A second-year junior high school girl named "Sese Autumn Wind Rises" posted a post on a forum in Foshan soliciting candidates for "cohabitation and marriage", which aroused heated discussion among netizens. When the reporter got in touch with the middle school student through the contact information she left, she said that online cohabitation and marriage were very common among classmates, and she was just doing it for fun.

The reporter learned from the investigation that "online marriage" is not uncommon among middle school students. The phenomenon of 12-year-old girls already "getting married and having children" and 15-year-old boys already being "the father of their children" is also common among middle school students. More popular.

Parents are worried about this, worrying that their children will be addicted to the "pleasure" of online marriage and unable to extricate themselves; psychological experts also said that middle school students who are not yet mentally sound and experience adult life early will have a negative impact on their future growth. There will be adverse effects, and virtual "online marriage" will cause harm to students.

The little girl "built a nest" online to recruit "cohabitants"

Recently, the reporter got in touch with her based on the contact information left in the forum. The girl calls herself "Xiao Li". She is 14 years old and is a second-year student in a middle school in Foshan. She told reporters that she had recently registered a personal space in some online forums and "bought a house, pets and gardens" there. I choose to recruit "husbands" online because I want to find like-minded friends to chat with and live online. Xiaoli also showed reporters her "online suite." The reporter found that there were various furniture in the room, and there were several pet dogs walking around the house. There was also a large garden outside the house, which made it feel like home.

Xiao Li also told reporters that she is already behind the times and has not yet been "married". Some of her classmates have already been "married" online, and some are already "mothers of their children." . "If you find someone to 'live' with, you can buy more furniture, and you can also buy a shepherd dog to guard the house." Xiaoli is full of expectations for her "post-marriage" life. The reporter later verified through voice chat and other methods that "Sese Qiufengqi" was indeed a girl, and her voice sounded like a middle school student.

Student: “Online marriage” is just for fun

“It’s just for fun, to spend empty time, no need to take it too seriously. It’s like playing house when you were a kid, who would take it seriously? What?" Xingzi, who is in his second year of high school, said with a smile. Xingzi formed an alliance with a female player while playing a game a year ago, and they fought until the end. Later, the two became a "couple" online.

What is different from Xingzai’s view is that many middle school students take their “online lovers” very seriously. A middle school student who did not want to be named told reporters that he chatted with his "husband" online for a long time every day. The two sides talked to each other and managed their houses and gardens online. At present, she has exchanged photos with her "husband" online. Both parties feel good about each other and do not rule out the possibility of becoming a lifelong partner in the future.

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Parents: How can marriage be a child’s play?

Many parents are worried about this, worrying that their children will be trapped in it due to poor self-control ability; some parents are worried that their children will not be able to withdraw from the online virtual space and really meet and live together with their "other half" online. It's broken.

Ms. Wang, whose daughter is in the first grade of high school, said that teenage students are in adolescence and may have a vague sense of mystery about married life. How can parents not be worried if their children are "looking for a husband" online without knowing it? When she learned that in online marriages, not only could you divorce at any time, but you could also marry multiple times, Ms. Wang was even more worried: "How can marriage be a child's play? Isn't this endangering children?"

Don't let the Internet "Marriage" harms middle school students

Professor Wang Ning from the Department of Sociology at Sun Yat-sen University: The role of middle school students as "adults" should attract the attention of parents and schools. This is largely related to the current social environment. The online community provides students with a comprehensive and realistic marriage life, allowing them to experience adult life.

Professor Wang said that responsibility is an important factor in maintaining marriage, but in "online marriage", people can get married and divorce at will, which can easily cause middle school students to have a biased understanding of marriage. They are easily addicted to online marriages, cannot distinguish between the virtual world of the Internet and reality, and neglect their studies. Once the "marriage" fails, it will also bring psychological trauma to them. "Don't let online marriage endanger students."

Psychologists: Don’t treat this as a scourge

Hu Shenzhi, a senior psychologist at Guangdong Sunflower Psychological Counseling Center: "Online marriage" is popular among middle school students. Parents should only provide guidance and not violent intervention. Students in adolescence are rebellious and long for independence. They also long to experience adult life.

However, their lack of experience in the world often makes them unable to distinguish between virtual networks and reality. Schools and parents should educate students on relevant marriage knowledge, and there is no need to regard children's "online marriage" as a scourge.

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