According to a report by Life Times in September: Sexless marriages are spreading around the world, causing trouble to more and more families. Sexless marriage may cause emotional, physical and mental harm to both parties, and may also affect social stability.

The sexual life crisis faced by couples in various countries

United States: 20 million couples have sex less than 10 times a year

Recently, a book called "Sexless Marriage" has become a best-seller in the United States. Both the "New York Times" and "The New Yorker" have written reviews. The book points out that currently nearly 20% of couples in the United States are in sexless marriages, and more than 20 million couples have sex less than 10 times a year. There is no doubt that America has entered the era of sexlessness. Worryingly, some couples seem to accept the reality of sexless marriages with ease.

Germany: 1/3 of partners have been in a cold war for a long time

According to the German "Bild" report, the German Institute of Social Sciences Sexology conducted a large-scale survey called "Sex Secrets", involving 50,000 German married couples of all ages. The results show that the average number of Germans having sex per year reaches 139 times, and 16% of people think sex is very important. However, at the same time, 1/3 of couples rarely have sex and are in the stage of sexless marriage.

This result surprised many experts: "Most people in sexless marriages are only in their thirties or forties, which is very abnormal."

35% of couples in Japan have sex less than once a month

In recent years, sexless marriages have grown exponentially in Japan. To this end, the Japanese Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare has set up a special research team to understand the status of sexless marriages through surveys and other methods. According to the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare, couples who have no sex life or have sex less than once a month are asexual couples. The latest data shows that 35% of couples in Japan belong to this group.

20% of adult women in the UK have never had sex

A recent survey of women by a British fashion magazine showed that the "history of asexuality" among British adult women is getting longer and longer. 20% of adult women have never tasted what sex is like, and 10% of the women surveyed admitted that within a year The number of times they have sex is less than three times, and 60% of the respondents have reduced the number of times they have sex to one or two times a month. In this regard, British public opinion believes that now is a critical moment to save sexless marriages.

A survey on "Sex Habits" conducted by Lovehoney, the UK's largest sex tool retailer, on 1,654 adults in March this year showed that Tuesday has become the day when couples are least likely to be intimate with each other.

What does sexless marriage have to do with?

First, the novelty between husband and wife gradually disappears after marriage. The reason why men and women come together and eventually become husband and wife is actually sexual attraction, the attraction between opposite sexes, which is also a law of nature. Before marriage, both of them are relatively new to this. They both have a desire for sex and want to try to understand each other. Therefore, it is normal for husband and wife to be passionate and affectionate before marriage. But after marriage, they sleep in the same bed every day, their bodies become more and more familiar, and they have sex every day. Therefore, there is less and less freshness, less mystery, and lack of passion and sex. Life naturally decreases. As the marriage lasts longer and longer, facing a familiar body every day, sexual interest becomes less and less attractive, so frigidity occurs.

Second, couples no longer have to "pretend" after marriage. When falling in love before marriage, in order to attract each other, both men and women "disguise" everything from appearance to speech, and show their beautiful sides to each other. Some women even wait for several months after they have been in love with a man before letting him see them. Therefore, there is passion before marriage, but after marriage, many couples, especially the wife, think that they are married. Whether it is speech or appearance, they have returned to their original appearance, which surprises the husband. As a husband, he thinks that he is married. There is no need for sweet words, and the original ecology is restored, making the wife feel that the other person is like this, feeling cheated, and losing interest in sex life, especially as the age increases, the child's appears, the wife becomes a "yellow-faced woman" and the husband becomes a "bad old man". They lose their interest and tenderness, and even quarrel loudly and quarrel every day. How can such a couple have fun and sex? This is where the coldness comes from. Therefore, after marriage, husband and wife still need to have a "pretend" of goodwill. It can be said that the "pretend" of goodwill is for love.

Third, the pressure of life makes couples forget about sex. Before marriage, everything depends on parents to provide clothes and food. But after marriage, I realize that the pot is made of iron. I don’t have the money to buy a house or have to repay the loan every month. I need to pay for favors. I need money for my children’s milk powder and education. Money is needed to support parents, to get sick, and to live for themselves. In addition, competition in the workplace, especially today’s sky-high prices, under the pressure of life, many couples are busy making money and forget that there is still sex between husband and wife. There is such a thing as life.