Before getting married, many people probably had similar expectations such as "no anger, no quarrels, and love forever after marriage." But we all know after marriage that all kinds of problems in marriage are not something we just say we don’t have. What we need to do is face these real-life problems.

As our sex philosophy says, problems in the relationship between husband and wife are not terrible. As long as we master the methods to solve the problem, the opposite effect will be that our relationship will become better and better.

1. Formulate a "Love Pact"

As long as we abide by the principles in everything we do, certain problems will definitely be avoided to some extent. So in marriage, we can also try to take advantage of this principle.

There was a couple who often quarreled over trivial matters. Later, the husband expressed his wish to enter into the following convention: 1. Husband and wife must be patient with each other in everything; 2. If you have different opinions and want to speak loudly, leave each other for a while; 3. Husband and wife should treat each other sincerely; 4. Husband and wife should express love to each other; 5. If one party is unhappy, the other party should try to help the other party forget the unhappy things; 6. Every night before going to bed, husband and wife should review each other's affairs of the day and plan tomorrow's affairs together.

Sure enough, after they did this, the couple's life became much more harmonious than before. Especially for couples with impatient tempers and strong self-esteem, the restrictive effect of love covenants is even more obvious.

2. Learn to put yourself in someone else’s shoes

If we always look at a problem from one perspective, we will fall into a state of "four corners". Research by psychologists has found that about half of the couples whose relationship has faded are just because of each other's strong personalities, and as a result, they can't stand each other and get along awkwardly.

In fact, if you look at it from another angle, you will always find that there are many things that do not involve right and wrong and principles, so don't take these too seriously.

Another point is to change your behavior habits. It depends on whether each other can tolerate, understand and adapt to each other's personalities. If you can not be too demanding on the other person and change yourself first, I believe that the emotional crisis between married couples will not be easy to form.

3. Tell him the advantages in your eyes

If I were talking about your advantages and beauty right now, wouldn't you at least feel that you are happy? In the same way, when you list your lover's advantages one by one, you will find that he will be so excited!

American psychologists have a three-week plan called "Improving Couple Relationships," which requires couples who are at odds with each other to discover an advantage of each other every day and tell each other about it within three weeks. It may feel a little awkward for the first few days, but it will feel natural after a few days.

By the end of the twenty-first day, most couples find it easy to list the good qualities of each other. Of course, the purpose of this method is to free emotionally discordant couples from the negative transference mentality. As long as this goal can be achieved, the time can be long or short.

4 marriage preservatives to make you happy for a lifetime

Develop new shared hobbies

Are complementary couples happier, or couples with similar personalities? There is no final answer to this question. But no matter what type of couple they are, they must have common interests and hobbies. For example, hiking together, volunteering together, and cooking together. In common activities, couples can increase communication opportunities and unknowingly bring the two hearts closer together.

Couples should learn new things together

Learning new things can keep couples fresh. As society develops, couples must continue to make progress and learn and accept new things together. In terms of life skills, learning new things can enable couples to master more skills, use the skills they master to improve their living standards, and inject fresh vitality into married life.

Sex must also be constantly innovative

When it comes to sex, innovation is even more necessary. For example, new ways of having sex and new places to have sex can allow couples to feel fresh stimulation during sex and make sex more perfect. Of course, don’t forget about the new sex tools, the Illusion Family Massager is on the market, don’t you want to try it? The M-Huanjue dual-drive dual-vibration massager can adjust 5 speeds to upgrade the sexual pleasure step by step. It allows couples to achieve the ultimate pleasure through vibration and teasing at different frequencies.

Play the zodiac sex game

Constellations are also a fashionable thing. Although they are not necessarily scientific, they are very interesting. It is also very good to play them as a game. Especially for those who already like horoscopes, they might as well take a look at playing horoscope sex games, such as downloading a Dudu star fortune on your mobile phone, and then having sex according to the sex horoscopes of the horoscope, which is also very interesting.

In short, if you want to last a lifetime, you must innovate in all aspects. Only by continuous innovation can you keep your marriage fresh for a lifetime.