With the continuous improvement of social openness, "old husband and young wife" or "old wife and young husband" are becoming more and more common. Although love has no age limit, sex sometimes encounters difficulties due to the huge age difference. Generally speaking, if the age difference between the two parties is more than 15 years, sexual disharmony may occur. Therefore, "young and old" couples should master some knowledge and skills in sexual life, so as to eliminate misunderstandings and fully enjoy the benefits of sexual intercourse.

How to live harmoniously as a married couple?

Couples with age disparities may face two major difficulties. First, there is a big difference in sexual desire. The younger party generally has stronger sexual desire, requires more frequency and intensity of sexual life, and is more likely to enter the state as early as possible during sexual life. The older partner may have less strong sexual needs due to reduced sex hormones and cannot satisfy the other partner's needs every time. At the same time, the older partner is slower to enter the state and the reaction is not so fast. Second, during sex, the older partner's heart rate is likely to rise rapidly, which leads to sympathetic nerve excitement, vasoconstriction and blood pressure increase, which is harmful to health. In extreme cases, blood vessels may even rupture, leading to sudden death.

In response to the above problems, first of all, couples with a huge age gap should increase foreplay time and stimulation, care more, and communicate more. This can increase the interest between the couple on the one hand, and on the other hand, it can help the older spouse to speed up as soon as possible. Into the role. If the man is older, caressing, kissing, etc. can help the erection become more complete and reach a certain hardness. If the woman is older, foreplay can help improve vaginal dryness and increase lubrication.

Secondly, choose the appropriate posture. If the man is older, the woman can be on top, which can reduce the man's excessive physical exertion. If the woman is older, it is recommended to use the side-lying position to increase the woman’s pleasure.

In addition, do not place too much emphasis on physical satisfaction during sex. Husband and wife should have more sexual and psychological communication and whisper affectionate words to obtain psychological satisfaction.

Finally, before having sex, if the older partner has underlying diseases, such as high blood pressure, he or she should control the underlying conditions before having sex, and avoid being too excited and tired during sex.

It is worth reminding that although sexual activity is largely affected by age, age is not the only condition for sexual harmony. As long as the sexual psychology and physiological characteristics between husband and wife are mastered and they cooperate closely, even a huge age difference is not necessarily the case. Sexual disharmony can occur. At the same time, whether the sexual life is satisfactory or not is also closely related to the relationship between husband and wife.

What is the happiest age difference between couples?

Recently, a survey conducted by European scientists showed that age is a key factor affecting the stability of marriage. Dr. Emmanuel Franier of the University of Bath in the UK conducted a follow-up survey of 1,534 couples. The results showed that the best couple model that can maintain a strong marriage is when both men and women are highly educated and have no history of divorce. At the same time, The man is more than 5 years older than the woman. Researchers say that the age group least prone to conflict is the age group where wives are more than five years younger than their husbands, and their divorce rate is 1/6 that of other marriages.

In addition, a study by the University of Vienna found that if a husband is 4-6 years older than his wife, he will have the most children; and if a husband is 15 years older than his wife, he will have the happiest married life although he will not have many children.

Wang Guorong, a well-known domestic marriage and love therapy expert, agrees with this. Wang Guorong said that the three major happiness points of this type of marriage have become the pillars of family stability. The first point of happiness is to satisfy women's "Trinity" wishes. Usually, women dream of a Prince Charming who combines the maturity of a father, the care of an elder brother, and the vitality of a friend. The husband is older, more psychologically mature, and more comfortable giving love.

The second happiness point is that older husbands usually have a certain financial foundation, which reduces the chance of financial disputes. The third happiness point is that there is less competition in the family. When the husband is older, women will naturally develop a sense of dependence and obedience, which will reduce the competition for power between husband and wife, and thus reduce friction.

If we talk about the disadvantages of this type of marriage, Zheng Xifu, a psychology professor at South China Normal University, believes that generally speaking, the average life span of men is inherently shorter than that of women. If the husband is much older than his wife, then he may eventually become the husband. He passed away, leaving his wife alone.