Sex life is one of the ways for couples to become intimate. Therefore, for female friends, the first sexual life directly affects the future life of the couple.

The significance of having sex for the first time is a crucial step in life for most people. Although sexual liberation in the West means that sex life has nothing to do with marriage and having children, the first sex life is still very important for anyone. While sex is tied to sex hormones, meaning that many of us, especially those in adolescence, are driven to have sex by sex hormones, most of us have sex for emotional reasons.

Having sex for the first time is often seen as a sign of maturity, a step in the transition from girl to woman, a milestone in life. It can mark your status among your peers, it can also be a way of getting back at your parents, or a reward for a loyal partner. And in fact, we still think of losing your virginity as a way to bond with your partner. It is the symbol of love reaching its highest level.

Many women say they feel mentally disappointed because of losing their virginity; sex life is more urgent than love; they don't feel like adult women, but they feel guilty. However, most women are able to continue to have happy relationships - the key to a fulfilling sex life is mutual agreement between partners who trust each other.

Strategies for a perfect New Year’s Eve:

●Make sure your partner understands how you feel about having sex for the first time; if possible, talk to him or her about your concerns beforehand.

●Make appropriate arrangements for yourself, including a private place and ample time.

●Contraception is the secret to ensuring that you don’t get pregnant during your first sexual intercourse.

●If you have never used tampons, your vagina will be tight. You can insert one finger first, then the second and third fingers, and press down to expand the vaginal opening.

●Choose a position that makes it easy for him to penetrate. Spread your legs and place a pillow under your hips if possible.

●You can apply saliva or KY glue on his penis.

●Hold his penis, position it and let it penetrate; this will help you feel in charge and control the rhythm.

●When entering, push him down slightly to avoid tightening your vaginal muscles.

●Not climaxing the first time – it’s just a practice session.

The hymen is a fold of skin at the entrance to the vagina that is only found in humans and horses and appears to have no real biological significance. If a woman is born with an atretic hymen, her hymen will need to be cut during menarche to allow menstrual blood to flow out.

Your hymen may be incomplete when you are born, or it may be torn during exercise. If it has not been broken before, the hymen will be torn or stretched the first time you have sex. If there is a laceration, vaginal bleeding may occur, but some people do not experience this. If you don't bleed, don't allow others to accuse you of not being a virgin. Being a virgin means that you have never experienced sexual intercourse, not that you have an unbroken hymen.

Objectively speaking, if the first night is not perfect, the reasons for this failure are roughly as follows:

(1) Lack of preparation before sexual intercourse: Since women’s sexual response is slower than that of men, and women are more reserved and shy by nature, especially when they come into contact with male external genitalia for the first time, if the groom is eager or even violently expresses his sexual desire, it will inevitably lead to sexual intercourse. Sexual failure. For example, before sexual intercourse, do more preparations to stimulate the bride's sexual desire, such as hugging, touching, kissing and other flirting actions. When the bride's sexual desire is aroused, sexual intercourse can achieve psychological and physical satisfaction for both parties.

(2) Lack of understanding of the bride’s reproductive organs: The female vagina is a muscular elastic tube with good stretchability. Why does it sometimes happen that the penis cannot be inserted into the vagina? It turns out that the tension of the vaginal opening is affected by the hymen and the muscle ring of the vaginal opening. With the insertion of the penis for the first time during sexual intercourse, the hymen is stretched, and the tight contraction of the vaginal opening makes it difficult for the penis to be inserted. As the frequency of sexual intercourse increases, the muscle ring expands and stretches to varying degrees, causing the vaginal opening to relax.

In addition, after a woman has sexual desire, the secretions of the vulvar vestibule glands increase, which lubricates the vaginal opening. At the same time, the genital congestion causes a large amount of vaginal fluid to leak out. The cervix is ​​lifted, 2/3 of the vagina is expanded, and the vaginal cavity is elongated by 1/2. 4. Only at this time can the penis be inserted smoothly into the vagina. If you do not understand these common sense and are eager to have sexual intercourse roughly and unprepared, the vagina will not swell and expand, and there will be no lubricants in the vaginal opening and vagina. On the one hand, the penis will be stagnant when inserted into the vagina, and on the other hand, the woman's nervousness will be aggravated due to pain. , and even lead to vaginismus and failure of sexual intercourse. Forced insertion may also cause a woman's perineum and vagina to tear or cause heavy bleeding.

(3) Excessive physical fatigue: Newlyweds often have to go through very tiring preparations before the wedding, and they have to be busy welcoming guests and seeing off guests on the wedding day. In the evening, some friends were making noise in the wedding room. Therefore, the bride and groom in the bridal chamber are already exhausted, and their mental state is at a low ebb or they are uneasy. If coupled with the lack of sexual knowledge, it is difficult to achieve a harmonious and happy sexual life.

(4) Reproductive organ malformations: Women with genital abnormalities such as hymen atresia and vaginal septum cannot insert the penis into the vagina. In this case, women should go to the hospital for surgical treatment.