There are many tips and rules to follow when it comes to falling in love. This knowledge is not only of great benefit to unmarried young men and women, but also to married couples, the more the better. Because getting married does not mean the end of love, but the beginning of love and sex.

When they first start falling in love, the two parties always do not directly involve any sexual issues, but first observe and evaluate each other in terms of sexual attraction. Only after feeling the sexual attraction of the other person and being satisfied with this attraction will the two parties engage in further communication. Of course, this process can be very short and rapid, as young people often say, it seems that they feel "electric shock" as soon as they see the other person; it can also be another kind, that is, feeling the sexual attraction of the other person for many years, And it's usually tacit. In the minds of young people, this is called "slow fire makes the food more fragrant".

For married couples, the same process of falling in love during sex is the same. Only by learning to constantly discover and appreciate each other's sexual attraction can the communication and communication between the two parties in sex become increasingly deepened, thereby reaching a higher level that unmarried lovers cannot achieve. For married couples, "simmering" may be more important and more effective. The sexual attraction of married people is not weakened, but strengthened, because only married people can continuously use specific sexual actions, expressions, emotions and language to more fully express summary sexual attraction in actual sexual life. Strengths, including those that had to be temporarily hidden before marriage.

In the next step of unmarried love, one of the two parties must first send a signal that he is trying to start direct sexual activities, or trying to guide the interaction and relationship between the two parties in this direction. After receiving such a signal, the other party will always make an evaluation and assessment, and then make its own feedback. If the process goes smoothly, it can be very short-lived, the so-called love at first sight. If there are insurmountable obstacles, both parties will terminate the relationship, or the relationship will remain at the level of "pure love".

The same is actually true for married couples. If both parties believe that improving the quality of their sex life is only the other's responsibility, then no one will take the first step. Some people worry that the signals they send will be misunderstood by the other party, or that they will lose face because the other party does not respond; there are also some people (mostly wives) who are used to being passive and obedient, and have never thought that they should and can send out signals. There are also some people who are unwilling to give in because they have some minor quarrels in other aspects, and they bring this conflict into their sexual life. As a result, on the one hand, both parties feel that the quality of sexual life needs to be improved, but on the other hand, neither one is willing to step down first, or does not know how to get down. In fact, someone has to give in temporarily. This does not mean that the person who gives in first is in the wrong, but it proves that he or she is more enlightened than the other party, cherishes marriage more, and loves the other party more. Once such a signal is sent, as long as the other party is not unreasonable, he will definitely give feedback, and the little conflicts between husband and wife will often be solved easily.

Many married couples feel that since they have had sex many times, the other party will not misunderstand my signals. actually not. For example, many wives often feel "uncomfortable" or "upset" in various ways when their husbands don't notice that they need to have sex, and many wives themselves really don't understand why. If the husband does not understand this and just cares about his wife's health or gives her some medicine as usual, then the wife's troubles will become more serious. Similarly, some husbands also want to have sex at certain times, but they are too embarrassed to say it directly, or they don't know how to say it. So some people are depressed in their hearts, and the more depressed they become, the more angry they become; some people start an unknown fire with their wives, making things worse and worse.