Are you addicted to popular romantic dramas? If the answer is yes, you need to be wary of your relationship with your partner. A new study published in the US "Science Daily" said that the more one or both partners like to watch romantic dramas, the less loyal they will be to their partner.

Elbio College in the United States conducted a survey of 390 couples, focusing on issues such as satisfaction with their current love relationship, mutual loyalty, recognition of romantic relationships in TV series, and frequency of watching TV series. It was found that people who believe in the unrealistic romance in love dramas will be less loyal to their partners. At the same time, they will think that other members of the opposite sex are more attractive and start to be picky, causing a sharp decline in the relationship between the couple.

Dr. Jeremy Osborne, the author of the research report, said: "When people are obsessed with 'one-night stands' and 'romantic encounters' in TV dramas, their sense of responsibility for marriage will be challenged." Therefore, people's interest in romantic dramas We must have a correct understanding and do not let the plot of the drama constrain real life.

5 things that can damage a couple’s relationship

1. Belittle the other person and compare with outsiders

Recall, is this familiar to you? "You are a loser", "You are so useless", "You are really worthless", "Are you still a man?" "You are not as good as my ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, so-and-so..." and so on. Remember, you can argue, but there are rules. When you belittle the other person, you do not elevate yourself. It only proves that you are the same kind. There is a third party in the war between two people, which triggers the fuse. There is no sand in the eye of the beholder. Comparing people with others will lead to death, and comparing goods with goods will lead to throwing away. If you are not a sapper, don't plant or dig mines. Unless you want to explode.

2. Reveal each other’s shortcomings and tear each other apart

The so-called hitting someone is not a slap in the face, scolding someone is not a fault, these are the rules of the quarrel game. When they quarrel and can't reason out, they want to take advantage of each other, settle old scores, and frustrate each other. Therefore, the couple starts to retaliate, expose each other's shortcomings, and tear each other's skin. You are my dearest person, so you have to endure it for no reason. But you know what? The word "forbearance" means a knife on the head. Under the knife, it is the person closest to you who is injured. It is enough to ruin the relationship and turn love into hatred. This kind of pain is heartbreaking, the most destructive, and difficult to repair. Regardless of the quarrel, there are boundaries. Crossing the line can hurt feelings. If you want to have a good life, don't hurt your feelings, and don't expose your shortcomings. If the mirror is broken, even if it is reunited, there will be cracks. There will also be shadows in the photo.

3. Threatening to break up or divorce

"Can we live together, can we live together? If we can't live together, we will divorce!" This sentence is the missile that leads to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife, and it is the most lethal. If you don't want to break up or divorce, and you use this as a blackmail, thinking that you can calm the other person, then you are totally wrong. There are two results waiting for you: one is that the other party divorces in anger, huh, just leave, who is afraid of whom? The second is that the other party is temporarily restrained, but is actually operating in secret. Test the other person and threaten to break up. Over time, it will be like the story of "The Wolf Cried Wolf". If you often give such hints, the other person will subconsciously make plans to break up. If you are short on action, don't do this. This move is a dead move, and there is still room for maneuver in other quarrels. This time, it forces the other party into a dead end, and a slip of the tongue can lead to eternal hatred.

4. Silent cold war and use cold violence

Well, since everything I say is wrong, I won’t fight against you to the death at the head office, right? Don’t they all say silence is golden? Simply, I choose silence. really? They say that speaking harshly to someone is cruel, so how can it be considered cruel to have feelings slowly drained away during the Cold War? One kind of violence is domestic violence, which is direct physical destruction. There is another kind of violence, which is cold violence, but it is a double torture of the body and mind. The Cold War, invisibly, establishes an insurmountable wall between husband and wife. If it does not break out in the Cold War, it will die in the Cold War. If you are not afraid of death, are you still afraid of living? Deadlock, conflicts have really entangled you to the point where you are helpless and can only let it go? If you are willing to suffer in the grave, continue to let your emotions cool down until the day they become completely rigid.

