The British have always given people a conservative and stereotyped impression, but the latest "British Social Attitudes Survey Report" states that in the past 20 years, British people have undergone tremendous changes in their marriage concepts and sexual emotions. As a well-known local hermaphroditist, Andrew G. Marshall has helped countless people solve their sexual relationship confusions and advocated people to enjoy sex and marriage during his 25 years of practice. Recently, a reporter from "Life Times" had a conversation with this master.

Reporter: In China, some couples have less and less sex due to busy lives, high pressure, or living apart. What is the situation in the UK?

Andrew G. Marshall: British couples are less enthusiastic about sex than they used to be. A report published by the consulting organization "Relationship" shows that the number of British men who are healthy and have no sexual dysfunction but have lost interest in sex and come to seek help has increased by 40% over the past five years. These are people who confess that they have no problem having sex, but they just don’t want to. This has a lot to do with the financial downturn, high work pressure, and "no feeling" after being married for a long time. It is generally believed that if there is no physical illness or accident between the couple and there is no tacit sexual life for more than one month, it is a sexless marriage.

Reporter: What harm will a sexless marriage bring? How to respond?

Andrew G. Marshall: Lack of sex life will first bring harm to the relationship between both parties. If one spouse desires intimacy and the other refuses, it can easily cause psychological frustration to the other party, which will lead to communication Inadequacy, deception, extramarital affairs or divorce. Secondly, it will also have a certain impact on physical health. Long-term inactivity may lead to premature aging of sexual organs and unstable hormones. Finally, sexless marriage will seriously threaten the strength of the family and the stability of society. It can be said that no sex life is a silent harm to life.

The most important thing to save a sexless marriage is the individual. The decrease in the frequency of sex between the sexes is mostly due to the cold winter in relationships. Perhaps a sincere hug can solve the problem. You also need to communicate, express your willingness to improve, try to take some time to put down all things and stress, relax, and jointly create a romantic atmosphere. The British National Health Care website also encourages people to pay more attention to the benefits of sex and increase their enthusiasm for sex.

Reporter: Chinese women have always been passive when it comes to sex. What do you think of this issue?

Andrew G. Marshall: The shyness and mystery of Eastern women are a unique kind of beauty, and they are also very sexy. However, taking the initiative in sex is not just for men. Women should also learn to "induce" men and arouse his passion and sexual desire. If a woman is not good at directness, she can express it through some actions, such as taking the initiative to sit on his lap and twisting her hips while watching TV together on the sofa, which can quickly awaken his desire. You can also swim with him. Playing in the water and skin-to-skin contact in the water will give both parties unexpected and wonderful feelings.

Reporter: In your professional experience, in addition to sexual problems that may lead to breakup of partners, what other minefields are there in marriage relationships?

Andrew G. Marshall: Many people think that big things will cause couples to break up. In fact, the accumulation of small problems is the most common reason for divorce. For example, if your partner keeps talking about a certain issue, but you just nod your head frequently and focus on other things, it can easily lead to communication problems. In addition, always complaining about some of the other party's living habits, depriving the other party of time, becoming lazy after marriage, constant quarrels without finding a solution, etc. may lead to the breakdown of the marriage.

Reporter: There are reports in the UK that 500,000 people are infected with sexually transmitted diseases within a year. What suggestions and ideas do you have on sexual safety?

Andrew G. Marshall: In recent years, sexually transmitted diseases have become increasingly serious and have attracted widespread attention from society. Sexually transmitted diseases are mainly concentrated among young people aged 15 to 24 and some elderly people. For teenagers, the most important thing is to strengthen sexual safety education, teach them the correct use of condoms, and provide guarantees through laws. For the elderly, although there is no need to worry about pregnancy, condoms should also be used. At the same time, it is necessary to increase education on sexually transmitted diseases among the population.