This is a new relationship between men and women in modern urban office buildings. They behave affectionately and even talk about everything, but there is no ambiguous relationship between men and women. They are sliding in the gray area of ​​friendship and love between colleagues. People who don't know what they are looking at see them as ambiguous, but in fact they have not messed up their sense of proportion.

Platonic love may sound a bit unbelievable, but such OFFICE relationships do happen around us all the time. They are all couples under the fireworks of the world. They are inevitably affected by reality, have various twists and turns, and lead to different endings. Maybe these will happen to you...

The lover is not full: the body is not yet moved, but the heart is not far away< /p>

When Ken called Cherry, Cherry was busy shopping in the mall. After finally freeing up his hand to answer the phone, Cherry's first sentence was: "Ken, don't make things more difficult for me. I'm busy grabbing bargains."

Ken chuckled: "You... You’re such a cheap lady, you really have no pursuit. Don’t blame me for not reminding you, please remember to attend the client company dinner arranged by your boss tonight. It’s 5:45 pm Beijing time and the dinner starts at 7 o’clock.”

Five minutes later, Ken drove a Peugeot 307 in We met Cherry at the entrance of the mall. After throwing a bunch of trophies into the trunk, Cherry got into the passenger seat and waved his hand with great satisfaction: "Tchaikovsky (driver), let's go."

Cherry and Ken graduated from college in the same year and were assigned to the same office in a company at the same time. Except for the department heads, there were only two people, Cherry and Ken, staring at each other across the table. Many people thought that they would become a couple if they looked at each other like this, but they failed to live up to the expectations of the public and found their significant other respectively.

Maybe it’s just too familiar. Cherry said that she knew that Ken would catch a cold when the seasons changed, that he always bought horizontal stripes when buying casual T-shirts, and that his favorite fruit was grapes; Ken also knew that she liked to whistle when she was happy, and knew that she liked to whistle when she was worried. I couldn't sleep because I knew her favorite was mousse cake.

"Ambiguousness is like a seesaw. One less point is friendship, one more point is love. The key lies in how to grasp the balance." Cherry concluded in the end.

High-risk behaviors: eating, helping each other, watching movies

Under what circumstances will ambiguity occur? In this multiple-choice question, eating together, helping each other at work, and watching movies together ranked among the top three high-risk behaviors.

Mr. Lin, who works as a department manager in a foreign-funded enterprise, strongly agrees with this. The "extraordinary" relationship between him and his subordinates was developed during lunch together. "She is a new employee, so of course I have to help her more at work. We often work overtime and have meals together. Sometimes I spend more time communicating with her than my family members in a week."

"Although I am very fond of her. She has a good impression, but I have a family and can't touch the bottom line. " Mr. Lin said that the new subordinate also welcomed him, but no third person knew about this ambiguous relationship.

As for the ambiguous colleagues under their noses, 31.7% of the respondents took a tolerant attitude and believed that the relationship was between a lover and a colleague, which was quite good; about 28% only expressed understanding. Do not support it; another 14.6% of people view it with a gossip mentality. Of course, the remaining 15% of participants were "firmly opposed" to this.

"This is actually just a feeling, not as complicated as everyone thinks." Ms. Liu, who has had ambiguous experiences, said that the attraction between the opposite sex has no reason and occurs unconsciously. The result is often a dead end. The survey shows that it is indeed difficult to maintain an ambiguous state. More than half of office ambiguities come and go without a trace, and are as dull as water. They are often the most common ending after longing for each other or even after a fire.

Some people say that the most beautiful thing is this ambiguous state, because you can't figure it out in your heart. The other person's eyes and smiles can make you guess for a long time, and once your thoughts are revealed, this kind of "fun" It's gone and the relationship can't continue.

${FDPageBreak}

Ambiguous relationship: Who is warmed? Who was hurt?

The ambiguity in the office also involves interests, career prospects, and interpersonal relationships. It seems to have a more dangerous smell than ordinary ambiguity.

Some people say that ambiguous relationships can strengthen unity among colleagues and are helpful for work; some say that if the person you are having an affair with is the boss of the company, you are riding a career coattail; others say that family If your marriage is not going well, it is good to have someone to talk to at work; some people say that ambiguity can inspire a kind of pleasant power and turn it into a motivation for work.

Is this really the case? A large number of facts prove that office ambiguity leaves more "scars". The most basic thing is that the parties involved thought that they were hiding something from the truth, but in fact, as time goes by, colleagues will always feel it, and once everyone feels it, either one of them will resign and leave, or they will be transferred from the original position. This is because This is especially true for foreign companies.

The reasons for ambiguity vary, but based on the psychological state of the parties involved, they can be roughly divided into two types: "unintentional mistakes" and "intentional mistakes."

Some people are the "silly and naive" type, thinking that if they stay closer to their colleagues than friends but further away than lovers, nothing will happen; some people think that as long as there is no physical contact, nothing will happen. If you speak the truth, you will be infallible.

There are also some "very pornographic and violent" types. These people themselves are some masters of love. They just like to play office ambiguity, deliberately develop an ambiguous relationship, and then leave. For such people, For me, ambiguity is completely a game.

Maybe you are being gentle unintentionally, or maybe you are doing it deliberately, but no matter what, it is always very difficult to withdraw from a relationship midway. Therefore, if you are in the workplace, be careful of being "captured" by this ambiguous relationship.

Office Ambiguity Manual

Male version

1. Take the initiative to solve computer problems for her in the office, signal her not to stand up, bend down your waist, hold the back of her chair with one hand, hold the mouse with the other, and then Keep your face close to hers and keep a slap distance from hers;

2. Ask her to eat, drink coffee, eat ice cream, or go to the bar without any reason, just like ordinary friends.

3. Pay attention to her health. Many girls have small stomach problems. Find out what medicine they usually take, and then by coincidence, prepare a bottle in a drawer or in the compartment of the car.

Female version

1. Even if you have time, you can call him and ask him to help buy breakfast at the convenience store downstairs in the office - "Whatever you want to buy." "Look for me, you know what I like to eat" must be added.

2. Use a very grand reason to let the other person hold your hand. For example, when climbing a mountain together, you can extend your slender hand and say, "I can't walk anymore. Please hold me." "Hang it", and then he led me up the mountain.

3. When you have a conflict with your boyfriend, the first thing you think of is to talk to him.

This article comes from adult.6kmall.com and is published by netizens. This site only quotes it for reference. It does not mean that this site agrees with the views of the article. If you believe that the content and intellectual property rights of this article infringe upon your interests, please contact us.