5. Don’t show mercy when you are right and force the other party into a desperate situation

"Oh, it's all over if you're wrong? What did you do..." Well, he started to criticize again, and he was unforgiving at the last moment and refused to let the other party step down. This is a common problem in couples quarreling. Sadly, all previous efforts fell short. Sigh, suffocated. Calling it quits is a red flag for a quarrel and is a wise move. No matter who is right or wrong, compromise will be blamed? The person who takes a step back has a brighter future, and the person who receives the benefit should end it with a gong and a slap in the face, instead of being reluctant and leading to a silent ending. This is a good way to maintain an intimate relationship. Arguments between spouses are commonplace, the problem is not to get deeper into the conflict. After a quarrel, both parties should proactively seek ways to make amends to prevent resentment from arising. Resentment is often the beginning of a rift in a relationship. In a quarrel, it is best for one party to use humor to resolve the tense atmosphere, rather than exaggerating the conflict and forcing the other party into a desperate situation. If you really break up and get divorced, are you really happy?

To consolidate the relationship between husband and wife, efforts should be made in five aspects

1. Remind your husband of special anniversaries

Socrates said that men live by forgetfulness, and women live by remembering. Men usually forget about trivial matters, which causes women to be dissatisfied. Indeed, what men forget may be exactly what women care about. You see, the wedding anniversary is the most important day for you and me, how could we forget it? Why didn't you forget my birthday before we got married? Do you no longer know how to cherish me after getting married, or do you no longer have me in your eyes? At this time, women are very rich in association and often quarrel with men because of this, which really gives men a headache. Past experience guide for the future. The man is very strange, isn't there anything more important to do than remember these little things? Do people who do great things often have to compulsively remember certain anniversaries, brands of women’s underwear, names of women’s idols, affairs of the woman’s natal family, and what else is broken? Men are the same as women, are they still men?

Woman, if you know that he is forgetful, don’t get sulky, but remind your husband that today is a special day. Is it better to turn accusations into reminders? Instead of accusing the other person of being insincere, just say how much you hope they remember this important day. Expressing your inner needs is to let the other party know you and understand you, and to arouse emotional resonance, rather than forcing the other party to submit, turning disappointment into an attack, and creating a gap. Try saying: Honey, how would you like to express my birthday today? Or, hubby, it’s my birthday today, should I treat you to it? This is better than complaining that he forgot about you. Even if he really forgets, he will compensate you next time. And your groundless accusations will only make things worse. He will feel that he is wronged. I am so busy working for this family every day, why should I remember everything? Men don't live for trivial matters. Damn, you don’t even have another chance, and the two of you are still in a big red face. Not only do you not get the care and birthday blessings from your husband, but you also get angry. Which one is more cost-effective?

2. I want to have sex too

Women, you must ask for something. He can take the initiative, why can't you? Between husband and wife, making love is not a shameful thing. Sex is the bond that maintains the relationship between two people and can enhance mutual intimacy. Influenced by traditional ethics, sorry? You can give me a password. In the past, sending chicken letters would bring down the message tree. Some people would wait and see. It is normal for women to give personality hints between the bed and the floor. Besides, men are self-taught in this area and have a good sense of smell. In fact, in bed, men are more eager for women to take the initiative. This is why they like to find young ladies to stimulate them, but don't like the reserve of yellow-faced women. In their eyes, since you are mine in life and my ghost in death, and your body has been given to me, you can just talk if you want, why are you pretending to be a virgin? Men also like women's teasing, and they need to rely on women's needs to strengthen their masculinity. This kind of nourishment is more effective than the American drug and can last a lifetime. If you don't say anything or don't send a secret signal, they will easily misunderstand, even be hit, and feel frustrated over time. If he fails, does it prove that you are successful?

At some point, women also need it, but due to their nature, they don’t speak out. Women use hints that men don't understand, which is the most irritating thing for men. They will vent their dissatisfaction by throwing and beating them, finding faults, and complaining about other things. When a woman is ambiguous, a man is tired, so don't force him, but he must not hurt the woman's self-esteem. You can use a delaying tactic. If a woman finally takes the initiative once, you can't let her get off the stage. Male compatriots always feel that it is slow for women to enter the state. In fact, it is not difficult to mobilize women's sexual desire. They need emotional comfort, mood, lighting, sound effects, and even just a bouquet of roses to give their heart to you. What women want is the feeling of being cared for and a warm atmosphere. Even if there is no sexual hug, it will activate the emotion and create a sexy feeling. Therefore, some people say that to subdue a man, you may rely on your fists, but to capture a woman, you must use some thought.

