s first time? Before I start to introduce this issue, let me first talk about an interesting phenomenon about a woman’s first night, so that everyone can better understand this issue: Everyone has generally accepted that the first night is not red, which means that many people know that the hymen is just a thin film, which can be removed during strenuous exercise. It is easy to break, and many cases occur unconsciously.

In other words, facts have proven that when this membrane ruptures, it actually does not cause pain, at least not obvious pain. Otherwise, how could women not notice it? But why do people accept the idea that there will be no bleeding during the first night, but don’t accept the idea that hymen rupture won’t hurt?

How painful is a woman’s first night?

Regarding the above question, the reason is actually very simple, that is, under the influence of media propaganda such as "The first time hurts", movies and TV dramas, people associate the pain of the first night with the innocence of girls so closely that they Synesthesia has been generated in people's minds: that is, having sex for the first time means distortion, and pain is something that women must overcome in this ritual. Women are destined to suffer and suffer, so at least women have to treat themselves in order to be afraid of pain. Be careful on your first night, if this man doesn't want you anymore, your pain will be in vain! It was all paid for in vain!

Under the influence of this kind of public opinion, who else would think that a woman’s first night is not painful? No, what is even more exaggerated is that people also think that the more innocent a woman is, the more painful it will be. This shows how much you love your partner and how much you have dedicated yourself to him with a noble spirit of sacrifice. Because women cannot 100% preserve the phenomenon of first night redness, they can only use first night pain as evidence. This unconsciously strengthens the concept that "the feeling in the vagina during first sexual intercourse must be pain", which has almost become a collective subconscious, leaving no doubt for both men and women. Men will therefore cherish women's devotion, and women will therefore demand men's loyalty.

However, it must be said that such a concept has its own rationality, because it is a classic product of the cultural hegemony of male-dominated society. Most women are afraid of the action of inserting the penis into the vagina because of this so-called pain. They are very scared even thinking about it, and they are unable to have a normal sexual life as a couple for many years after marriage. The resulting public opinion about infertility, divorce tragedy, and guilt towards their husbands have caused long-term psychological pressure on them, leading to a series of psychological or physical problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, and autoimmunity. diseases, skin diseases, etc.

If we want to fundamentally eliminate this misconception, we must fundamentally liberate women's sexuality, let women enjoy the same rights as men, and respect each other with men. In this way, women will not feel shortchanged, sacrificed, or bullied for having consensual sex. At the same time, the explanation of the hymen must be in place in sex education.

If you want to understand how painful a woman’s first time is, you also need to understand a woman’s unique hymen. The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina, which can play a certain role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls.

However, this protective effect is not important because rupture does not lead to an increased chance of vaginal infection. Therefore, the hymen is actually just a trace left over from the process of genetic evolution. Many people are born with very shallow traces of the hymen. With growth and development, this membrane is slowly stretched open, and many holes appear. Some holes merge with each other to form large holes, allowing menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are large, the hymen is basically invisible.

Let me explain why so many people say that a woman’s first time hurts.

In its natural state, the front and back walls of the vagina fit very well. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa is stimulated as never before. Our brain must recognize this new touch. If we recognize this new feeling as touch, the feeling of being stretched, If there is a feeling of fullness, it will not cause us to have an emotional reaction of fear; if there is a preset in our minds that the first night will be painful, then this new feeling will naturally be recognized as pain, which will make us Fear, because everyone is afraid of pain; if we have positive expectations about sex, then we will recognize this feeling as strong sexual stimulation and sexual feeling, which will make us sexually excited. This is something that can be explained with common knowledge of psychology, and is not mysterious.

After the above introduction, one conclusion that can be drawn is that the idea that a woman’s first night will hurt is not worthy of belief. This is something that restricts women’s normal sexual life and enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Women should change their unscientific sexual concepts on the basis of scientific mastery of sexual knowledge, get rid of the fear of first night as soon as possible, and enjoy sexual happiness.