After getting married and having children, as the children cry and the pressure of life increases, sex becomes a luxury, and many couples actually suffer from frigidity. In fact, not having time for sex is an excuse. Time is like water in a sponge. It pays to squeeze it in. The key is whether you can bring up the other person's sexual desire.

The improvement of sexual quality is closely related to sexual skills. If you don’t like flexibility and always use the same techniques, positions, times, and places during sex, how can you improve the quality of sex? Perfect sex can be achieved by changing different patterns. Only by eliminating sexual monotony can the quality of sex be effectively improved. The survey found that most women "can" predict their sexual life; although modern people's sexual concepts are more open, only 30% actively seek changes.

6 tips on how to stimulate sexual desire after marriage

Avoid misunderstandings during sex

In love, there are often many misunderstandings, and the most fearful thing is "If you don't ask, he won't tell." Communication is the bridge between people. Husbands and wives also need to communicate, not only to communicate feelings, but also to communicate sex. Of course, mutual dedication and mutual reciprocity in sexual life between partners are generally tacit and rarely expressed in words. But this kind of "exchange" actually does exist, and precisely because the one who made the contribution will not say it clearly, it is easier for the other party to ignore it and to unintentionally hurt the other party's heart. Don't let him act like a coolie in bed trying to please you. If you want him to stay in a certain area, you have to say so. When he meets your requirements, you should also let him know. If he doesn't do something right, don't accuse him maliciously. Express it in a gentler way and say that you prefer this or that.

Looking for free time sex

You are busy, and he is even busier. Too busy to have sex? How about sex. Try making love in every possible way to rekindle your passion. If you have ten minutes to spare, try having a quick fuck. This may sound like a ridiculous suggestion, but you won’t know how interesting it is until you try it. Sometimes, rapid intimacy is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, many couples appreciate the stimulation brought by rapid sexual intercourse, which can create the feeling of being a secret between only two of them.

Caressing affectionately

Many couples rarely touch each other affectionately. They may feel awkward about this, and touching each other regularly is the best technique to eliminate emotional and psychological barriers. Be sure to get into the habit of touching your partner, such as holding his hand while watching a movie, running your fingers up and down his upper arm while watching TV together, and giving each other a kiss from time to time. Don't constantly send "don't come near me" messages to your partner. Even if he kisses you in the morning and it smudges your freshly applied lipstick, re-applying your makeup is nothing compared to getting a signal that he has deep feelings for you. of.

Change sex location

The bed shouldn't be the only place you two have sex. When you get excited at home, but on the way to the bedroom, there will always be many things to distract you, and you will soon lose your enthusiasm. Experts point out that if you want to enjoy more and better sexual pleasure, you should act immediately when your desire is aroused. Dining rooms, carpets, sofas... can all be good places for you to enjoy yourself.

Use sex techniques

Of course, the same way of having sex is extremely boring. If you dare to try it, you will definitely get unexpected gains. These attempts can be easily obtained from relevant books, don't worry about your imagination. You can also pay attention to the official website of sex toys from time to time and pay attention to the newly launched sex toys. For example, Durex’s latest Thunderbolt Stick has an excellent sexual aid effect. It has the most powerful motor and specially enhanced rotation force, which can stimulate the clitoris and U-spot. , multiple parts of the G-spot, powerful vibrations leading to climax.

Sex on the road

Plan a itinerary with him that you have never tried before and that is the most arousing of desire, so that the two of you can have the intimacy of first acquaintance. For example, if you stay in a love hotel for a night, the sex toys and sexual aids there will definitely bring you a different sexual experience and make your passion burning.

Are you happy with sex?

In the past, the understanding of sex was biased. For a long time, sex was regarded as an "embellishment of life". Having it would be better, but having it would not affect the quality of life. But now, this attitude has changed, which can be seen from the frequency of women's sexual life.

In a survey involving 3,000 people, 30% of women had sex 4-6 times a month; followed by 1-3 times, accounting for 24.22%; 21.58% had sex 7-10 times; 21.58% had sex 11 times. The above is 17.54%. But there are still 5.32% of people who have not had it even once. While the frequency of sexual life is increasing, the quality of sexual life of Chinese women is also increasing. When asked "Are you happy with your sex life with your partner?", 40.65% of women answered "happy", 29.46% said "very happy", "occasionally happy" and "never happy" were 25.22% and 2.98% respectively. .

How to improve sexual pleasure?

Improve sexual skills

The wife's superb sexual skills are more conducive to improving the quality of the couple's sexual life. There is no "refractory period" in women's sexual physiology, so they appear more powerful. Since Chinese society and culture have always had a negative and negative attitude towards sexual behavior, especially towards women, this rejection has suppressed their demand for sex to a certain extent. If women can get rid of these negative attitudes, cultural or social habits and let go of their bodies and minds, it will no longer be difficult to achieve sexual satisfaction. Chinese wives should take the initiative to learn sexual skills and learn more about and enjoy sex. This is a good thing for the stability of your marriage.

Try new sex

According to statistics from sexologists, even in France, which advocates romance and sexual freedom, nearly one-third of partners have almost no sex. This is not because sex has lost its appeal, but more importantly because partners have ignored the "innovation" of sex life and no longer work hard to keep sex fresh. In the long run, it will of course become tasteless. In China, 19.14% of women had tried something new during sex a year ago, accounting for the largest proportion. Followed by within half a year, reaching 17.41%. What is puzzling is that 66.75% of women "take no action" to improve the quality of their couples' sexual life.

Try lubricants

Most European and American women have three essential things in their bedroom: condoms, sex tools and lubricants. There are still only a few Chinese women who use lubricants and sex tools. In foreign countries, except for middle-aged and elderly women and young women who do not have enough lubrication, some people use lubricants when using sex tools. Insufficient vaginal lubrication is a prominent manifestation of sexual arousal disorder and will aggravate sexual pain. The use of lubricants can, firstly, increase the sensitivity of the clitoris and help women obtain more pleasure; secondly, the lubricants contain moisturizing factors, which can prevent vaginal discomfort due to excessive dryness.

Create romantic sex

Many couples are accustomed to a monotonous sex life and have no intention of creating surprises. Wearing the same clothes every day, eating the same three meals, and without romantic emotional fluctuations, sex will naturally appear monotonous. But in fact, no matter how long you have been married, as long as both parties are attracted to each other and are willing to put effort into their sex life, there will be new content and feelings.

Creating a sexual surprise is simple, and the sex location and position are the easiest changes to make. Sex is often an emotional expression. You don't have to worry too much, just feel right. If you only had sex in bed in the past, you might as well move to the living room or spread a thick blanket on the floor to give your body more freedom. Before changing sexual positions, you can ask your partner for advice, understand their sexual fantasy, and work hard to realize it.