This is the perfect time to talk about sex and make it better

The beauty of love lies in the intention between the two ears, not just the physical affection. After the passion has passed, it's the perfect time to get back to talking about sex and get closer to each other. Recently, the Times of India invited sexology experts to guide people on how to discuss sex afterward.

What you like and what you don’t like. After sex, it's a smart idea to discuss what you liked or didn't like to not only make you feel more relaxed but also improve any areas you didn't like. Amit, a sexologist in Mumbai, India, said: "Couples can lie intimately, caress and chat, and talk about each other's beautiful feelings and desires for sex during sex." Sexologist Dr. Roy said: "Sex It's healthy to discuss the performance of sex afterwards, but don't over-analyze the sex. If you feel the other person has shortcomings, be patient and tell him/her, but don't compare your partner to others, otherwise it will be harmful to your relationship. ”

Plan the next round of passion. If your sexual interest continues, you can plan your next round of sex. Not only will this ignite a passion, but it will also bring you closer together. Amit recommends highlighting and emphasizing your favorite action just now, so that your partner knows how to use your strengths and avoid weaknesses in the next round. You should also take this opportunity to devise new ways to be intimate.

Express sexual fantasies. Dr. Bacchus, a relationship counselor, said: "After sex, because your partner is so affectionate at the moment, he is patient enough to listen. You can tell all the sexual fantasies you want to put into practice, and you will be even more passionate next time."

Appreciate each other's body. Your partner craves appreciation and wants you to praise him/her not only for his/her sexual performance but also for his/her appearance. Tell your partner how beautiful his/her curves are and how wonderful it feels when you touch his/her body. Dr. Roy said: "Praising each other after sex will make your partner more confident in himself and feel more secure."

Complain to each other sincerely. Maybe you've said "I love you" to your partner countless times, but there's something special about saying it after sex. This is like a sublimation agent that maximizes the satisfaction and happiness of sex. At this time, close to your partner's ear and whisper sweet words, which is enough to make your partner happy. Dr. Bacchus points out: "After enjoying sex, most couples are drowsy and don't realize that their partner may be craving for a sign of love. So seize this special moment and tell your partner how much you love them. /She cares about him/her so much."

After sex, lie quietly for a while

As age increases, many middle-aged and elderly men begin to complain that they are becoming more and more tired after sex, and the recovery period is also significantly prolonged. Although everyone understands that this is a normal physiological phenomenon, they still hope to find an effective solution.

"For middle-aged and elderly men, it is best to lie down and lie still for a while after sex." Zhang Rui, deputy chief physician of the Andrology Department of the Second Affiliated Hospital of Heilongjiang University of Traditional Chinese Medicine, told the "Life Times" reporter, "From the perspective of modern medicine, From a perspective, lying down after sex can relieve testicular congestion as soon as possible. The heart and testicles are at the same level when lying down, which is beneficial to the smooth circulation of testicular veins, avoids testicular varicose veins, and promotes the rapid recovery of blood vessels during sex. Contraction will reduce the blood supply to the brain, causing temporary hypoxia of brain cells and making the body feel tired. Lying down can promote blood return to the brain, restore oxygen supply to the brain, and eliminate the feeling of fatigue.

From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, "when lying down, blood returns to the liver." When lying down, blood will fully flow into the liver, the liver's qi and blood will be sufficient, and the blood supply to the heart and brain will also be sufficient. When lying down, we can simply adjust our breathing, place the tip of our tongue against the roof of our mouth, wrap our hands in front of our lower abdomen, inhale deeply, and then exhale. You can also perform levator movements while inhaling. Doing this several times will help to harmonize Qi and eliminate fatigue.

After sex, couples lie quietly and massage each other, which not only helps regulate local blood circulation, but also deepens feelings and promotes sexual harmony.

Zhang Rui also pointed out that after lying down for a while, you can take a warm shower. Warm water bathing can stimulate blood vessel dilation, promote blood circulation and metabolism, accelerate the discharge of metabolites, and improve neuromuscular nutrition; it can also stimulate parasympathetic nerves, relax emotions, and eliminate tension during sex. In addition, sweat and body fluids discharged during sex can also be washed away. Then the couple would lie down and talk for a while, which would make them feel happier.