In recent years, we have given marriages different names, such as golden wedding, silver wedding, bronze wedding, etc., but what is marriage? Only those who have experienced it will understand that it is a simple and unpretentious ballad. There are multiple parts, sometimes treble, sometimes bass, and sometimes harmony.

I once heard a story told by a colleague. In the community where she lived, there was a couple who were nearly seventy years old. The old man was simple, honest, and upright. The old woman had been in the city for a few years, but she still maintained the hard-working, kind-hearted, and honest attitude of rural women. The traditional virtue of being independent from the world and enjoying oneself. The children's family is harmonious, they are filial and considerate, and the old couple leads a comfortable and comfortable old age life. However, something unexpected happened. One day four years ago, the old man suddenly suffered a stroke and was paralyzed. From then on, he was unable to take care of himself.

Although the illiterate old lady did not know the love poem that has been passed down through the ages, such as "Holding your hand and growing old together with your son," she used practical actions to interpret the profound connotation of this poem in the following more than 1,400 days and nights.

What is marriage? Different people will give different answers. In my opinion, no matter how thrilling you are when you meet, no matter how romantic you are when you fall in love, no matter how extravagant your wedding is, when everything fades away, shopping for food, cooking, washing and washing dishes, every day A marriage that stays together will eventually be precipitated by life into a cup of ordinary water and an ordinary flower.

In such a simple marriage, both parties gradually stop praising each other, which may be followed by bickering, anger, or even complaints. In fact, this is not a lack of love, it is not that love has disappeared, but the years of silently staying together from black hair to gray hair have long bonded each other into a whole. No one can lose the other. Even when disaster strikes, love can only It will turn into a complaint like "Where are you running? I'm looking for you everywhere."

I remember reading the marriage story of the Czech novelist Hrabal in a book. The story said that the master’s wife was an ordinary woman who did not appreciate her husband’s novels. There were many gaps between the couple, but their marriage was extremely stable, regardless of poverty. Even though they were down and out, they were still prosperous and the couple never left each other. Even when the master became famous all over the world, he still maintained a deep love and attachment to his wife. He wrote in a love letter to his wife: "...Now that you are not with me, I am completely alone...I bought A "Prague Evening News", but there is no news about your departure... When I look at people, they can't see from my face that my lover has gone away... I am miserable without you, But that’s okay, now when you are getting farther and farther away from me, I know better who you are and what you mean to me.”

The inspiration that the Hrabal couple gave people on marriage is actually very simple if you look into it, that is simplicity. No matter how beautiful love is, it will become simple in the end and return to the true nature of life. I often hear people say that marriage is the grave of love. I often think that good love should be hidden in marriage. The kind of love that fails when it comes to marriage is probably not true love.

Some magazines today almost all teach people how to fight to defend their marriage. Many people follow them, but there seem to be very few winners. The reason is not that they fail to understand these "treasures", but that they do not understand that the best marriages are actually contained in simplicity. The writer Sanmao said: "If love is not implemented in real life such as dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, it will not last forever." In the world of marriage, if you love fragrant roses, there is nothing in itself. Wrong, but maybe, only if you fall in love with the greasy apron and the window cleaning rag at the same time, and know the location of the market, can you enter another realm of love unknowingly. Sometimes, a dewy rose may not be as powerful as an inconspicuous apron. Although the apron is stained with oil, it contains more mellow emotions after abandoning romantic glitz.

Simplicity is not sloppy, let alone gloomy. Those ordinary couples, those partners who share weal and woe, and those noisy enemies can hold each other together despite the wind and rain along the way. Those simple love still bloom charming flowers.

This is how smart women keep their marriages

Women have an unyielding stubbornness in their bones. If, by chance, something becomes a knot in a woman's heart, then this stubbornness is like a poisonous snake. It may come out of its hole at any time, bite itself and the man, and may even destroy the marriage. Devour. Women must learn to be smart women, understand men's advances and retreats, and also know how to prepare a way for themselves to retreat. To grasp a man is not just to grab his stomach, but more importantly, to make this man willingly pay for your money and care for you. . Smart women know not to do the following actions:

1. Spending money lavishly and not knowing how to manage family income and expenses.

Whether you are a man or a woman, if there is a person in a family who is extravagant, there may be a day when life forces you to do so. If a man spends a lot of money, a family may feel a sense of crisis. If a woman is extravagant, no matter how much money or ability a man has, it will not be enough for her. Even if she finds a diamond king, it may not be enough to defeat her.

A woman with quality can clearly understand the value of money spent. In addition to spending money, she can also turn one dollar into two dollars and save it on the card. Such a woman will definitely be able to prosper.

2. Do not support a man’s social interactions, or even destroy his social circle.

Men need pride, face, and a sense of accomplishment. If a woman does not support his social interactions, it is tantamount to directly confining him. Over time, his circle will continue to shrink. He may lose not only his friends, but also opportunities. Communication also includes the opposite sex. If a woman cannot let go in this regard, she is asking for trouble.

Men need friends of the opposite sex and same sex. The more friends they have, the more career opportunities they will have. Restricting his social circle may very well cut off his path to wealth. If you love him, let him go, let him fight for you, and let him live a life with a sense of accomplishment.

3. Reveal a man’s privacy in front of his friends and damage his face.

A man's face is more important than the credit card in his pocket. A man can give you a credit card, but he will never allow you to make irresponsible remarks behind your back. A woman who likes to reveal his secrets in front of friends, colleagues or family is a woman who will not please a man. Sometimes what a man needs is not only a virtuous wife, but also a wife who is considerate and can keep secrets.

Women who harm a man's face outside are actually slapping themselves in the face, and at the same time damaging the man's image value in the minds of others.

4. Unable to be independent and longing for a man to be by his side all day long.

An independent woman is full of charm, but if a woman is not independent, it will be very scary. Men like independent women because independent women know how to enjoy life and enrich themselves.

Women who are not independent in their thinking often nag in front of men, which is likely to lead to conflicts. As time goes by, men no longer have the heart to work hard. A man who only sticks to women will have immediate worries. If you want lots and lots of love, then stay away from him and he will come to you with more love and care.

5. Don’t trust him and be suspicious

Women are naturally much more sensitive to love, and the slightest disturbance may cause her to become emotional. If a man comes back late, she wants to ask. If a man drinks, she wants to ask clearly. Even if a man goes out to have a meal, she also wants to ask if the person eating with him is a boy or a girl.

Long-term suspicion can only make a man collapse. What else can he think about living a good life with you and planning a future together? If you love Him, just choose to believe in Him.

6. Be a man’s boss. If you call him, he will come. If you wave him, he will go.

Housework requires two people to shoulder the responsibility together. For any one party to take full responsibility for housework is a practice that affects family harmony. A smart woman knows how to assign tasks and call him on when she is doing housework. It's definitely not like sitting there watching TV and eating melon seeds, and telling my man to pour tea.

When a woman nurtures a clerk at home, he is likely to be just a clerk outside. Don't dampen his enthusiasm in life. Let him live a positive life, which is more useful than picking up a cornucopia.