A pre-Qin philosopher has a wise saying that has been passed down: "Food, sex, and sex." People have to admit that sex is a natural thing. Although Confucius advocated abstinence, he also lamented: "I have never seen anyone who loves virtue as much as lust." Sex is the most indispensable part of human life. Beautiful sex makes people's lives full of happiness. How can we have a more harmonious life? How about sex.

Four major causes of "sexlessness" in married life

1. Obsessed with pornographic films

Sexologists have recently discovered that the more men watch porn, the more they worry about their sexual skills, and this pressure will affect their performance in bed. Men are accustomed to accepting the "sexual knowledge" conveyed by pornographic films. They like new edited sexual patterns and pursue visual stimulation. As a result, it is no longer easy to achieve orgasm in reality, and erectile dysfunction may even occur. Research shows that excessive exposure to pornographic content will consume men's desire and neglect normal sex with their partner. Men who often watch erotic images will become overly dependent on masturbation and may lose interest in normal sex over time.

2. Drinking too much milk

One study found that drinking excessive amounts of dairy products every day can cause a decrease in sexual desire. Milk is the most common drink in our lives. It has countless benefits, but if you drink excessive amounts of dairy products every day, it will cause a decrease in sexual desire. Medical experts explain that any food contains molecular antigens that may cause allergies. If a person consumes milk, wheat, eggs, soybeans, tomatoes, fermented products, chemical additives, etc. all year round, it is easy to form allergic molecules. When the human body consumes food, the antigens stimulate the immune system and produce antibodies. If you eat properly, the body's own "housekeeping" operating system may sweep them away. If you take a single food for a long time, this cleaning function of the human body will be covered up, and the antibodies will snowball like snowballs. They may stay anywhere in the body, blocking capillaries, hindering the circulation of blood, and leading to sexual dysfunction. Functionality is reduced.

3. Too full for dinner

Romantic dinners can easily lead to overeating without realizing it, which can lower sexual desire and affect the normal progress of sexual life. Experts say that after eating, gastrointestinal digestion and absorption of food require energy, so the blood supply in the gastrointestinal tract increases, while the blood supply in other parts of the body will decrease accordingly, which will affect men's erection and normal sexual experience. In addition, if you drink a lot of alcohol during a meal, most women and some men will experience a decrease in sexual desire, which is not conducive to sexual life. Therefore, it is recommended that you wait about one and a half hours after a meal before enjoying sex with your partner.

4. Take sleeping pills

Insomnia is an "epidemic" among urban white-collar workers. Taking a few hypnotic pills when they can't sleep has become a common way for people to deal with insomnia. However, sedative-hypnotic drugs will affect the secretion level of sex hormones in the human body. If they are taken for a long time, they may cause the secretion of sex hormones. Abnormality, causing sexual dysfunction or even disorders. Certain ingredients in sedative-hypnotic drugs, such as phenobarbital, secobarbital, etc., if taken in large doses for a long time, can easily accumulate and become addictive, inhibiting the brain's sexual discrimination ability and the release of pituitary gonadotropin. , causing loss of sexual desire and loss of orgasm.

How to rekindle desire in your married life?

If you want the sexual life between husband and wife to achieve an ideal and harmonious state, you need to make more efforts in the following aspects:

First, desire or sexual impulse is shared by both parties, rather than one party being passionate and the other party being indifferent and disapproving of it. Therefore, in order to achieve a harmonious sexual life between husband and wife, the first thing is that both parties have requirements, which is an indispensable condition;

Second, after sexual intercourse begins, you must concentrate and do not think about irrelevant things. Only such a sexual life can achieve satisfactory results for both parties.

Third, happy emotions should be contagious to each other. During sexual life, couples should infect each other with the excitement, excitement, pleasure, etc. during sexual activities, and should not reluctantly accept or reject, be embarrassed or complain to each other;

Fourth, couples express or hint to each other before sex;

Fifth, the end of sexual intercourse should be about taking care of each other and waiting for each other. Men, in particular, should pay more attention to this point. According to gender characteristics, the man ends his sexual excitement soon after ejaculation, while the woman lags behind and takes a long time to calm down. Therefore, the man should wait for the woman after obtaining sexual satisfaction. Express your love by touching, hugging and kissing. Make the woman satisfied. Never cause yourself a time of need. Just have sex. When one is satisfied, one falls asleep soundly. Over time, the woman will feel indifferent or even bored with sex life.