The so-called psychological saturation means that a person's psychological endurance reaches a level where it can no longer bear it. It is like adding solutes such as salt and sugar to water. They will dissolve quickly at first, but after exceeding a certain amount, they will dissolve. It no longer dissolves but naturally settles to the bottom of the container. This phenomenon is called "saturation".

The process of psychological saturation in couples

After marriage, many people cannot help but regard their partners as the most important person in their lives, especially women. They must be "as good as just one person" because they devote all their energy to the "other half", so that Women "lost" themselves in marriage, and partners who are too close will quickly lose each other's freshness, leading to psychological saturation.

Dr. William Hankin, a famous American sex psychologist, pointed out that maintaining oneself in the relationship between husband and wife is one of the secrets of a happy marriage. Many people not only "lost" themselves after getting married, but also expect the other person to give up themselves, requiring the two people to merge into a "third body" established for marriage. This practice of sacrificing oneself for love is not advisable: first of all, It goes against the original intention of love - two people fall in love because they are attracted to each other as an "individual", lose themselves, and naturally lose their attraction and freshness to their other half. Secondly, losing oneself will make both parties feel depressed and constrained, because true love is a kind of tolerance and should give each other freedom.

Therefore, it is recommended that people who are bathed in love spend 10 minutes alone every day, close their eyes, and recall the people, places and events that have left a deep impression on themselves. It is like a signpost on a long journey, helping you Determine “who I am”.

Regularly “leave” your partner behind and only gather with friends, especially friends of the same sex, in order to restore and replenish your gender role energy.

Keeping a diary to record your interests, hobbies and daily thoughts is also a good way to maintain yourself.

Four tips to avoid feeling saturated

Tip 1: Don’t try to maintain your passion

Don't deliberately maintain the passion between you. Passion is a short-lived thing. Let love develop naturally. Therefore, you should be more attentive in life, work hard to make money, and let the other person feel your love. Have some romance from time to time, not after getting married, and then go through the crazy period. Even if you are old, you should make your love sweet instead of living an ordinary life. The key to successful love does not depend on passion and love, but on the ease and joy of living together.

Tip 2: Don’t argue for the sake of fairness

Two people go from falling in love to getting married because of love. In love, no one is right or wrong, so don't argue for the sake of fairness. When two people live together, they understand and love each other. When they quarrel, they can think more about it: Is this matter worth our quarrel? Just because of this, is it going to ruin the relationship between us? Ninety percent of quarrels should be avoidable. If quarrels are unavoidable, the time should be shortened and to the point. Remember that you are only quarreling about the thing you are quarreling about and do not involve other aspects.

Tip 3: Don’t talk about everything

Some people haven't found a partner yet because they can't find anyone with whom they have a common topic. In fact, it doesn't matter whether two people can find a common topic when they are together. What matters is that two people are happy together. Talking about everything will only make your differences bigger. No one will completely agree with your ideas, and you will not fully accept other people's opinions. When it comes to areas of disagreement, it is best to stop talking. This is The smartest choice.

Tip 4: Don’t tell the truth in everything

Although it is said that two people should be honest with each other when they are together, it is better not to talk about something if it will hurt the other person. Not being dishonest, just not wanting to hurt, and being careful about what you say when you have to say it. Understand what you say will make the other person unhappy, and what you say will make the other person happy. Many times, when facing him or her, we don't need to tell the truth. Because even if they get married, each other should have private space.