The most important sexual pleasure is not between the legs, but between the ears. It lies in the feelings of people's brain and the satisfaction in their hearts. Recently, the American "Prevention" magazine published an article pointing out that sex also contains a lot of "philosophy". Everyone should understand some "sexual philosophy" so that they can become more sensible in their sex life and enjoy greater sexual pleasure.

Learn some sex "philosophy" with your partner

Lower your expectations. Many people struggle with what a perfect sex life should be like, such as how it feels, how long it should last, and what positions should be used. In this way, sexual pleasure cannot be obtained. Because most of these expectations are inspired by film and television works, they are often out of touch with reality. Once these expectations are let go, people will truly appreciate how wonderful the sex they are experiencing is.

Know your body. Only by better understanding your own body can you better experience the feeling of intimacy in your sexual life and better express your needs to your sexual partner. So go ahead and explore your body and understand it better.

slow down. There's nothing wrong with a "quick fight" once in a while. However, if you want to bring the relationship closer between the sexes, you still have to slowly appreciate sex. During sex or foreplay, you can slow down the action frequency to 1/10 of the previous one, and you will experience a completely different feeling.

Stimulate all senses. Sex itself feels wonderful, but in addition, engaging all the senses, such as dimming the lights, can help people fully immerse themselves in sex.

Open your eyes. Keep your eyes open when kissing or having sex, and preferably make eye contact with the couple. You may feel a little weird, especially if you kiss each other for the first time. But once you get over the weird feelings, you'll feel closer and more engaged.

Be focused. Distraction is a major negative factor in sexual pleasure. Therefore, when you find that your thoughts are wandering during sex, you should quickly stop and focus on the current feeling and experience. And avoid the influence of modern technology. For example, a survey shows that 1/5 of people even check their mobile phones during sex, so be sure to turn off your mobile phone or put it in airplane mode.

Breathe freely. Many women hold their breath during sex, especially when orgasm is approaching. However, this reduces the flow of blood and oxygen to the pelvic floor area, both of which are necessary for orgasm. Continuous deep breathing helps prolong pleasure and spreads sexual energy throughout the body. You can try having sex when your partner exhales and you inhale, and when your partner inhales you exhale, which can enhance sexual pleasure.

Appreciate your partner. Think more about your partner's strengths and benefits, such as being generous, supporting your dreams, taking good care of your children, etc., and say "thank you" often. Expressing gratitude increases relationship satisfaction.

Redefine "sex." Regardless of the length of intercourse, the desire to remain intimate and close between the sexes is always present. Therefore, it is necessary to expand the understanding of the meaning of "sex": "sex" is not limited to sexual organs and orgasm. "Sex" exists in foreplay, touching, hugging, flirting, etc., as long as it increases your sexual energy.

Eight ways that women love most that men don’t know

1. Wedding night

Reason for commemoration: This day is her most beautiful day. She will feel very safe with her husband.

Try this tonight: Even though you had your honeymoon 12 years ago. Use a ballpoint pen to write a sexy message on her body in the morning, because women are easily excited by words. It would be best if she saw it a few hours later, then she would have time to fantasize about it. When she gets home, try treating her differently than before, such as just kissing her gently on the cheek or neck.

Eight kinds of life that women love most that men don’t know

2. Business trip

Reason for commemoration: Have you ever felt that the most romantic moments are when you come back from a business trip and are intimate with each other? Watching a romantic adult movie is so sweet.

Try this tonight: Whether you're out for eight days or eight minutes, imitate that passion and kiss him softly all over his face.

3. Quarrel

Reasons to Remember: You had a yelling argument and maybe broke a few dishes. Maybe things will be more intense in the bedroom. Because when people are angry, both partners' testosterone increases, and if you enter the bedroom with this high level of testosterone and anger, the desire will be even higher.

Try this tonight: Create a heated argument without actually hurting each other. Maybe you can also try some physical contact, such as miniature golf, pillow fighting, or naked wrestling, but remember to let her win.

4. Breakup

Reason for commemoration: You have made the decision to separate, but the final date will not cause any harm to both parties. Of course, your feelings will definitely be different: physically speaking, research has found that during this final sex, the hormones of the man's sperm will change, and this change will cause the other party to spontaneously ovulate. In other words, you have subconsciously turned her on, even if you don't want to; psychologically, when you know this is your last time, you will both be more relaxed and carefree.

5. Birthday

Reason for commemoration: On your birthday, you always think about what kind of gifts or surprises she will give you. Maybe a different kind of married life is the best gift.

Try this tonight: Tell her you're taking her somewhere mysterious and ask her if she can leave her panties at home. Take her somewhere with Latin music, because Latin dancing is very sexy. When you get home, you can present her with the perfect gift: stimulating all the senses and giving her an orgasm like never before.

6. The first time with her

Reason for commemoration: Since it is your first time, all your senses will be mobilized. And because every man has his own set of sexual processes, but when this process changes, they will be more excited when they are with a new girlfriend.

Try this tonight: Maybe tonight isn't your first time, but the point is that you engage all your senses, or at least stimulate them in a different way. You can try these little games: Blindfold yourself, put a drop of honey on her body, and use your tongue to find the drop of honey; take a sip of champagne and then kiss her without swallowing it.

7. Vacation

Reasons for commemoration: First of all, you are free from pressure from all aspects, such as work, money and other things. And due to the change in the surrounding environment, the atmosphere will be increased.

Try this tonight: From simple luxuries you can take to vacation every day. Sleep on your back with your feet on the pillow or turn the bed around. Even with this small change, you'll both feel an extra kick.

8. Pregnancy style

Reason for commemoration: Many couples are nervous when they try to have a baby for the first time because they have been trying to avoid birth control, but now they decide to become parents. Saying "Let's have a baby" to your significant other is a very romantic thing.

Try this tonight: Place some rose petals on a ceiling fan and turn the fan on when she lies down. Put on the song from your wedding. If there is something special to you, bring it to the bedroom because it will create a special rapport between you. The side position is the easiest to get pregnant.

There are 5 advantages to having sex as you get older

An article recently published in the American "Health" cited the views of many American sex experts and clearly pointed out: Older age also has sexual advantages, and sexual life after the age of 50 may be more satisfying.

1. Sexual desire may be stronger

Dr. Richards, professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine, said that after the age of 50, the sexual desire once suppressed by birth control pills will be released again, and the sexual desire may be stronger. In addition, after the age of 50, couples are more open-minded, and it is not a bad idea to occasionally use sex toys to help achieve orgasm.

2. No interference during sex

After the age of 50, sex will not be disturbed by children, and children will not wake up at night. Dr. Richards said time is of the essence when it comes to sex. Once the children grow up, couples will have more "two world" time, and sex will be more wonderful.

3. Don’t worry about pregnancy

"Thirty is like a wolf, forty is like a tiger." But at this time you still have to work hard for your career, take care of your children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and you also need to be careful about contraception. Dr. Ma Wellman, a professor of medicine at the University of Colorado Health Science Center, said that many women still worry about getting pregnant in their 40s and 50s, but once they reach menopause, these worries disappear.

4. The economy is more stable

After the age of 50, the economy becomes more stable and housing conditions improve, and any room can be opened up as a sexual battlefield. As long as you want it, luxurious and sexy lingerie is no problem. Dr. Richards said that women after the age of 50 have greater financial control than when they were younger in terms of romantic dating and travel.

5. Less career pressure

After turning fifty, my career is basically stable. Although I am still a little stressed, the pressure is no longer greater than when I was young. Dr. Richards said women after menopause are more likely to reach the peak of their careers and therefore experience less stress. And stress is a big killer of sexual desire.