3. Honey, I like to do this

A. The feeling on the bed told him.

Before you enjoy foreplay, massage, etc., don't be stingy with your language. Men love to communicate. They don't like to talk to their wives about official business, national affairs, politics and military matters, but they like to flirt with women, and the bed is the place where they can relax the most. At this time, women should be open and lively. The person you love the most is relaxed, why should you still be tense? You can say it if you feel uncomfortable. Men are usually very obedient in bed. As long as you don't hurt their self-esteem, they will accept it.

B. Don’t leave me alone after you’re done.

After sex, he fell asleep soundly, which made women most angry. Because of this, people feel that they are a tool for men to vent, and they feel like they have been cheated. You only want to be happy for yourself, that's too selfish. Look, only when the tool is used up will it be ignored and left alone, right? For a woman, it is very happy to be able to chat with her husband later. However, men are different from women. They speak directly, do things directly, and go to bed more directly. Otherwise, how could they dilate their pupils, become obscene and get to the point when they see a beautiful woman? But, men can take direct action, but we can’t speak out? You remind him now, lest you secretly get angry and he doesn't understand, is he wronged? Tell him directly, I like you to chat with me after you are done, or sleep with me in your arms, okay? Or threaten him a little, if you leave me alone after you're done with me, there won't be a second time. Do you think he's nervous? Ha ha. Men are very obedient in bed, like well-behaved children. He used you, why don't you use him? (Laughs) Friendly reminder, after the thing is done, man, no matter how tired you are, you have to stand up and prepare for the next impact for no other reason.

C. I am inconvenient today.

Women are easily affected by emotions and physiology, and their desires are like the sun, rising and setting. Men and women have sexual jet lag, which makes it difficult to synchronize: men have an erection in the morning, but women don’t feel it; men have an erection at noon, but women have no time; men have erection in the afternoon, but women are thinking about dinner in the evening; men want to hug each other before 10 p.m., but women want to watch Korea. Mojiju also doesn’t like sleeping with her husband. After 10 o'clock, the woman's desire finally came, but the man fell asleep, and the day passed in vain. Haha, if I were a man, I would be depressed too. My dear, I am not so rude. I would just wait for the flowers and thank you. So, woman, if you don’t want to or are physically inconvenient, just say it tactfully. Otherwise, how would he know your little thoughts?

4. Husband, can we do it together?

This is not just about exercising in bed, but also about feeling under the bed. We can do sex together, why not housework? You help me, I am very happy. Love is one person's fault, two people's fault. If you take over all the responsibilities and end up being a resentful woman, no one will pity you. A family is for two people, so why should resources be idle? Why do some men like seductive women? They may not be good-looking, and they may not do everything personally, but their mouths are very sweet and they can coax men into turning around. They may not do anything, but when the men gnaw their heads on the ground, they think Marshal Tianpeng is still alive and the land guy is helping. It would be bad if your husband treats you like a mother, because only mother has full authority at home. Love is not all family affection, right? Follow this example. If you are tired, don't complain. If your husband is in danger and picks up a woman, don't be as nervous as a cat. You should be good at mobilizing your husband's emotions, developing your sexual magnetic field, and give him two taels of autumn spinach if you have nothing to do. It takes two people to take care of a family, you are not the only one who is being mean.

5. We all have freedom

My dear, I also have secrets and personal freedom. Have you heard this? You are not an open book to your significant other, and you will be exhausted if you admit everything. You are not his storage room, and he is not your trash can to hold your joys, sorrows, joys and shady secrets. We are all adults, there is no need to treat each other as children to challenge our thinking space. Only in this way can you control your own destiny, each has his own track, you have your social life, and I have my life. Not only do I have a family life, I also have a career and my pursuits. Only in this way, you will find that your husband also has a sense of crisis. He no longer thinks that you are the housewife who only knows about her husband and children, but also your own hobbies, such as reading, beauty, leisure, meeting friends, listening to music, having a social circle, and being mysterious. Temptation, such a woman is the most attractive. Not only will this enhance your husband's reputation, but he will also be willing to be with you, which will reduce the possibility of having an affair. When you gain confidence and no longer rely on your husband, you will find that you will no longer ask for anything from him, and you will still live happily.