When it comes to extramarital affairs, people often confuse the two concepts. Cheating may be having sex with others in a room outside, or it may be just for a man or a woman to satisfy their desires temporarily or for other reasons. As for extramarital affairs, although the man and woman may have reached the point of being inseparable, they may not have had sex. Of course, whether a man and a woman in an extramarital affair are sincere or fake can actually be found out from their usual speech and behavior.

As long as you are sincere to the other person, I can do anything for you

This sentence comes from the lover's mouth, and it has several meanings. First, you are not sincere enough to me, and I am not satisfied with what you have given. Second, it makes no sense for you to demand my emotions, because you yourself are not sincere. Third, the premise for me to give is that you must give sincerely. But usually some lovers, when hearing the other person's words, will think that it is a commitment to him. As long as he is sincere, the other person will also be sincere to him, or even marry him after divorce. In the end, I discovered that this sentence can be advanced or retreated. That is to ask you to pay more, and then use this to prevaricate you at the critical moment: Because you are not completely sincere, then don't blame me for retreating. The ambiguous feeling when the lover said this sentence, and the strong contrast with the cold ending, will make people feel that extramarital affairs are a sharp sword that can hurt people.

There is no need to talk about money between us, the most important thing between two people is love

There is a particularly interesting phenomenon and a pattern. When someone encounters a problem, he or she will tell you that it is not a matter of money. Nine times out of ten, it is a matter of money. To draw inferences from one example, your lover will talk to you about emotional issues, not money issues. Often it doesn't mean that I have to pay more emotion to you, and don't be stingy with money in front of you. The other party's intention is most likely to get you to be emotional towards her and to treat money like dirt when you spend money on her. The kind of people who really care about emotions and don't care about money will never use such words to enlighten you. Instead, they will say less about what they do, or don't talk about what they do.

I didn't expect you to be such a selfish person, I'm desperate for you

People who blame the other party for being selfish often have their own selfish desires and are not satisfied. Between lovers, the questioning of selfishness and anti-selfishness is often about selfishness. However, truly emotional lovers often regard giving as happiness and think more about each other. This situation is common in happy marriages. But it is very difficult to do this between lovers outside of marriage. Because people who have extramarital affairs often have psychological barriers to giving, and do not regard their lover as a real life-long support, so they have to weigh more in giving. In addition, the impurity of emotion makes the contribution more limited. If it is not to please the other party, or in accordance with the principle of giving first before taking, not many lovers will give selflessly in extramarital affairs. Limited dedication is often the key to conflicts between lovers. Because lovers sometimes come here for benefits, which aggravates the psychological weighing of giving and receiving. This kind of profit and loss is often linked to whether there is emotion or not, which makes the love in extramarital affairs become fishing bait and makes extramarital affairs a shameful behavior.

I’ve given you everything I can give you, what else do you want?

Anger between lovers outside marriage is a common behavior. For example, the problem of jealousy is that even if you don't really love the other person, you will often get jealous when the other person shows intimacy to other members of the opposite sex. Why? First, because the relationship between extramarital lovers is a kind of cheating in itself, and they are extremely sensitive to cheating again. Second, because of possessiveness, one feels that one's privileges have been usurped, so one becomes angry. In an extramarital affair, one party who does not truly love and does not really want to marry the other party will often not directly express, say I love you, or promise to marry the other party. On the one hand, they are afraid that such promises and confessions will make them feel uncomfortable. I had no way out and told the truth, but I was afraid that the conflict would intensify immediately and bring negative consequences to myself. Therefore, we often take the middle road and use ambiguous words or substitute words to cause the other party to misunderstand and seek psychological balance. Through communicating with many counselors, I found that many people who were deceived attributed their final breakup to some objective reasons. In fact, this is the effect caused by the lover's cunning. At the critical moment, he will not drop the topic or intensify the conflict, and then look for opportunities to make you have nothing to say and would rather quit automatically.

I really want to go with you and leave this suffocating environment

At the beginning of an extramarital affair, this sentence can easily capture the other person's heart. When the relationship between lovers reaches a certain level, saying this sentence often makes the lovers experience warmth and romance. But there is a hint of some special meaning hidden in this sentence. That is to say, there is actually no way out for our emotions. If we want to be together for a long time or really get together, that is just too romantic an idea and is unrealistic. Because lovers struggle to survive in darkness and cracks, and have no place to stand in a bright world, and are afraid of the cruelty of reality, they have this overly romantic vision and perception. If you are a rational person, you will not be tempted by extramarital affairs. Only those who are restless and irrational will fall into extramarital affairs, and finally return to normal life with wounds all over your body, or stay in pain. Or never come back from the reality of destruction.