Having a perfect sex life is the dream of many people. For this reason, people continue to seek sex knowledge from newspapers, TV, and the Internet. But in real life, people's understanding of sex is biased. To this end, the Birman Health Center in the United States has summarized several of the most common misunderstandings in sexual life through surveys. We hope that through the media, we can help people eliminate these misunderstandings and have a scientific sexual life.

Myth 1: The best sex happens naturally. One of the great facts of modern life is that things that are not planned are often not carried out, and sex is no exception. Spontaneous sex is great, but the anticipation of sex helps enhance the experience of sexual pleasure, and putting sex on the "couple's agenda" is a special kind of commitment. In addition, it is an expectation for both spouses. Suggestion: Couples can schedule a weekly "makeout session" that can include anything from sex to cuddling. Intimacy time must be free time for both parties, without exhaustion or work pressure. "Two people meet" can help couples regain the feeling of first love.

Myth 2: Husband and wife’s sexual interests must be synchronized. In many sex lives, it is normal to occasionally feel "bored". There are many factors that affect the quality of sex, such as timing, the mood of the husband or wife, whether there is enough foreplay, and life pressure. There is no fixed time for sex. It all depends on the temperament of the couple. Occasionally "missing out" or missing out on sex is not a sign of relationship problems. If your spouse is temporarily lacking in sexual interest, you might as well be more enthusiastic and look forward to the next passion. In order to maintain sexual passion, you might as well make some bold attempts, such as moving the "battlefield" from the bedroom to the living room or other new places, and occasionally watching passionate movies. If one or both spouses have completely lost their passion for sex, they should consider seeing a sex therapist or undergoing examinations to rule out underlying health problems.

Myth 3: You must have sex several times a week. There is no doubt that regular sex helps strengthen a couple's relationship. But fixating and quantifying sex is bound to lead to misunderstandings. Most loving couples don't have to have sex every day or two or three times a week. It is important that both partners are comfortable with the frequency of sex. If a couple disagrees about the frequency of sex, it's best to talk it over. For example, "We don't have sex as much as we used to, and I'm worried." Tip: It's important to remember that a healthy sex life includes more than just sex. Frequent hugging, holding hands, and spontaneous hugging and kissing are important elements of a healthy sex life.

Myth 4: High-quality sex should be simmered over low heat and slow over time. Although most people secretly think that "casual sex" is the best way to enjoy after a tiring day, few people enjoy this so-called ideal sex. This type of sex is only possible during vacation. Suggestion: "Fast food sex" can also help to improve your mood and restore your physical strength. If you want to seek "stimulation", you might as well have a 5-minute passionate session in a couple's shower or on the couch in the living room.