The average sexual frequency of different races and groups is different. The actual sexual frequency of Chinese men is twice a week. But you don’t need to regard other people’s frequencies as your own standards. You should adjust the frequency that suits you according to your own situation and needs, so that you can have a harmonious and happy sexual life.

Newly married men usually complain that their wives are a little sexually frigid, while most young wives think that men are too keen on sex; on the contrary, women in their thirties and forties often desire sex more than men of the same age, and at this time men often have more than they want. And lack of strength. It can be seen that the frequency of sexual life is a topic that many couples are concerned about. Many people will ask out of concern for themselves and their partners: At my age, how often is appropriate?

In fact, due to the large differences between individuals, the frequency of sexual life of different couples even in the same age group can vary greatly, so do not take other people's frequency as your own standard.

American scholars have summarized a "sex frequency formula" based on the influence of age factors on sexual ability-sex frequency = the tenth digit of age ′9. The tens digit of the resulting product is the time, and the single digit is the number of sexual intercourses that should occur during this period. For example, a man in his 30s, 3'9=27, should be able to have sex seven times in 20 days, about once every three days, without affecting his health and work status. This formula applies to adults over 30 years of age (specified below).

Over 30 years old, 3X9=27, that is, 7 times in 20 days (once every 3 days)

Over 40 years old, 4X9=36, that is, 6 times in 30 days (once in 5 days)

Over 50 years old, 5X9=45, that is, 5 times in 40 days (once in 8 days)

Over 60 years old, 6X9=54, that is, 4 times in 50 days (once in 12 days)

However, these are only man-made regulations and reflect the habits of European and American people. There are differences in diet, physique, and living habits between Asians and European and American people, so the above frequency may not be consistent with the real-life situation of Chinese people.

Motherland’s medicine believes that sexual life should be within one’s ability. For example, it is mentioned in Su Nu Jing: “People are strong or weak, old or strong, and each depends on his strength.”

Modern medicine believes that the sign of whether sexual life is appropriate is that both husband and wife agree, and both parties feel refreshed and comfortable after each sexual life.

From a physiological point of view: the essence of sexual life is a "release process" of sexual energy. We’ve all heard that the essence overflows from its source. Relevant experts made this metaphor: water accumulates little by little in the sluice. When it reaches a certain limit, it is necessary to open the sluice to release the water. When the sexual life is short and the physical condition is not good, the accumulated impulse energy in the body cannot be fully released, and the body needs to expel the remaining energy. In a long and high-quality sex life, the accumulated sexual impulse ability has been completely released, and the body has no need for sexual intercourse again. What is needed at this time is not "one more" sexual intercourse. What is needed is rest and recovery of the sexual system. Therefore, it is quite unscientific to use the number of times to measure the quality of sexual life and a man's "good" or "not good". "Time and time again" is not something to show off.

From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, excessive sexual life is very harmful:

1. Excessive sexual life is a behavior that seriously damages the body and mind. Excessive sexual life consumes "essence", which is the foundation of the human body and the source of hematopoiesis stored in the kidneys connected to the bone marrow and brain. Excessive consumption of sperm will lead to hollow bone marrow, dissatisfaction of the brain, premature aging and premature death.

3. Excessive sexual life will not only damage the body's motivation, but also damage the emotions, making people listless, weak-willed, hesitant, indecisive, irritable and surly, suspicious and fearful. When encountering difficulties, one may be impatient or withdraw, lacking patience and perseverance, as well as the confidence and courage to win. This is all the result of the inability of the essence to transform into qi.

4. Excessive sexual life will also affect intelligence and cause obvious damage to memory and thinking ability. The most obvious manifestations are inability to learn and the rapid decline in academic performance. This is the result of a deficiency of essence that cannot transform into qi, and a deficiency of qi that cannot transform into spirit. Excessive sexual behavior extracts the body's energy reserves through shortcuts, making the body unable to initiate emergency measures when sudden changes occur, causing the growth of many chronic diseases that remain unhealed for a long time and keep pace with the times.

6. Excessive sexual life will overdraw the body's energy for hair growth in advance, which will greatly reduce the body's fertility. Even if the seeds have not lost all their vitality, after sowing, cultivating, taking root, sprouting, blooming and bearing fruit, they will inevitably wither and lack vitality. Excessive sexual life is not uncontrollable. As long as you have firm confidence and the courage to win, if your heart can be pure, your kidneys will be stable; your mind will not act rashly, and your essence will not be used rashly. Cultivate an upward sentiment, be clear about reason and understand things, then your actions will follow your heart, and you will be clear at the top and at peace at the bottom.