Nowadays, among fashionable women in Nanjing, there is a copy of "Husband Position System Standards". For a time, the topic of "husband and wife relationship" became the focus of "clicks" among married men and women after dinner. Now let’s take a look at the ten suggestions my husband gave us! Opinion 1: Force your husband to become a "dragon" Tianming is a doctoral candidate at a northern university. After a semester of hard work in school, he can't wait I rushed home, hoping to return to my beloved wife as soon as possible and enjoy a warm and relaxing vacation. Unexpectedly, before the young couple even exchanged a few words, his wife started to be very seductive to him. She kept saying in front of Tianming that so-and-so’s husband had recently received a full scholarship from the United States; so-and-so’s husband had already become a doctoral supervisor; so-and-so’s husband had returned from studying for an MBA abroad and was being competed by several foreign companies. The annual salary is as high as $80,000 and so on. In order not to fall behind "so-and-so"'s husband, Tianming began to study hard from the night he returned home, never leaving the door or taking another step forward. All the vacation plans I originally thought about were not realized. Before the vacation ended, Tianming said helplessly: "Although I have a seemingly bright future, I feel like a small boat in the sea that has deviated from the channel and cannot find a shelter from the wind." Expert comments: Obviously, Women who have this idea often have a strong sense of vanity, which is called "the husband is honored and the wife is valued." In addition, they often have a strong attachment mentality, which is called "there are only vines around trees, but no trees around vines." In order to satisfy their vanity and dependence, they do not hesitate to put all kinds of pressure on their husbands. Of course, there is nothing wrong with encouraging your husband to work hard, but creating pressure that is not based on the actual situation may be counterproductive. In a word: A woman who forces her husband to become a dragon is too stupid.

Opinion 2: Mr. Li likes well-dressed and well-groomed women, and he His wife disappoints him more and more. Mr. Li said: My wife doesn’t know how to choose clothes according to her body characteristics, let alone match colors. I gave her advice and she accused me of being a little man and taking too much care. Once, I joked that men all like beautiful women. Aren't you worried that I will be seduced by others? Unexpectedly, the wife gave a proud "hum" and continued to go her own way. She always believed that her family's conditions were better than mine. She "married" to me despite her parents' objections. She believed that her "righteous deeds" had already "trapped" me, so she dared to live a lazy life with peace of mind. The life of a yellow-faced woman. Although I am not the kind of man who is quick and easy, but when I see a well-dressed woman on the street, I always feel a little disappointed, and sometimes I even have wild thoughts. Expert comments: Such women are not uncommon in China, especially after giving birth to children and gradually entering middle age. Such women often have the following psychology: First, they have a "safe deposit box" mentality, thinking that the "revolution" is over and they can let go, so they dress casually and no longer pay attention to grooming. The second is laziness. It means that we no longer "strictly demand ourselves", everything is careless and we just muddle along. Heart of beauty in everyone. Do you think such a woman can avoid disappointing her husband? The husband may not say it with his mouth, but he understands it in his heart. This is where the real danger lies. In a word: A woman who is unkempt and willing to be a yellow-faced woman is too careless. Opinion 3: Suspicious and arrogant Mr. Cui is the boss of a 4A company. Due to work reasons, he often brings female employees from the company with him. Go out to eat with clients. At this time, his wife's phone call would be traced: "Where are you?" After Mr. Cui answered truthfully, his wife would continue to ask "Why is it so noisy?" or "Why is it so quiet?" When she got home, she would still look for signs of the opposite sex in Mr. Cui through sweet words. She would say for a while, "Why do I smell a perfume?" and then say, "Don't move, there is a white hair on your head, I will pull it out for you." "--Actually, she wanted to check if anyone had left lipstick or the like on her husband's neck. How could these little tricks of my wife escape the eyes of Mr. Cui, a businessman! But he often pretends not to know, so that she can feel at ease in finding nothing. Once, some of Mr. Cui's friends advised his wife not to be too nervous. In turn, his wife asked them seriously: "Our child is still young, so you have to help me look after him." In recent years, Mr. Cui's business has been declining. It was too good, but the mental pressure was too great, and his desire for sex naturally weakened. His wife suspected that he was having an affair with another woman, and even hired someone to keep an eye on him. Mr. Cui said: "My wife's behavior is simply against the nature of love." Experts comment: Suspicious women often do not have confidence in their marriage and themselves. Because she is not confident in her marriage, she is always worried about her husband's emotional displacement or cheating; because she is not confident in herself, she is afraid of being abandoned by her husband one day. The fundamental reason for lack of self-confidence lies in the lack of independence and lack of understanding of the nature of marriage. As for an arrogant wife, she often makes her husband frustrated and speechless, which directly affects the harmony between husband and wife. In a word: A suspicious and arrogant woman is so pitiful.

Opinion 4: Regardless of husband’s dignity Mr. Zhang said: “I am a low-paid person. A man who is so oppressed that he cannot feel his dignity. One day, I wanted to use the royalties I had just received to treat my wife to a restaurant to regain some of my self-esteem as a man. During the dinner, I happened to meet two good friends, so I went. I dared to invite them to the same table for dinner. I didn’t want to exceed the budget when settling the bill, so I had to ask my wife for a loan. He pointed directly at my heart and said: "If you ask him how much he earns in a month, can he afford the AA system? "After that, he walked away. Mr. Zhang finally said sadly: "Doesn't a man lose his dignity if he doesn't have money? Why don’t women understand that a man who is short of money but not lacking in dignity always has hope of prosperity; but a man who is short of money and loses dignity will always be poor. Does my wife want me to be miserable forever? "Expert comments: You can ridicule a man for his lack of appearance, but you can never ridicule a man for his incompetence. Ability - the ability to make money and sexual ability are the two major aspects of a man's dignity. Men who cannot feel dignity tend to give up on themselves and feel inferior. Self-love. Therefore, a smart wife always tries her best to maintain her husband's dignity, and uses various "sweet words" and "technical means" to encourage her husband to sail through the waves and regain his glory. In a word: A woman who does not know how to maintain her husband's dignity is too ignorant. .