Many women always complain that their husbands have a strange problem. Every time they have sex, they have to turn on the light and ask her to strip naked for him to see. He touched and looked at it, and his emotions quickly came up. But this makes me very embarrassed and uncomfortable, and sometimes I even don’t feel like continuing. In fact, many couples often have disagreements over whether they should turn on the lights or turn off the lights during sex. So when having sex, should you turn on the lights or turn them off?

Why do men like to have sex with the lights on?

In fact, visual stimulation can help stimulate men's emotions. There are several pairs of nerves in the human brain that are connected to the eyes, and visual stimulation can cause the excitement of the sexual nerve center. This reaction mechanism is originally the same for men and women, but because women have a stronger desire for contact than men, they tend to accept caresses more, while men rely more on visual perception.

Why do women like to have sex with the lights turned off?

Generally speaking, women like to turn off the lights to have sex, because women are more sensitive to tactile stimulation and like caressing, and darkness will make them focus on the feeling of caressing. On the other hand, some women feel embarrassed due to shyness and would feel more at ease turning off the lights. Men generally like to have sex with the lights on, because a large part of a man's sexual stimulation comes from vision. His wife's eyes, expressions, naked body, breasts, genitals, etc. can all arouse men's strong sexual desire.

What are the benefits of turning the light on and off to have sex?

Sex with the lights on, on the one hand, reflects the greater understanding of the relationship between the couple, and on the other hand, it also reflects the relative consistency of the two people's sexual concepts; sex with the lights on, can enhance each other's emotional integration. For men, it is a help to increase sexual desire; at the same time, it is also necessary for each other to explore and improve sexual skills; from the perspective of sexual needs, the man's needs for the woman can be understood and satisfied in time during sex. For women, sex with the lights on is also a catalyst to improve sexual satisfaction.

Lights-off sex is manifested in the initial stage of a couple's relationship. It may also be that one of the parties is overly sensitive to sex; if the relationship between the couple transitions from intimacy to indifference, they will choose to turn off the lights during sex because they only Doing it for sex, there is no love at all. But there are also couples who occasionally turn off the lights and go out in the dark, which is just for fun. From the perspective of the progress of a couple's intimate relationship, sex with the lights off reflects the passivity and sluggishness of the relationship. If this happens for a long time, it will inevitably have an impact on the development of the intimate relationship.

Is it better to have sex with the lights on or off?

As for whether to turn the lights on or off during sex, both husband and wife can go through an adjustment process through communication, and the wife does not have to be stubborn on this issue. This is just like the foreplay and tenderness after making love. Men's need for it is not as strong as that of women, but a well-educated husband does not ignore his wife's needs because of this. After all, the greatest achievement of making love is to satisfy both himself and the other party. If your wife can't accept it at first, you can first dim the light to the darkest level or use candlelight instead, and then gradually increase the light level later. Of course, the light should be warm and soft, not too bright, so as to produce a mind-blowing effect. In short, give full play to your imagination, make the environment of sex rich in changes, and increase the freshness of sex.

Having sex in "Dark Lights and Blind Fire" will give people a warm and mysterious feeling, reducing the psychological burden during sex. But the whole process will also make both parties lose a lot of fun. In this regard, the advice given by modern sexologists is that both parties can turn off the lights first during foreplay. When both parties' sexual desire is aroused and their scruples are reduced, it is best to turn on the lights and have sex.